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Toddler attitude
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Does anyone out there have a similar experience?
our three y/o daughter has been so mean to her dad! It’s been several months of this. I’ve always been the preferred parent being the mom (call it being the default parent if you will), but things have gotten out of hand. She refuses to have him help him in the mornings or more times then no whenever I’m home, yells and screams and says “no daddy, I want mommy”. Among other things. I’ve taken to doing the majority of discipline to shoulder this because it just seems to be breaking my husband down in both spirit and patience. I feel so bad for him. He picks her up from day care once a a week (the one night I work late) and every time it’s a massive tantrum of yelling and hitting and then they get home and apparently she’s fine and super sweet with him, he is going to start picking her up more regularly to try to combat this. She even threw out “I don’t love you daddy”. I don’t even know where that language comes from because it’s definitely not our home. I talked to our daycare lady (she has three teenage girls), but she insists it’s not from there either. In three months we will be welcoming baby girl two, and I’m so nervous that this will get worse.
our three y/o daughter has been so mean to her dad! It’s been several months of this. I’ve always been the preferred parent being the mom (call it being the default parent if you will), but things have gotten out of hand. She refuses to have him help him in the mornings or more times then no whenever I’m home, yells and screams and says “no daddy, I want mommy”. Among other things. I’ve taken to doing the majority of discipline to shoulder this because it just seems to be breaking my husband down in both spirit and patience. I feel so bad for him. He picks her up from day care once a a week (the one night I work late) and every time it’s a massive tantrum of yelling and hitting and then they get home and apparently she’s fine and super sweet with him, he is going to start picking her up more regularly to try to combat this. She even threw out “I don’t love you daddy”. I don’t even know where that language comes from because it’s definitely not our home. I talked to our daycare lady (she has three teenage girls), but she insists it’s not from there either. In three months we will be welcoming baby girl two, and I’m so nervous that this will get worse.
Re: Toddler attitude
Totally normal three-year-old stuff, even though it doesn't feel that way from the inside. Kids that age often go all-in on one parent for a stretch, especially the "safe" one — it's not a real verdict on your husband.
A few quick thoughts:
And genuinely, check in on your husband as your husband. Being rejected by your own kid daily is a real hit to take, even knowing it's a phase. You're clearly looking out for him — that matters a lot. It does get better.