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Discussions for those with previous miscarriages

twinmummygoingforthreetwinmummygoingforthree member
in September 2026 Babies
Trigger warning about pregnancy loss.

I noticed on the introductions discussion that a few others have also had losses, so I thought I'd start a discussion to see if anyone wants to discuss anything around this, without making people who don't wish to read about this topic anxious. Anyone is welcome here though. 

I have had 3 first trimester losses, and this is my 5th pregnancy (1 successful pregnancy in 2016 where I was lucky enough to have twins). I'm really excited about getting a positive pregnancy test, but it's hard to fully accept the idea that there may be a baby in 8 or so months, when I've got such a low hit rate on successful pregnancies. The next 8 weeks until the end of the first trimester is going to absolutely drag!

Will anyone else be having an early scan? My local hospital offers 7-week scans to those that have had more than 3 losses, although I would've got one privately if that wasn't the case because I can't wait 12 weeks to find out if there's a heartbeat etc. 


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Re: Discussions for those with previous miscarriages

  • sbaby2023sbaby2023 member

    Thanks for starting this thread. Pregnancy after loss is so hard. Like you this is also my 5th pregnancy, I had 3 first-trimester miscarriages before I had my son, who is 19 months old. 

    At this point for me, positive pregnancy tests come with more anxiety than hope. I’m trying to stay calm, because I am addressing many of the potential causes of  my previous miscarriages (clearing out 90% of the uterine scaring and taking Lovenox) but it is still scary!

    I actually had a scan done at 5 weeks. I go to an infertility clinic the first few weeks because they did all my surgeries. They did an HCG test when I was 4w1d along and it was >3700. Because the number was so high they wanted to confirm that everything was ok. The baby was measuring a few days ahead and there was a heartbeat (although too light to hear it). I’m happy but more of my losses happened when the baby was measuring 6.5 weeks so I’m still holding my hope a bit. They have scheduled another ultrasound this week too. 

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  • twinmummygoingforthreetwinmummygoingforthree member
    Sorry you're in the same anxious boat as me. It sounds like you have really good support around you in terms of early scans and blood draws. Are you also in the UK? I haven't heard of that level of support where I am, but perhaps it's out there and I'm just unaware of it. I would love to get a blood draw, but I'm not sure whether it would be an option to me, I think I will contact the EPU and ask though. I hope all is well with this week's scan. I'm at the point of taking pregnancy tests every day to check the line gets darker, but realistically I know that doesn't necessarily indicate that all is well. 
    Due Sept 2026
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  • mama_praying_for_her_rainbowmama_praying_for_her_rainbow member
    edited January 15
    So glad you started this thread. This is my 6th pregnancy, 2 successful pregnancies in '17 & '18. 3 back to back miscarriages '22, '22, and '24. I can definitely relate to the taking pregnacy tests consistently. I also just want to make sure my lines don't get lighter. I know for me, its just to ease my anxiety.
    I just had my first prenatal appointment on the 12th, but I won't get a sonogram until Feb 11th!! My Dr. referred me to a high risk Dr., so I am praying that they can see me sooner, and I can get a sooner sonogram to ease my nerves. I lost my babies at 9 weeks, 11 weeks, and 13 weeks, so the wait for just a sonogram is really unraveling.
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  • twinmummygoingforthreetwinmummygoingforthree member
    Hello! Sorry for your losses and I really hope this one sticks for you. I feel exactly the same about trying to make sure the line is getting stronger. Losses at 9, 11 and 13 weeks is hard - all the statistics suggest it's unlikely after hearing a heartbeat at 6/7 weeks. That must have been devastating. Have you managed to get much testing to find out what was causing the losses? 

    I'm waiting for a scan on 3 February, when I should be nearly at 7 weeks. The next one will be 12 weeks, but I think I'll have to book a private one in between as I can't bear to wait 5 weeks in between. The waiting game is torture! I'm almost willing myself to get morning sickness, even though I know how awful that is as I had it from about 6 weeks until my twins were born.
    Due Sept 2026
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  • knottie0c9f4fb9291d7de4knottie0c9f4fb9291d7de4 member
    edited January 17
    I hear you—it’s completely normal to feel both excited and anxious after multiple losses. Waiting for that first trimester can feel endless, especially when each positive test brings hope and fear at the same time. Early scans can help ease some of that https://tropical-casino.com/ worry, so it’s good your hospital offers one at 7 weeks. Many people in your situation choose private scans too, just to have that reassurance sooner. Sharing experiences with others who’ve had similar losses can also be really supportive while you wait.
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  • twinmummygoingforthreetwinmummygoingforthree member
    My early scan got moved forward to when I'll be 6+1. I'm pleased not to have to wait so long, but I'm also anxious that they may no see anything yet so early!
    Due Sept 2026
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  • mama_praying_for_her_rainbowmama_praying_for_her_rainbow member
    That's such a relief! I'll be praying that all goes well. 🙏🏼  They have done extensive blood work, and everything came back normal. So as to why I keep miscarrying is still unknown. I actually just scheduled a sonogram with a private practice next week, so I am anxiously waiting for that as well. So I know your anxiety, the not being able to see anything early on. But I am still rooting for you and baby!! 
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  • twinmummygoingforthreetwinmummygoingforthree member
    Rooting for you too! Hope the scan goes well next week. Let us know, if you feel comfortable doing so. Mine's on Thursday and it can't come soon enough. I had 1 moment of nearly throwing up yesterday, which felt reassuring. I opened the dryer and the strong smell of the clean clothes made me lightheaded and then almost vomit. The nausea went away when I ate something. Aside from that, the only symptoms I've had is weeing loads, slightly sore boobs, a bit of a stretchy heavy feeling in my uterus, especially at night, and poor sleep. 
    Due Sept 2026
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  • twinmummygoingforthreetwinmummygoingforthree member
    I had my scan today and saw a tiny blob with a heart beat. Feeling some relief, as the last two days my symptoms have almost completely disappeared, so I was preparing myself for bad news. Don't feel out the woods by any means, but for today, things look good. 
    Due Sept 2026
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