Weekly check in 1/5/2026

midnightatsunset · January 5

1.) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ:

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ):

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ:

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ:

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ:

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ:

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): I know everyone is in the 3rd tri and has a lot on their plates, but does anyone have goals/resolutions/words of the year/positive intentions?

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ:

midnightatsunset · January 5

1.) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ: 2

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ): March 29 (28+1)

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ: Jan 7th - ultrasound day to check on baby boy's heart and growth

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ: boy

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ: RLP, some cramping if I overdo things. Some vaginal pressure depending in how he's sitting. Baby boy likes to hit me in the cervix so that's fun /s. Otherwise his movements are reassuring - he's very active. The fatigue is also creeping back.

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ: Hubby is also doing his version of nesting which is funny to phrase it that way. We're going to buy a van and had to buy a new nursing chair so he's been going through all our finances to get our ducks in a row to prepare for our bigger purchases and the myriad of smaller ones that are coming up.

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): Last year I set a word of the year and zero goals/resolutions. This year is much the same. I have my word of the year and just "intentions" that are intentionally vague, like be mindful of the voices I allow to speak into my life because not everyone/every word deserves space in my brain. I spent my first postpartum gobbling up waaaaayyyy too much information and it contributed to me feeling like a failure (despite the fact that DS was gaining weight and overall healthy despite his prematurity).

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ: natm

lizdiane456 · January 6

@midnightatsunset oh that's so sweet! I love watching my husband be a dad, it's such a nice feeling

1) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ: 2

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ): March 11, 30+5

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ: today

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ: girl

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ: still the PGP but I've been off work so it's better

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ: the flu has taken me out. It's been 8 days, thankfully was home at my parents' for most of it. My OB sent me to MFM after my appointment today, they are thinking pneumonia. It hurts to breathe and my left arm hurts so, so bad. Like the shoulder joint is being crushed. Still hanging out there, hopefully home soon

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): I know everyone is in the 3rd tri and has a lot on their plates, but does anyone have goals/resolutions/words of the year/positive intentions? I would like to knit more. Nice a vauge so it feels attainable with everything coming up 😂 a sweater would be nice, I've never made one before but that might be a little lofty a goal

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ:

midnightatsunset · January 6

@lizdiane456 oh man what a bummer to feel so ill at this stage! I’m glad you get to recuperate and get taken care of by your parents.

and I’m a big fan of vague goals right now haha. I used to be all about SMART goals and life audits but wow that does not work in this season haha

fifilala516 · January 6

@lizdiane456 oh no!! Hope you get better quickly - that really stinks.

1.) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ: 2

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ): March 16 // 30w1d

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ: 1/19

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ: Girl

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ: Just generally feeling big and uncomfortable.

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ: So it was illness that my daughter shared with me so lovingly. I didn't feel as badly as I did over Thanksgiving but I still have an annoying cough that's making my throat irritated and I sound so hoarse. We were going to have friends over for NYE, but I had to cancel so that was a bummer.

Also, my dad is in the hospital so that's stressing me out. It's serious but he's stable and seems to be under very good care. He's having surgery tomorrow.

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): I guess my intention is to continue being the best wife and mother I can be, and also be more present for my older daughter since her world is going to change.

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ: For those who have 2+ kids, did you worry about their differences in personality/temperament? My daughter is SO good and easy (of course, she has her moments like any almost 4-year old) that I am worried I am going to be thrown for a loop with a difficult second child. The Trisomy X diagnosis also comes with an increased risk of behavioral issues too, so it's been on my mind a lot.

midnightatsunset · January 6

@fifilala516 hope you feel better soon and your dad’s surgery goes well!

thescarletmom · January 7

@fifilala516 all of our children have very distinct personalities. Our first baby was a very mellow kind of guy, he still is. Our second, has always been a high highs and low lows sort, very particular about things. Our third is a tornado of a human being but also so sweet. And the only of our 3 who enjoys sleeping lol. I wouldn't say one of them was harder or easier though, just different! And also I was different - I grew into a lot of confidence in my mothering instincts by my third baby, and learning to trust yourself makes a world of difference. I never had this particular worry before having my second and so on, I think coming from a large family myself it just didn't cross my mind 😂 but if I were to go back in time and say something to myself about it, it would just be to focus on the baby in front of you! If the things that worked with #1 work for #2, great! And if not, you can always always change directions on things. The reality is no matter how many kids you have, you can always be thrown for a loop haha. Doesn't make you a bad mom or your baby a bad baby. Trust your gut and don't be afraid to let go of something that isn't working, and I am confident you'll do great handling two.

RoseShadow873 · January 7

1.) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ: 4

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ): I have lost track of the week. Due March 28!

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ: Next week I think

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ: Girl

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ: belly pain at random, constipation, back pain, waking up throughout the night

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ: found out my husband won't get any paternity leave since we just moved to a new state. It's our fourth baby and he has never got paternity leave for any of them. It sure is going to make my life harder.

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): I know everyone is in the 3rd tri and has a lot on their plates, but does anyone have goals/resolutions/words of the year/positive intentions? I haven't had time to even think about anything like this with the move and all.

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ: N/A

thescarletmom · January 7

1.) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ: 4

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ): March 15, 30w3

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ: tomorrow!

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ: girl

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ: Insomnia, acid reflux, and sporadic contractions. I would say BH except they're actually pretty painful. Biggest symptom though is an insane urge to nest. Like it's taken over my entire brain. I feel like there are a million things to accomplish by the end of February!

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ: I'm pretty sure I lost my mucus plug last week? I know it's not unheard of to lose it early and have it grow back, and my midwife wasn't concerned. But it wigged me out 😂 TMI but it was like a slug?? The size of my entire thumb! I've only ever lost my mucus plug with bloody show during active labor, when you don't have the time or brain space to really analyze it. I have a good friend who also randomly lost her mucus plug super early with her 4th baby last year and then she delivered around 38 wks so I'm wondering if maybe it will be similar for me.

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): I have vibes 😂 my goal for this year is generally to be more mentally present, and that comes with a lot of smaller supporting goals. Like working out a laundry system for a family of 6 that we can stick to/is effective so that is no longer a time/energy drain. Lots of vague goals for family "systems" to keep us on track, instead of feeling like I'm either behind or drowning to keep up. The year of work smarter not harder I suppose.

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ: none

thescarletmom · January 7

@RoseShadow873 ugh I'm sorry to hear that. Even when you aren't expecting a pat leave, it still sucks to not get it. My husband only got 3 days with our 2nd. I hope, even with all the other things going on for you right now, that your husband will be able to find ways to support you and make your days easier even while he's away at work. Did your move bring you closer to family or anyone who can help?

RoseShadow873 · January 7

@thescarletmom That sounds like our 2nd too, he was in medical school so we just had the weekend and he was back in class! I'm better off than in Hawaii where I knew no one, but I think everyone around has a lot on their plates already and I can't ask for help. My mom is 5 hours away and I'm sure she will come up for a few days but she has got really into her dogs and can't leave them for long. It's weird!

midnightatsunset · January 8

@RoseShadow873 that sounds so rough. I’m sorry you can’t get more support. Hopefully even the people in your life who are busy can step in here and there.

Quick update on my ultrasounds - everything came back looking normal! The pediatric cardiologist even said he looked at the original scan and said he had trouble seeing what they called a small hole. He of course, did the medical due diligence thing and said it’s always possible things will get missed but that he studied the scans really closely (and even scanned in real-time with the tech afterwards) to make extra sure. So yay! I can plan to birth at my preferred hospital and on the same timeline!!

thescarletmom · January 8

@RoseShadow873 I completely understand. We're actually very close to lots of our family, all in the same city, but I wouldn't really feel comfortable having anybody here truly help/be in the house all day with me to replace the support of a spouse, if that makes sense? My mom just had an accident Tuesday and had to have surgery on her shoulder so I'm not even convinced she'll be well enough physically to be able to help 8 weeks from now. For my first 3 kids, my bestie wasn't a mom yet, so there's a chance she's someone I'd actually be comfortable leaning on this time, but her baby will only be 6 months old when I deliver so it would be asking a lot of her. It's all hard!

@midnightatsunset I'm so happy to hear your good news!! Both that baby is healthy and you can move forward with the birth you were anticipating ❤️ when we found out our scare with our last baby was just a false alarm, I remember how astounding the relief was! Thinking of you, I know even when you get the best possible news there's still a lot to process/debrief from the what ifs.

blossomingmama · January 8

1.) ʙᴀʙʏ ɴᴜᴍʙᴇʀ: 2

2.) ᴅᴜᴇ ᴅᴀᴛᴇ (ᴡᴇᴇᴋꜱ+ᴅᴀʏꜱ): 30w4d, 3/14

3.) ɴᴇxᴛ ᴀᴘᴘᴏɪɴᴛᴍᴇɴᴛ: Went to make it to my appt and left an hour early before my time. I got stuck in traffic and my normal 30 minute drive said it would take 2h20m on my gps. Needless to say when I called the office the receptionist told me OB would likely not see me even though I was willing to make that long drive, and wait in traffic. She cancelled my appointment, I was like "okay, as long as you know I'm in my third tri...." lol. Anyway, next one is the 19th.

4.) ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ: Boy

5.) ꜱʏᴍᴘᴛᴏᴍꜱ: Needing a belt everyday, Braxton hicks contractions (they hurt), HB, trouble sleeping, harder kicks, constantly peeing, sore breasts.

6.) ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ ᴇxᴄɪᴛɪɴɢ/ᴀɴɴᴏʏɪɴɢ: I moped the floor this week and was setting my toddler on the couch so he didn't slip, and I almost slipped, caught us both, had groin pain for 3 days, barely could walk. Exciting- I did start my new job and that's been fun getting back into the workforce after being a SAHM. Just funny I'm going to be delivering in 9w or so, good thing I'm per diem.

7.) ɢᴛᴋʏ (ꜱʜᴀʀᴇ ᴀɴʏᴛʜɪɴɢ): I know everyone is in the 3rd tri and has a lot on their plates, but does anyone have goals/resolutions/words of the year/positive intentions? I'm glad I secured employment, happy to be planning a move to a better quality of life, and just staying positive financially speaking so we can make this overseas move back closer to home and the house hunting works out..etc. I'm not the only one who started a new job, my husband did too; and he's also watching our toddler while I go work during the day. So we're both just kind of seeing how to manage these schedules. Husband has been wanting to build our new home but I'm not 100% convinced just yet, also debating selling or renting our current home.

8.) Qᴜᴇꜱᴛɪᴏɴꜱ: Who is getting an epidural? 😆

thescarletmom · January 8

@blossomingmama good luck!! My DH took a seasonal PT job over the holidays for extra Christmas money/to get out of the house after 5 years of SAHPing. Wishing you well with all these big changes as a step in the right direction for you 🫶

I am not an epidural girl. Even with my one hospital birth I didn't opt for one, but it's obviously not an option for homebirths lol. I have had precipitous labors (meaning extremely fast, depending on who you ask 3-5 hours or less for the whole thing, my labors were 5, 3, and 2.5 hrs very first contraction to baby in arms), so I wouldn't have any time for one unfortunately even if me and needles agreed with each other! As with anything in birth, this is my personal preference and I think mom should always choose what is best for her.

RoseShadow873 · January 8

@blossomingmama I have had the epidural 3/3 so far, I never really had that bad of pain before I chickened out and got it, because I was afraid of it becoming too late to get it. I don't know how much I need to worry about the running out of time thing though.... They overdid it last time and I think that might be part of why I couldn't push my baby out so I'm wondering about trying to not get it this time but I'm scared of pain!

fifilala516 · January 8

@thescarletmom Tips for going unmedicated? I am not a good candidate for an epidural due to prior back surgery - something I found out while in labor with my first, and I opted for an IV drip with pain meds. I did not love the experience so I would like to skip that this time. My OB mentioned that nitrous oxide could be good for me but I don't love the idea of that either.

thescarletmom · January 8

@fifilala516 definitely! I think the most important aspect truly is mental preparation, and a lesson in know thyself. Distraction, like birthing combs, etc are tools that are great! But I am personally not someone that is easily distracted, so they're not something I utilize. For me, breathing techniques that kept my body from tensing through my contractions was probably one of the biggest things. Practicing releasing tension in your forehead, jaw, etc through BH contractions before labor! I also know the environment was important for me to be able to focus - my husband applied counter pressure to my back and hips (I had back labors so that's where my pain was), but otherwise I really wanted to be left alone 😂 low lights, no talking or touching unless necessary. It sounds silly, but having mantras about how each contraction brought me closer to my baby was also helpful! If water is an option for you, either getting in the bath or shower during early labor before you head to the hospital or once you arrive can help a lot with pain management as well. Don't be afraid to move! Get up, find the spot that feels really good. It might be squatting or hands and knees or swaying with your legs spread instead of in bed - no wrong way to do it if it feels right to you. My one biggest thing though, is keep in mind: most women get that impending sense of doom when they hit transition. Your mind might start racing, you think "I can't do this", it's suddenly really scary and overwhelming and you can't relax through your contractions. If you are able (I was not, so not blaming you! Just want you to feel prepared), try and pause those thoughts and recognize them for what they are! A sign that your baby is SO close. Like truly you're about to cross the finish line. Do some googling on pain management techniques, positions, breathing, etc for labor and keep them in your back pocket. I'll be rooting for you no matter what!

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