Found out my husband was cheating

knottief6e1ced99944a918 · November 2025

A day before I my third trimester started I found out my husband has been in an ongoing affair of 2+ years. This was so chocking and it’s been a horrible week (it was my 40th birthday this week too) and the holidays are now coming up. The affair end a couple months ago and the woman contacted me to tell me because she now wanted to be honest and thought I deserved to know (rolling eyes). She was a coworker that I knew and knew she hated me, when I confronted my husband he always denied it.

I think this is so unfair, I never wanted kids until recently and I asked him before even trying to make it happen. He was all in! Why?

I am trying not to make any decisions now and trying my best to stay calm and grounded for my baby. At least until after postpartum, I know I will need the help and he is also responsible for the baby.

We were also starting a business together and I was beyond happy. Now, I feel crashed, confused, sad, hurt, angry, and the worst of all is that I still feel I need him close to me. Might be the hormones and the nesting period I know I am entering. I don’t want to eat or do anything but I am still doing it for my baby. I want this not to be real, but it is.
Anyways I am just venting. Has anyone been in this position?

Sending love to all of you and wishing you an beautiful pregnancy.

theycallmemama · December 2025

Wishing the best for u . I know how hard this is for u. U are a very strong woman and mother to be , ur taking so much but still trying to push forward.
I hope for the best for u and hope u have a safe delievery. Prayera for u 💌💌💌💌💌💌💌

knottieef8278db142da44e · December 2025

I have been in this position before , after my first daughter I found out my husband cheated when I was 6m pp and he was on social media talking to women for about 2 years which meant he was only faithful for 7months of our relationship at the time. It took me a very long time (about a year and some months) to forgive him fully. I would tell him that if I never found out he would have never told me. I think him taking accountability helped in the forgiveness process as well as him allowing me to process my emotions because I was legit acting crazy and would wake up and decide I’m leaving because I would think about the situation. All in all that was in 23 and now in 25 we are fine. He understood that he broke the trust so he had to give me grace with things. I didn’t trust him for sometime and always had resentment but I had to talk to myself and tell myself if I’m willing to stay then I need to forgive and move on because sometimes we forget that we are all human and though we should know better -people do tend to make mistakes and sometimes with men (bc they are a little slower then us lol) they do learn from their behaviors when they are in trouble rather than learning before it even gets to that point. I will add that he and I are also young 24 and 25 now. So we also had to grow up in the midst of our relationship. My only advice is if things were great before finding this out and he was a great man and you truly believe he is sorry and won’t do it again-then work on your marriage but if you feel you won’t even get passed this then do some reflection of your marriage/husband and make sure leaving is what you truly want.

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