Weekly Checkin w/o 10/12/2025

Re: Weekly Checkin w/o 10/12/2025

• ahume131 member

  October 16

  Thanks for posting, @emeraldmaybythebay! I've had a busy week preparing for our baby shower on Saturday and have also just been getting the third-trimester fatigue early, I think.
  
  FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

  
  

  EDD / Weeks + Days: Jan. 14/27w1d

  
  

  Team blue/pink/green: Blue

  
  

  Upcoming Appointments: Glucose screening next week

  
  

  How are you feeling?: Overall, I'm not feeling toooo bad. I haven't really had any new symptoms in a while (knock on wood), but the aches, fatigue and swollen feet continue to be a thing, as well as the acid reflux. The past two days, I think baby boy has been stretching out because I've had kind of a persistent ache right by my belly button where it feels like there's more pressure than anywhere else. I'm figuring he's pressing a foot there or something. Occasionally, it's moved spots around my left side, so pretty sure he's just exploring his boundaries.
  
  I'm definitely having some FTM anxiety breaking through as we get closer to the third trimester. Just wondering a lot what life will look like after the baby, and how I'll keep my sense of identity and my own hobbies and all that. Things are going to look a lot different, I'm sure. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and together for almost 14, so it's also strange to think that soon it won't just be the two of us any more. We're obviously overjoyed to be bringing baby into our family, but it'll be an adjustment.
  
  

  Rants/Raves: I'm a big reader usually and have been in a major reading slump for most of my pregnancy so far, but just finally this past week or so have had the focus to really get back into reading and enjoy and finish a few books. It feels really nice to get back into that again.

  
  

  Questions: For those who have already had their first, how was the transition to parenting for you? Did you do anything in particular to make sure you maintained your identity/hobbies as you became a mother?

  
  

  GTKY: If you could break bread with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be and why?
  
  Hmmm, tough question. I wish I could go back in time and have dinner with my grandparents as they were when I was younger. I'm lucky enough that they're still alive, but their health has declined an incredible amount in the past 10 years. My grandmother, in particular, used to be one of the most vibrant, interesting people I've ever known, but age and pain and their current health circumstances have made her bitter and a shell of her former self. They're both also experiencing cognitive decline. I of course love them no matter what, but I would love to have dinner with them once more as they used to be. 

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• emeraldmaybythebay member

  October 17

  @ahume131 I remember having those same thoughts before our first. It's so crazy how naturally it comes. How much your husband will adapt and how proud he will be of you as a Mother. How seamlessly your heart doubles in an instant. It seems daunting beforehand. I also remember with my first being so calm about everything until the last month and realizing the obvious, I have to birth this human. Truly by the end of pregnancy you are so done and ready for it that it makes birth way less intimidating. 
  I find I want to be a home body the first month or so after birth. In all honesty, you will lose. A part of you and gain a part of you through motherhood. You'll still have hobbies and things for yourself, but you willingly will trade off for new hobbies and things for yourself. It's ok to lose yourself and simmer in this season..it goes so fast and then you dream of it. Cliche as it is. 

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• emeraldmaybythebay member

  October 17

  FTM/STM/TTM+:  6th 

  
  

  EDD / Weeks + Days: 01/19

  
  

  Team blue/pink/green: 💙

  
  

  Upcoming Appointments: I finally met my OB. I really liked him. I am still bummed I'm not doing a homebirth, but it is what it is. Who knows maybe I will still have one. After my last 2 it is very possible. 

  
  

  How are you feeling?: pregnant. Overwhelmed with work. We are 2 weeks behind after being sick and we moved our office. Every thing is a mess. Haha when is it not though? My oldest turned 8 this week. He's nearly as tall as me. Weighs about half of me and I'm just amazed at how fast he is growing and how fast time.is flying. I also can't beleive it's nearly the 3rd trimester. 
  

  
  

  Rants/Raves: we hosted people this week and are awaiting our next guests this morning. I'm  exhausted. I like being the house, yet I am also yearning for some tranquility. 🙃

  
  

  Questions: 

  
  

  GTKY: If you could break bread with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be and why? I have 2. I would like to meet the man whom our ancestry traces back to the 400s he was a very prominent figure and I would just love to see the grit it took. I'd also like to meet the creator, whomever that is. I want to know all the things! 

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• ahume131 member

  October 19

  Thanks, @emeraldmaybythebay! So grateful to have your wisdom and that of those in the group who have done all this before!

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• emeraldmaybythebay member

  October 20

  @ahume131 We are so lucky other women have gone before us. Even after having as many as I have, there is so much I don't know and learn from new moms too. The Mom Club can be really amazing. 

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