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Wanting to TTC after loss at 10 weeks and a D&C

skyrain111skyrain111 member
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Hi everyone. I just found out today that I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. My heart is shattered. I go in for my D&C tomorrow, and everything still feels surreal. My partner and I are already thinking about trying again as soon as we can, but I’m so overwhelmed with fear and grief.


I’ve been wondering — did anyone here choose to see their baby after the D&C? Or send tissue out for testing to find out what happened? I’m torn on what to do and would love to hear others’ experiences. If you’ve gone through a loss and tried again, I’d really appreciate any insight on the healing, the timing, or just how you made it through. I need some light right now.


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Re: Wanting to TTC after loss at 10 weeks and a D&C

  • HopefulMamax4HopefulMamax4 Newbie
    edited July 23
    I've had 4 losses in the past year and a half... they are very hard, but allow yourself time to grieve and heal... I've found talking about it helps but everyone is different. Once your beta gets back down to 0 and you go through your first new cycle you will feel alot better emotionally... my first loss was ectopic and the other 3 have been miscarriages... I've gone thru extensive testing and they found my DHEA was too low to carry a baby and I'm now on something that should prevent another loss... Definitely get testing if you have more than one loss... none of my pregnancies were far enough along to see anything so I didn't have the option of seeing anything... I don't think there would be much to see yet at 10 weeks, but if there is I definitely would have wanted to see it
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  • knottiec5e61687eb044e5dknottiec5e61687eb044e5d member

    I’m so deeply sorry for your loss 💔— I went through a missed miscarriage too, and I remember how surreal and crushing it felt. Please know that whatever you’re feeling right now — grief, fear, confusion — it’s all valid. For the D&C, some people choose to have testing done, and it can bring peace of mind to understand if there was a chromosomal reason. For me, I chose testing and it gave me closure, but I also know friends who healed better by not knowing and simply moving forward.

    When my partner and I decided to try again, what helped most was giving myself a little time to heal physically and emotionally first. I focused on self-care, therapy, and nourishing my body. When we started again, I added in supplements and tried Get Pregnant Fertility Tea — it felt like a gentle way to support my cycles and hormones. Within a couple of months of being consistent, I did conceive again, and it brought me so much hope after loss.

    Be gentle with yourself through this — you don’t need to rush, but also don’t feel guilty if hope comes sooner than you expected.  Sending you so much light and strength ❤️✨

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