Pregnant with Baby #2 and Feeling Overwhelmed – Need Some Mental Support

knottied7cd06d59ae99278 · June 29

Hi everyone,
I just found out I’m pregnant with my second, and even though this was planned, I’ve been completely caught off guard. It hit me like a tornado emotionally.

The last time I went through pregnancy was during Covid in 2020. I didn’t realize how much fear, isolation, and trauma I still carried from that time. That pregnancy was really tough for me – mentally & emotionally – and I think part of me never fully processed it. Now that I’m pregnant again, it feels like all those feelings have come flooding back.

I’m trying hard not to spiral, but I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’m worried about how I’ll manage work, how my firstborn will feel and honestly – I’m just not in that glowing, excited headspace I hoped I’d be in. I feel guilt, dread, and fear, and I hate admitting that out loud.

Please no judgment – I just needed to get this out and hear from anyone who might have gone through something similar. How did you shift your mindset? How did you process the emotions and find joy in a second pregnancy, especially when the first was clouded by so much heaviness?

Sending love to anyone else riding the emotional rollercoaster – would love any advice, reassurance, or even just a “me too.”

knottiea5613d1878743087 · July 5

I feel a lot of what you’re feeling right now. I’m pregnant with my second, my first baby is about to turn 7, and the first pregnancy and newborn phase I really struggled with. I’m trying to remind myself that I am a more capable and experienced mom this time around, but your not alone if feeling this way.

Knottie1451488756 · July 8

I can relate, I’m currently pregnant with my second and my first born is about to be 9! The fear of the way he will react and cope with a sibling, along with my own fears of starting over are overwhelming. I also work full time and go to school part time. It makes me wonder how I can handle all of this, especially when I’m also about to turn 40 this year.

Motherhood is scary. I can’t even imagine what you went through being pregnant during Covid.

jmcardi23 · July 9

I can also relate! I am pregnant with my 2nd and my first is 7. I am so worried about the age difference and how she will feel. My husband is also older and turning 50 this year so he is worried about how he will feel with a newborn again. Don’t get me wrong this was all planned and a long time coming (not easy) but now that it’s all real it’s very overwhelming. I think having a place like this to vent is so helpful especially with all of us in such similar situations. We’re only human! It’s all okay to feel this way I think. Grateful for everyone who is sharing on here!

hannahxo6 · July 11

I can’t exactly relate to your situation but I’m also feeling so overwhelmed and honestly not excited. I’m pregnant with #2 and my first is only 13 months. In the past year both my fiancé and I lost our jobs, lost our apartment, and our life has turned completely upside down. My MIL is sick and needs our help. My husband thankfully got back to work last month and I will be back to work in September but so nervous about having to take leave unpaid, how I’m going to find childcare for two babies, and how I’ll be able to handle it all. I know I will because I will do whatever is necessary for my babies but I was just thinking my life was getting somewhat back to normal! I want to be happy about this pregnancy but I know I will end up facing a lot of judgement from our families and I’m just not excited. Sending you and everyone who has shared their struggles hugs 💕

knottie00144788c7501f76 · July 12

I have a similar feeling but a different situation. My son is only 6 months old. My husband and I wanted our kids close in age but I wanted to wait a little bit longer. I’m feeling so emotional about only giving my first 14 months as an only child and I don’t want him to resent me for bringing another baby home so early. I know he won’t remember and this is just hormones talking but I can’t shake the sadness I feel for my first born.

knottiec8dcbb0a9976ad04 · July 18

I’m in a similar boat, my first baby is 14 months currently and I’m pregnant with baby #2. By the time I give birth he’ll be a couple months shy of 2 years old and I’m so anxious about it. Heck I’m anxious now thinking of how he’ll react when my belly gets too big for him to be in my lap 😂

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