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Two Under 2

smedina95smedina95 member
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I found out I’m pregnant 2 days ago. I’m in shock and not happy. I know I will be happy but right now I’m just sad and scared and nervous. 
My 7 month old is asleep on me and I’m not ready to give that up yet. I wasn’t ready to have another baby. I don’t want to have another baby. I feel sad and worried about my son feeling pushed aside or not understanding what’s going on. 
I just feel bad, has anyone else experienced this? How’d it go?
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  • practicallypiersonpracticallypierson member
    Our oldest is a bit older (he'll be 21 months when the next is born), but I know a lot of kids who are closer in age. I meet them as teenagers, but they're really good friends at that point, and from the stories they tell, they love growing up close in age. It can certainly be an adjustment when the baby arrives, but becoming an older sibling is an adjustment no matter what age it happens. 

    As for having to give up the snuggles, you don't have to give that up. You have another nine months before the baby gets here, and by 15 months old, my son isn't interested in snuggling much anyway. Once that mobility kicks in, the snuggles are already decreasing. But even with another baby, you don't have to give up snuggling this one. You'll still get to spend time with your son and play with him and take him to see fun things. Your son will probably be jealous sometimes, but that's just part of growing up. He'll really be okay, and the two of them will have so much fun together. 
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  • annemarie96annemarie96 member
    By that age my kids weren't snuggly anyway, sadly. I hope he does stay snuggly though! For mine it comes back at about 3 hrs old. Idk why! 
    One of my best friends had boys 18 months apart, and she did have a very hard time. Her oldest was pretty Fussy though. I think SO much depends on the temperament or health problems of each child. 
    And now she says she loves their age gap. They're 5 and 3. They play together so well and are just such little buddies. She is so glad they had them that close together, even though it made for a very hard season. 
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  • nken20nken20 member
    Many mothers experience these feelings, and it's important to know that it's okay to have mixed emotions.
    Take time to process your feelings and discuss your concerns with your partner. Remember, you don't have to give up the bond with your son – love expands with each child. Sending hugs here.
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  • knottie210c943f9d078bc9knottie210c943f9d078bc9 member
    Your love doesn’t get divided, it multiplies. I promise your son will still feel so loved. And you’ll find your rhythm again, even if it feels hard to picture now.

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