Weekly Check-In w/o May 19

aisleofviewtwo · May 19

EDD / Weeks + Days:

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated:

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green:

Upcoming Appointments:

How are you feeling?

Rants/Raves:

Questions:

GTKY: What is your most prized possession?

virginiaham · May 19

*lurking from November Babies*

Hi guise….can I come sit with you? I’m squarely a Nov due date (Nov 13) but I think the board missed the sweet spot of starting up and I’m pretty sure I showed up a little too late to get it going. If it wouldn’t bother you to have me come join I’d love to hang with y’all here ❤️

aisleofviewtwo · May 19

@virginiaham Yes please join! The more the merrier 🤗

thatbaintforbetty · May 19

@virginiaham welcome! it’s crazy how dead these boards are now. They were crazy busy with both my older kids (that was at least 5+ years ago though) and it so weird to see them this way.

thatbaintforbetty · May 19

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12/26 - 8&3

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: 3rd

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: finding out

Upcoming Appointments: 6/13 (Friday the 13th) 12 week appointment and more genetic blood work

How are you feeling? Woke up super sick today, pretty sure it’s a cold from my youngest. 🙄

Rants/Raves: I feel so differently compared to my first 2 kids, like nowhere near as nauseous, my boobs are way more sore. Trying not to psych myself up thinking this one will be a boy.

Questions: n/a

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? I have no idea.

aisleofviewtwo · May 19

@thatbaintforbetty I’ve only know TB forums in their quieter phase, but when I was on TTGP occasionally someone would dig up an old thread and it was so shocking to see literally hundreds of replies. Where has everybody gone???

EDD / Weeks + Days: December 24, 8w5d

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: FTM

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: 💚

Upcoming appointments: new patient consult with OB oxt Wed 5/28

How are you feeling? Pretty good! Shared the news with my mom and sister this weekend and it was a little stressful—still scared I’ll have to report back that this isn’t our take home baby after all—but also a relief. Their excitement definitely helped it feel more real.

Rants/Raves:

Questions: Is it normal to regularly forget I’m pregnant? I cut out caffeine and alcohol years ago so I don’t have as many lifestyle adjustments to make as some, but it’s still wild to me that I can just completely forget about this thing we’ve been waiting forever to have happen!

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? The possession I’m most scared of losing is my engagement ring—an heirloom that has been in my MIL’s family for generations—but it doesn’t really feel like mine enough to be prized. So probably either my grandmother’s sewing scissors or my Staub dutch oven (bought at a time when I was living a very transient life, as a symbol of the stable home I hoped to make someday).

thatbaintforbetty · May 19

@aisleofviewtwo I really don’t know where everybody went. For both my boards they were super active till about a month or so after the due date when a lot of people moved to private FB groups. July 2014 was a wild ride, catfish, scams, super clicky. I left a year or 2 afterwards. April 2019 was awesome and super chill and we still talk in the FB group all the time. There’s like 30 or so of us left in it, started out like 50ish, and that wasn’t even everyone from the boards.

aisleofviewtwo · May 19

@thatbaintforbetty Interesting, that progression makes me think maybe TB has just followed the arc of the Internet more broadly. Like, forums like these must have thrived in the earlier versions of the internet where everybody had a blog and long form writing was common, and even in the age of social media, but now they’re just failing to compete for our attention spans with the TikTok-ification of everything.

virginiaham · May 20

It’s wild the difference from when I first joined {last decade} it was really easy to go unnoticed and get lost in the sauce of the TTGP board when there were sooo many people posting in the WTO and TWW threads. I definitely think people are seeking quicker info elsewhere. Thanks for the welcome 🫶

@aisleofviewtwo yes to the stress of sharing and the nagging fear of having to {“untell”?} — I hope sharing will ultimately be helpful for you to be supported in the ups and downs and waiting of this! ❤️

EDD / Weeks + Days: 11/13 (transplanted here from Nov) 14w4d

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: TTM

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Finding out

Upcoming Appointments: next Wednesday 5/28 for 16w appt

How are you feeling? I’m exhausted most of the time. Ready for our school year commitments to all fall off our schedule and press into slower summer weeks and evenings home.

Rants/Raves: The magnesium my Dr has been having me take at bedtime has 1000% been helping with the heartburn that started in the last couple weeks.

Questions:

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? I think probably something in my kitchen.

KayMayEmmAyy · May 20

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12/28 8+1

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: FTM

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Finding Out

Upcoming Appointments: who knows, more on this below

How are you feeling? Emotional, cramps, body aches

Rants/Raves/Questions: Am I just having an emotional response and the below situation is completely normal? Went to my first OB appointment today. My partner came too as we thought we were getting an ultrasound. Well we did not, the only thing she did was take my blood pressure... I even had to go elsewhere to get my blood drawn. Turns out she's not actually an OB so not sure why I was referred to her. All she did was give me an information packet that was riddled with typos. She tried to set me up at the practice for a scan but "oh darn we're fully booked the next two weeks" so now I have to try to get an appointment at the hospital instead. Not sure why this wasn't booked too when I made my appointment a month ago. She gave me the info on the 2 OBs at the hospital so I could look them up and pick one. One appears to be trying to become a travel influencer and the other has many pretty negative reviews calling her the devil. This is the practice at my local hospital (and the referral from my awesome PCP) so I thought it would be a quality practice. Am I overreacting by thinking this is unacceptable or should I cut my losses and find somewhere else?

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? Probably my grandmother's pearls. I don't even know if they are real but I love feeling her presence when I wear them.

thatbaintforbetty · May 20

@KayMayEmmAyy definitely find someone else. Having a good OB/midwife while pregnant will make a difference. There is so much that you go through and always second guessing them is no way to go.

The OB’s I had for each of my pregnancies didn’t deliver either kiddo. It was whoever was on call at L&D. They usually do rotations and you are lucky if yours is on when you come in. But your OB you will see for the 8ish months and that should not be someone who isn’t willing to listen and help.

I did happen to really like the on call docs I got for delivery. You can always call the hospital you plan to deliver at and ask them how they handle things.

Also my current hospital is 15 min away but the hospital I delivered my first at was an hour away with traffic, despite there being closer ones and it wasn’t an issue. The closest hospital doesn’t have to the one you use.

alm52386 · May 20

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12/22 9w1d

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: 3rd

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: finding out Saturday from the Sneak Peak blood test

Upcoming Appointments: June 11th for NT scan and 12 week appointment

How are you feeling? I got Zofran to take during the day and it has helped SO MUCH with nausea!

Rants/Raves:

Questions:

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? My Grammie's engagement ring and wedding band she gave me a few years ago.

bridgiebee82 · May 20

@virginiaham welcome! I am due early December, but they will probably try to schedule me for a c-section in late November, so... 🤷🏻‍♀️

EDD / Weeks + Days: Dec 6/ 11w3d

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: complicated

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: finding out!

Upcoming Appointments: Just had my ultrasound appointment and some bloodwork drawn. Baby is doing great! We heard the heartbeat and baby is very active and flipping around. Dr. said "he is doing a headstand!" 👀 HE???? LOL

How are you feeling? Less dumpster fire-y, but still exhausted 24/7. Nausea comes in waves instead of being constant. Anxiety is still through the roof at all times.

Rants/Raves: I hate having to go to MFM for my AMA. Like I know I'm old. I also know I'm fat. MFM didn't do any interventions for me when I was pregnant before and lost one of my twins. So like... ugh idk. I don't particularly want to go.

Questions: Does anyone want to to come and be my live-in chef and maid? Because I am sick of it. Lol

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? I guess it'd be my Pound Puppy that I've had since my 4th birthday. His name is Arf, and I still sleep with him every night. Lol

aisleofviewtwo · May 21

@KayMayEmmAyy Ugh that sounds like such a frustrating visit! Especially when you were expecting an ultrasound and got something so different. I’d be upset, too.

Like @thatbaintforbetty, it seems to me that you’re early enough in your pregnancy that it’s worth continuing to search for an OB and hospital that will be the best fit for you. (I also don’t think you should feel bad about scheduling a US at the local hospital ASAP so you can get eyes on baby, and then going somewhere else for the remainder of your care.) Do you think your PCP would have additional recommendations if you went back to them for advice?

Worst case I suppose you can do what my sister did with her first, which was essentially stopping visibly pregnant women she encountered in public and asking whether they would recommend their OB 😅

simplicidee23 · May 21

EDD / Weeks + Days: Dec. 2 / 11w4d

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: FTM

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Finding out

Upcoming Appointments: 5/24 (This Saturday, eek!) for 12 week US and NIPT bloodwork

How are you feeling? Less nausea overall, still sore boobs, way more tired

Rants/Raves: These crazy dreams! I think in the past week, I've had dreams about tarantulas, the TSA line, and grasshoppers wearing little shoes! No wonder I feel so much more tired these days. I think all my anxiety is coming through in my dreams!

Questions: How did you handle anxiety before your NIPT/genetic testing? I feel as if I've been obsessing about the possibility of negative results.

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? The only copy of my family's genealogical records that a state historian and distant family member had published back in the 1970s.

dogmom5 · May 21

EDD / Weeks + Days: 9+5

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated:6TM

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green:green

Upcoming Appointments:2nd week of June

How are you feeling? Meh….ok at times,
sick during other times

Rants/Raves: so ready to feel a little more normal again in 2nd tri

Questions: natm

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? My kids! ❤️

aisleofviewtwo · May 22

@simplicidee23 Sitting with uncertainty is daunting and definitely a skill I’m still working on, but framing the NIPT as a net-positive regardless of what it reveals has helped me keep anxiety at bay.

The way I see it, NIPT can’t tell you anything you won’t find out or have to face eventually. Your child is going to be who they are. What it CAN do, though, is offer you time: time to grapple with any unexpected results, or to make decisions, or to gather resources, or to pursue early interventions, or whatever your family needs.

Sending you good vibes for calm and peace of mind while you wait!

brookejay06 · May 22

EDD / Weeks + Days: Dec 1, 12+2

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: third

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: unsure

Upcoming Appointments: At 16 weeks, just had one on Monday.

How are you feeling? I am so deeply exhausted. I am nauseous but it’s not as bad as the exhaustion. Today I did nothing, went no where (except school drop off and pick up)… let my little one watch a movie while I napped. I have been horizontal all day and I have no motivation for anything else. And I’m so close to the end of the 1st tri…. I’m mentally doneeeeee.

Rants/Raves: I read somewhere (on this app I think) that you’re “supposed” to gain 1-5lbs in the first tri. Well I’ve gained 10. Pulling out the maternity gear already.

Questions:

GTKY: What is your most prized possession?
I guess just some memorabilia. Notes and photos from the past.

hayhay1230 · May 23

Hi Everyone!
EDD: 12/30 8weeks 5 days

FTM

We definitely want to find out.

Just had the first appointment on Wednesday. All was well and I feel much better after seeing a heartbeat on the ultrasound.

I am feeling hungry all the time. Otherwise this week I have felt great.

Rants/Raves:

Questions: I was planning to tell my family tomorrow but my sister is being induced early today. How long should I wait to tell, I don't want to upset her by announcing in a way that makes her feel I'm stealing her spotlight?

aisleofviewtwo · May 23

@hayhay1230 Welcome! And congratulations to both you and your sister! What an exciting time for your family!!!

I think so much of the decision on when (and how) (and with whom) to share the news comes down to context. You know your sister and family dynamics better than any of us here, but without knowing more I’d wager this should be her moment to be in the spotlight.

Not an exact parallel, but in case it helps here’s our situation: We’re planning to tell my in-laws around 12 weeks. My husband will be visiting so he can share the news in person, which we think will be meaningful to them. Unfortunately we reach the 12-week milestone literally a week before his cousin (it’s a small but tight-knit extended family) is due with the first baby for our generation. We’ll tell his parents bc this will be THEIR first grandchild and they deserve to know as soon as we’re ready to share. But I’m adamant the news not get around to extended family for a month or maybe more after the birth bc they deserve all the focus at this time. Ours isn’t gonna be here until December, anyway, and there will be plenty of time to ooh and aah over it then.

nopegoat · May 24

@thatbaintforbetty yea I've been around these boards since 2009. They were crazy busy back then. Definitely a little disappointing they've become so slow these days.

rosie122125 · May 24

EDD / Weeks + Days: 12/21 / 9w6d

FTM/STM/TTM+/it's complicated: FTM

Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Green

Upcoming Appointments: 12-week appt on 6/13

How are you feeling? SICK. Nauseous all the time, and extremely tired. I cleaned the bathroom and put away laundry today and it felt like a superhuman feat.

Rants/Raves: All my favorite foods are suddenly repulsive to me. Coffee, chicken, garlic, onions, mushrooms, roasted veggies, the list goes on and on. I normally love to cook, but you cannot pay me to stand in the kitchen right now. I feel for my poor overworked husband.

Questions: When are y'all breaking the news to work? I feel like a liar agreeing to take on tasks that would coincide with my maternity leave, but I don't know how to decline without being obvious. Maybe I should just break the news early?

GTKY: What is your most prized possession? My two pit mixes!

iwantcookies · May 25

@knottie304114ea635ef1093 I told work at 11 weeks. As my job had some demanding physical labor I had to tell them sooner than later. Honestly though it should be when you feel most comfortable. I have an amazing supervisor who I could literally cry to and they would sympathize and help no matter what. I would also look into how they handle leave

Want a personalized experience?

Weekly Check-In w/o May 19

Re: Weekly Check-In w/o May 19

Choose Another Board

Search Boards