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๐๐ง๐๐ฌ: Whatโs one piece of advice youโll never forget?
Re: Weekly Check-in 4/28
Rave: I had an appointment where we got to hear the babies heartbeat today. Itโs been over a month since my last appointment so it was nice getting to hear him
Rant: my baby shower is in a few weeks which Iโm simultaneously excited for and stressed about. Iโve been trying to organize and plan, but Iโm definitely running low on time.ย
Iโll share some parenting advice from a mom in my previous bump group, which is that itโs okay to not enjoy every stage of parenting. My son was a tough newborn, and I felt so much guilt on days when I wasnโt thoroughly loving it. And she said, reminder that itโs okay to not love this stage. It really helped to take the pressure off and not beat myself up over the days when I just wanted to crawl in a hole. Each stage of your childโs life will come with unique joys and unique challenges. Some youโll handle better than others, and your partner will handle some better than others. Utilize your strengths where you have them, and give yourself compassion during the times of parenting when youโre struggling. Everything is just a phase, and wonโt last forever!
Rant: My spouse leaves for 2 weeks tomorrow and then I leave for a week once heโs home. Not looking forward to May being so travel heavy for us.
After a friend (in a very nice attempt to be helpful!) sent me a long complicated list of โthings you definitely MUST have before baby gets hereโ from a mom Facebook group, my mom (whose job is to support low income/high risk new moms) told me that the basic needs to healthily support a newborn is in reality a very short and simple list and everything else is white noise/optional. General advice from my mom thatโs really been ingrained in me over the years is that life is often a lot simpler than we can sometimes get worked up and make it out to be.ย
@tashaandpeanut Such good advice! Itโs true. It feels like you need so much and need to have so much figured out to be ready, but itโs a false sense of preparation for something there is no preparing for. ๐ We are starting from scratch with all the baby gear and I havenโt bought anything yet. I made a list, though, but itโs quite short and basic. Itโs actually been kind of freeing to take a less is more approach.ย
Rant - baby is back to measuring small, so I have to go in every week for different monitoring. Definitely spiked my anxiety like crazy! But trying to stay positive and remind myself that everyone in my family is small (I'm only 5'0) and we were small babies, so that may be the main reason rather than something more serious.
What are you all doing to get all the protein needs in? I canโt eat much at a time and some days nothing sounds good. Not icky like first trimester food aversions, just not hungry.ย
Expect the unexpected. I was headed overseas to Africa for a year long position and the advice made little sense to me then as a 19 year old but Iโve come to appreciate it even if the unexpected did happen that year. And as life goes on, I realize thereโs less predictably than Iโll ever want, but that phrase helps me let go and be ok with things not going as plannedโฆmost of the time.ย
My husband is freaking out about $, but it doesn't help we have 1 car that may or may not last the year, and another that probably will need to be replaced a year later. We have $ saved, but we've got different thoughts on how we should spend it ... the joys of marriage! It'll be ok, but it's trying sometimes, especially when energy is low, to engage in such serious conversations.
Change is a constant is our world. (Also, praise God, God is a constant!)
Trying to remind my husband of both as he struggles with the reality that his life will be drastically different in a short while. He has a tendency to hold on to the old and fight the new. I, personally, like to transition to an intermediary in the process so the change isn't as shocking to my system.