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Baby Showers

brittanny21brittanny21 member
in July 2025 Babies
Hi All- 

Is anyone else having trouble getting people to RSVP to their baby showers? (If you’ve started planning/sending out invites)

My family lives almost 5 hours away from us so I started planning our baby shower in January that way everyone would have plenty of time to speak to work for time off and book accommodations if they want to, etc. 

However, I asked that everyone RSVP by a certain date so that we can plan food, drinks, and games accordingly as we are making all of the food and purchasing everything that we will need. My husband and I are the ones hosting and planning the shower (no one from either of our families offered to throw one or help in any way other than one of my sisters).

The RSVP date is coming up soon and I have only had about 4 people confirm that they will be attending. I don’t want to be rude and ask yet again but we need to start prepping and it’s giving me anxiety that no one has done it yet. We don’t want to make too much food or not have enough. 

Any opinions? 
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Re: Baby Showers

  • peach93peach93 member
    I haven’t sent my invites yet but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with following up. You definitely need answers from your guests so you can plan ahead 
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  • brittanny21brittanny21 member
    @peach93 I’m just nervous because I was told that I was being rude by a member of my husband’s family for telling people that they needed to RSVP. Even though my husband and my sisters said that I definitely wasn’t being rude and that I was very polite in my post. 

    I just wasn’t sure if I’m being too pushy or demanding😅
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  • butterflyhunnybutterflyhunny member
    RSVPing seems like a pretty minimal expectation lol seems rude in their part not to! How close to the date is the baby shower? 

    Not related to your question but since we're talking baby showers - are people doing actual paper invites or just electronic? I'm wanting to just do electronic because paper invites sound expensive and exhausting lol but IDK if that's tacky? 
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  • brittanny21brittanny21 member
    @butterflyhunny We’re doing our baby shower at the end of May, however, everyone has known the date and time since the beginning of January so I really feel like they have had plenty of time to know if they will be able to make it. Some of my cousins have larger families and we really just need to know if everyone will be attending so that we can start purchasing the things that we need online and plan for food accordingly. 
    I don’t want to buy enough products and such for 70 people if only 30-40 are going to show up, especially since the cost is solely coming out of our pockets. I’d much rather use those extra funds for our baby instead of products that weren’t needed. 

    Also we did both electronic and paper since some of the older members in our family (and my father in law) don’t use social media/ the internet very well haha. We got our invites on Amazon for a decent price thankfully. 
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  • ruthiedoberenzruthiedoberenz member
    @butterflyhunny I use Paperless Post for every event I’ve ever thrown in the past 5 years - I absolutely love it!! Check in out. 
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  • butterflyhunnybutterflyhunny member
    @brittanny21 it seems totally reasonable to do a check in for those who haven't RSVPd yet to me! Might not be the "Miss Manners" answer but it is the practical answer IMO 🤷‍♀️
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  • knottie210c943f9d078bc9knottie210c943f9d078bc9 member
    edited July 2
    It’s so frustrating when you’re trying to be organized and considerate and people still don’t reply. A quick follow-up message or even a group text might help get the numbers in without sounding pushy.
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