1st Trimester

How do you get rid of intrusive thoughts regarding pregnancy?

TRIGGER WARNING: LOSS
A little background, I do have ADHD, and this is my 2nd pregnancy, but hopefully 1st successful. Everything I do, I get intrusive thoughts thinking the worst will happen. I know it's illogical. It sounds really stupid, but it gets me in a bind. I'm so paranoid. Any advice?

Re: How do you get rid of intrusive thoughts regarding pregnancy?

  • This is normal after experiencing a loss. You will probably relax more once you reach the second trimester. The first trimester is the scariest because of the possibility of loss. It helps me to focus on the fact that I’m pregnant today and to try not to worry about what tomorrow may bring. I know that feels impossible but it’s literally out of your hands. Also, find something to distract you. 
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  • Thank you so much! Every day is different, and some are definitely a challenge.
  • I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, your emotions are completely valid. Intrusive thoughts can be tough, especially after a loss. I think it's best if you talk to your loved ones about it, as they can help you feel more secure about the fact that more of a trauma response. It is also a good thing if you are worried about it because it means you care, deeply. Also, offer yourself a lot of understanding from within. There's nothing wrong with you, everything is alright. Hope this helped!
  • bearthepupcatbearthepupcat member
    edited January 25
    Sometimes I use the paranoid thought as a sign to slow down. Like someone said above, the thought means you care. So use the care to put towards the baby: imagine a bright light bubble around them, sing you both a soothing song in your head or outloud, drink water, eat, rest, stretch.
    Totally get what you mean. Also on my 2nd pregnancy after a loss. The waiting feels like forever so far, but these little bits help reassure me that I'm "doing " something (while also soothing the entire system). Big huggie for you
  • Thanks so much for sharing this!! I feel you💜 i am currently in my week 9 and tomorrow I will have my first ultrasound which I believe will give me more mental peace. Even though everyone is different I can share what has helped me, recently I read the book “Inconceivable from Julia Indichova, I recommend it a looot it help me to create a deep connection with my baby even before I knew he exists. There she talk about imaginery/visualization exercises where you can see yourself and your baby, talking to him and accessing to the certainty that you will hold him/her in your arms soon. She has an specific exercise when is about intrusive thoughts that is imagining a golden  shield that protect your belly and baby from any destructive thoughts, that has helped me a looot and I do this with affirmations and I repeat myself that “others experiences or my past experiences doesn’t not determine my present”. And I listen to two songs that brings me peace “be all right from Evan Craft” and gratitude from Brandon Lake”, I’m don’t have a religion though but I believe in Gond and this help me a loooot💜

    I hope it wasn’t tooo much🫂feel better and remember is one day less until you meet your little angel💜
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