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You’re invited: Misery loves company!

mamaz_2022mamaz_2022 member
in March 2025 Babies
So I’m going to put this out there so that anyone else in a similar boat doesn’t feel alone. 

I am 100% excited to be having another baby. I am also 100% miserable right now and hate pretty much every moment of the day. I feel almost nothing but dread when I wake up because I know it’s going to be another day of feeling completely terrible.

I’m 11 weeks along and just so over the constant nausea, headaches, and exhaustion. I’m so tired of being sick and tired. I’m 37, which I’m sure doesn’t help, and I have a preteen and a toddler. I’m so grateful for my daughter’s help with the toddler but having alllll the mom guilt about burdening her. 

My ex husband and I went through infertility (my preteen is adopted), and during that season of life all I wanted was everything I have now. I hated hearing moms complain because I would have given anything to have all those symptoms they complained about if it meant I could get pregnant. I know how lucky I am, and I hate myself for whining, but I. Am. Miserable. 

I hate being pregnant. Just absolutely hate it. 
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    Just here in solidarity! I am a miserable pregnant person, and my symptoms aren’t even that bad. I just hate everything about it lol. So, you are not alone. And there’s zero reason to feel guilty. You can be excited about the baby, grateful for the pregnancy, and still hate the experience of getting there. They are not mutually exclusive. 
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  • fininevermorefininevermore member
    @mamaz_2022 I feel you. A couple weeks ago I was where you are now. And last year, after the miscarriages, I was so miserable hearing about others complaining about their symptoms and wishing I could have them. Now that I do, I feel like I’ve done nothing but complain the last 2 months. I want this little boy, I do, but now I remember why I said I was one and done after the last one: pregnancy and I do not go together. I happen to be 37 as well, but I just have an 8yo. Who misses me and wishes I wasn’t so tired all the time. So I’m trying to drag my aching butt out of bed to spend some time with him, which will be drastically cut next year.
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  • dunder_mifflindunder_mifflin member
    I’m joining the misery party. 

    I don’t know why, but I just feel miserable. I’m tired all the time, I have zero motivation to do anything, which makes me feel like shit because my work is piling up at my job, and also at home. I feel guilty since u don’t have the energy I want to have to play with DD or do fun things, I also am so annoyed I just can’t send her to school without emails about google classroom, or pizza lunch payments online, or blah blah blah - can’t I just send her to school with $5 taped to her backpack for her pizza lunch like the 90s?! Ughhhhhhh. Car shopping is tiring, my good food box chicken exploded, and I have a bunch of Amazon returns that are super close to the deadline that I forgot at home 😭 

    Also the rapid weight gain is jarring. 

    I miss my ADHD meds so badly and I worked to hard to fix my brain and my PCOS insulin resistant weight loss and now I feel like I’m at square one within 12 weeks. I know this is temporary and I’m so blessed to be pregnant so fast with my baby girl. But hot damn, I just want to sleep and go on stress/sick leave so I can lie in bed for 2 weeks and be left alone. I literally want to go to a fancy hotel in the mountains with a heated private infinity pool for 2 weeks by myself, which is not feasible for all the reasons, haha. 

    did anyone feel less miserable at any point? I didn’t feel like this with DD in my first pregnancy. 

    thanks for listening to my rant! I appreciate you all. 
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  • laj0217laj0217 member
    @dunder_mifflin my last pregnancy got better around 2nd trimester. So there’s hope!
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  • amandaawagneramandaawagner member
    I’m a 13 weeks 3 days, first time human Mom and also a ECC veterinary technician….My nausea just started to get better yesterday….then, my soul dog, who has been with me through everything, was diagnosed with liver cancer that has severely metastasized to his chest. Chemotherapy is not an option due to the severity. My first baby won’t get to meet their big fur brother (who is perfect with kids, of course), and it is killing me 😭💔
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  • paigemm23paigemm23 member
    @aahughes6086, I’m so sorry to hear about your dog 💔 I went through something similar with my dog although I wasn’t pregnant at the time so I’m sure the hormones make it even harder! 😢
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  • knottie4a028c18ee2719ddknottie4a028c18ee2719dd member
    I'm sorry to hear how you are feeling; however, I understand it completely and have been feeling almost the same way. This is my first pregnancy and am not enjoying it at all. I'm grateful to be pregnant and looking forward to the end result but the process has been difficult and not fun. Very hard mentally and physically. It is nice to know I'm not alone in my thoughts and feelings though 
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  • allfacestheoaksallfacestheoaks member
    I feel you here:

    "I’m 11 weeks along and just so over the constant nausea, headaches, and exhaustion. I’m so tired of being sick and tired. I’m 37, which I’m sure doesn’t help, and I have a preteen and a toddler. I’m so grateful for my daughter’s help with the toddler but having alllll the mom guilt about burdening her."

    How are you doing now? How has your relationship with your preteen been as your pregnancy continues? Keep communication open with her if possible, you're a sweet Mama for thinking of her!

    My oldest (only 5) is also helping me with her younger siblings (3 and 1). She is very loving to help me. I also want to be careful with her and make sure she's not feeling like my pregnancy is her burden. Pregnancy does affect everyone in the house (we're weaker, more tired, more emotional and irritable) and we really do need more help during pregnancy and postpartum. But the whole family looks forward to meeting the baby and can understand "This is how pregnancy affects me. It won't last forever. Please let me know if/when. . ."
    When I see my oldest get frustrated at my younger children, I think "OK, I'm not irrational, the little ones really are irritating." You're wonderful for thinking of your preteen and being concerned for her as she helps you.
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  • leban_chebanleban_cheban member
    I like to tell people that don't know what it's like " you become a very irritable ' bouncy castle ' ".

    I'm here to show support too!
    I haven't been sleeping the best this trimester, waking up in the middle of the night, not always to go bathroom either..ugh.
    And the food aversions are way too much for me right now, I had to go back on vitamins 😑 which I don't mind I just want to be able to eat more.
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  • sweettinabellsweettinabell member
    I'm miserable every day as well. Being 37 at 34 weeks and having health conditions of diabetes and high blood pressure means I need to do daily insulin injections x 3 (not fun for someone who has fear of needles), test my sugar x 4, take vitamin, baby aspirin + bp meds, test blood pressure x2, on top of the onset carpel tunnel and swelling feet and hands. Ppl keep telling me it's worth it but I just feel misery all day every day. I can't eat what I want when I want due to watching my sugar level. I have to wear wrist brace during sleep or my hands just completely becomes numb and stiff by morning. There's no positive aspect of pregnancy other than baby is doing fine (so they tell me) so all these things is just on me to bear. I know every pregnancy is different and everyone has different conditions but I just keep reminding myself there's an end point. It's OK to be miserable and complaining. You're not alone even though sometimes it feels like no one understands what you're going through. Take it day by day, time flies. We're almost there! 
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  • knottie210c943f9d078bc9knottie210c943f9d078bc9 member
    I’m so glad you shared this. I wish more people would say out loud that it’s okay to not love the experience. Sending you all the good vibes.
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