TTGP w/o 12/30 (Happy New Year!)

pinkkillersheep · December 2024

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WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.):

WTO/TWW:

Timing/CS:

How are things going? Any questions?:

R/R:

emeraldcity603 · December 2024

WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.): my fertile window just opened so we will BD a few times.

WTO/TWW: WTO

Timing/CS: probably going to BD the next 3 days.

How are things going? Any questions?: TW:loss
CD1 was a CP. I am trying to capitalize on the month following that hoping it works out for us. My body appears to be gearing up for ovulation by CD14. I have only been tracking mucus the last year or so but I started wearing my Tempdrop this cycle to confirm ovulation. My temps are still pretty high but considering I haven’t worn the device in a long time I’m not sure what my preovulation temps should be. It’s a wait and see game as of now.

R/R: my rant is that we need more snow. I never thought I would say that. I grew up in the south and I hate snow. It’s ugly in Alaska with little to no snow. Plus everything is covered in ice. The side roads and parking lots are just inches thick with ice. I have to wear my cleats on my boots just to stay upright.

britters314 · December 2024

WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.): BD

WTO/TWW: WTO

Timing/CS: On CD 26 now still waiting to ovulate. I had EWCM on CD 18-20, but no temp rise after, so hopefully my body tries to ovulate again soon. (But not too soon as timing would be bad because H hasn’t been in the mood to BD the past few days)

How are things going? Any questions?: Still hoping things work out for us naturally this cycle, but we are starting to talk about if we want to adopt more embryos and try another FET. We didn’t think we would want to, but I’m realizing I’m not actually ready to give up on that option yet.

R/R: I’m also going to rant about the lack of snow! My backyard has basically turned into a mud pit and I need that to be covered up lol

emeraldcity603 · December 2024

@britters314 Hopefully y'all get good timing. This is first year we haven’t had a lot of snow. We keep getting a light dusting and I want a good foot or two. I just started cross country skiing too so it would be nice to get out on something a little softer than the crusty hard icy snow.

aisleofviewtwo · December 2024

@pinkkillersheep Thanks for starting the thread this week! I took last week off to celebrate Christmas with family and I have been...very....very slow to get back in gear.

@emeraldcity603 Welcome! I grew up in the South too and what I hate even more than snow is ice. Nobody ever learned to prep for it or drive on it, so the whole city would just shut down. Sounds like a slippery, yucky mess; hope you get some good snowfall and back on your skis!

@britters314 Have you always had variation in cycle length? FX for crosshairs soon!

WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.): FET/Benched

WTO/TWW: N/A (on birth control)

How are things going? Any questions?: I spent most of December dreading the holidays, and while there were tough moments (see spoiler below, TW: loss, someone else's pregnancy) it wasn't as bad as I was anticipating and at times I even enjoyed just letting go and indulging with my family. Now easing back into my regular exercise, 8+ hours of sleep, no gluten routine and starting to feel more like myself. I'm even getting hopeful about the new year and our upcoming FET cycle start on January 9th!

I had a miscarriage back in June (due date was late January 2025) but last spring my very sweet and optimistic and hopeful family decided to do Christmas in my city thinking I wouldn't be able to travel. So the arrival of Christmas has just been a very visceral reminder of that loss and how different the holidays are going to be from what we were expecting. And then, to add insult to injury, my husband's younger cousin sent a Merry Christmas message that included news that they're expecting, due next June. They only just started trying recently. I am genuinely happy and excited for them somewhere deep down. But that news coming while I was already wallowing about the loss was just really hard to hear, and my sorrow for myself has swallowed any joy I'm trying to feel for them at the moment...

R/R: A little rave - this is the busiest this board has been in quite a while! Grateful for this community always, but especially enjoying the larger group dynamic that increased participation brings

emeraldcity603 · December 2024

@aisleofviewtwo I’m sorry for your loss. I can imagine that pregnancy announcement was hard to hear. Holidays are hard enough without the reminders of things that bring heartache.

pinkkillersheep · December 2024

@aisleofviewtwo No problem! I meant to last week but we all successfully used the previous week’s thread so it didn’t seem to slow us down lol. I’m sorry you had those difficult reminders around Christmas. Your feelings are valid and it’s ok to feel however you feel when other announcements come out. @emeraldcity603 Welcome! I hope your visit with us is short and sweet! Hopefully temping brings you some clarity on when O hits. I’ve been trying to go by cm too but am feeling less optimistic it’ll be a good enough indication. @britters314 Good luck with timing! I’m sure it’s frustrating to be this late into the cycle without a temp rise yet. I’m glad it sounds like your husband is supportive of where you’re at in this journey. WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.): BD WTO/TWW: WTO CD7 Timing/CS: N/A How are things going? Any questions?: Just hanging out waiting for the day and debating starting temping since I think I missed the mark just using cm last cycle. R/R: Rant - My mom has been flirting with alcoholism lately and things escalated over the weekend with her falling and hitting her head. I’m pretty pissed she scared the crap out of us and then the next day completely dismissed it saying her shoes are “extra sticky” on the carpet. Dude you were sobbing when I called you and tried to discern if you needed an ambulance, how are you going to claim it’s the shoes?! Rave- The husband and I had a nice lunch out together today and cleared the air a bit. We’ve been in a tough place with our communication lately, so it was good to get our feelings out there.

britters314 · December 2024

TW: loss

@aisleofviewtwo Normally my cycles are very regular, but this is my first cycle post-MC, so I’m not surprised it isn’t a normal cycle

emeraldcity603 · December 2024

@pinkkillersheep I’m sorry you’re dealing with your mom drinking heavily. How old is she? Falling at an older age is kinda a big deal. I hope she can be reasoned with and stop drinking.

emeraldcity603 · December 2024

My temps have dropped and are leveling out nicely. I’m on CD12 and it looks like I could potentially get a temp shift by CD16. My CM is not where it should be for ovulation by CD14. I somewhat expected to ovulate slightly later due to the start of this cycle. We BD last night so I could potentially be set for this cycle if we can’t get another one in. It won’t happen today but tomorrow would be ideal.

pinkkillersheep · December 2024

@emeraldcity603 She’s 63, so when she initially said she was hurt and hit her head I very much panicked. But when I realized she was drunk and mostly looking for attention I was less concerned. I don’t know that she can be reasoned with right now unfortunately. She definitely does not think she has a problem.

Apologies for my wall of text post! Not sure what happened there so I’m blaming the app.

britters314 · January 1

Well, so much for the increased fertility this cycle. AF started today and I didn’t even ovulate at all. Chart below for anyone interested. Maybe this next cycle will go better, we’ll see.

TW: loss mentioned in chart and in text below it

When reading up on what to expect from cycles post-MC, I saw so many women saying they ovulated 2 weeks after their MC. But every one of those posts they didn’t actually track ovulation. They just said “I got my period after 4 weeks, so that means I ovulated 2 weeks before that.” But I got my period after 4 weeks and it doesn’t look like I ovulated at all. I’m curious how common this is and people just aren’t noticing.

emeraldcity603 · January 1

TW: loss mentioned

@britters314 I’m not sure how far along you were but I have had 2 previous losses before this last chemical. One was at 14 weeks and one was a chemical. I ovulated by CD18 after each of them. There are a lot of misconceptions about ovulation and even women who chart don’t necessarily fully understand it. I am in a FAM FB group where people post charts all the time and they are always asking for the specific day they ovulated. When you tell them that ultrasound is the only way to pinpoint the exact day they don’t understand because they are charting. Anyways, do you typically have anovulatory cycles? I have been tracking for 15 years and have only seen 1 anovulatory cycle. Since this is a breakthrough bleed I would assume it will be lighter and shorter.

aisleofviewtwo · January 1

@emeraldcity603 @britters314

TW: MC

I was told by my clinic not to expect a period until hCG was back to <5 (i.e. not pregnant) after my D&C at 6.5 weeks. It took more than 5 weeks with no period for that to happen. I wasn't charting during that time but I always assumed that meant no ovulation until hCG dropped to baseline. @britters314 from what you said earlier about hCG still being elevated (I think that was you!) I wonder if something similar is what happened for you here.

emeraldcity603 · January 1

TW: pregnancy and loss mentioned.

@aisleofviewtwo The day before the start of this cycle I got my beta HCG tested and it was 12. I started bleeding the very next day. I don’t think mine was down to 5 within that time. Maybe? I don’t know how fast it can drop. MC can just throw everything out of wack too. What is happening for some isn’t going to happen for others. I think if it was looked at in depth you would find a wide range of people ovulating and not ovulating. It probably has a lot to do with how well your body tolerates hormonal changes.

britters314 · January 1

@emeraldcity603 I’ve been charting for years and I’ve never had an anovulatory cycle during that time, so this is definitely something new to me. The bleeding is definitely lighter than usual for CD1 for me, so good to know that’s normal, thanks!

@aisleofviewtwo My hcg has gone back down. I wasn’t having it checked with bloodwork, but was checking with pregnancy tests and I did get a negative test on CD 22. I’m not 100% sure how sensitive the test I used is though

ferret22 · January 1

Sorry to hear that @britters314, hopefully next cycle is better. I think I remember reading that the first couple cycles have better odds after MC, so you're not locked into just the first one. Mine was all thrown off after MC too, but I didn't chart that first cycle since my doc told me to wait one out.

peppyj9 · January 2

@emeraldcity1214 we didn't get snow either and my son was very disappointed it didn't snow for Christmas but we usually don't get snow until February so that's fun 🙃 I've heard the first 3 months after a MC are most fertile so you've still got a couple cycles to hit that peak 🤞🏻

@britters314 our bodies sure throw us off sometimes! It's frustrating but hopefully next cycle is better! 🤞🏻

@aisleofviewtwo I totally understand your feelings about this holiday. I held it together pretty well but this past weekend I felt the pang at a good friend's "sip and see" where we met her new baby. She and I had the same exact due date (December 5th) but mine didn't stick and she had her son a couple days before Thanksgiving. It was a reminder that I should have had a new bundle in my arms too. But, it was still nice to get in some newborn snuggles even though it wasn't MY newborn. It was bittersweet 😪 hopefully your time will come soon and you'll have babies close together! 🤞🏻🤞🏻in better news it IS nice to see the board get some more action!

@pinkkillersheep sorry to hear about your mom. That is incredibly frustrating. I hope things get better for her. Sometimes it's hard to not try to parent our parents when we see them acting in unhealthy ways.

peppyj9 · January 2

WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.): BD/TI

WTO/TWW: WTO

Timing/CS: currently on CD10. According to my chart I'm supposed to ovulate on the 8th so we'll see. This month in addition to the ovulation tests I'm also temping to ensure I'm actually ovulating.

How are things going? Any questions?: Just feeling the comedown of the busy holiday marathon of back to back events. I had meant to set up appts before but I haven't yet so tomorrow I'm going to start calling a couple fertility clinics to get the ball rolling on our options since it hasn't happened and I'm 41 🥲

R/R: so the backstory is that I have a half sister that my mom put up for adoption. A few years ago we reconnected through one of those DNA companies. We've met and it's been awesome, though one of the questions she had for me and my sister (who my mom kept - we're both older) was if either of us had fertility issues as she was and was curious about family history. At the time I already had my son and hadn't tried for a 2nd yet and my sister had all "surprise" babies. Apparently she and her husband had been trying for a decade. She knew adoption was an option as she herself was adopted, but I think that fact made her yearn for her own even more. Anyway, fast forward to Christmas, after 13 years of trying she's due in July and I couldn't be more thrilled! Since I'm currently going through it (you all get it) I'm not particularly excited to hear others' pregnancy announcements even though I'm happy for them, but this one hit different. I am amazed at her tenacity and courage for all these years and I'm over the moon happy that this finally happened for her. 🥰

emeraldcity603 · January 2

@peppyj9 That’s awesome you were able to reconnect with your half sister. I love stories like that. She has amazing patience and perseverance to try for 10 years. Did she say what helped them? Or was it all on their own?

ferret22 · January 2

WAYDTGKU (BD/TI/IVF/FET/Benched/etc.): TI

WTO/TWW: WTO

Timing/CS: Cycle day 7, should be getting to fertile window soon.

How are things going? Any questions?: Glad I had a day off yesterday. Needed a rest from work stresses. Hope everyone had a happy New Year's!

R/R: Trigger warning, previous pregnancy mentioned:
I keep feeling nauseous on and off and it's driving me crazy. I know I'm not pregnant right now but it's giving me like flashbacks to when I was pregnant since I was sick the whole way through. I keep feeling hopeful but then remembering that I'm still not pregnant yet. My body is being so confusing. I don't think I'm sick, I think I must just be having weird hormone fluctuations.

aisleofviewtwo · January 2

@peppyj9 What an amazing story of perseverance and hope from your half sister. I appreciate the reminder to not lose faith. Sorry to hear you had a rough holiday season, too. I'm proud of both of us for making it through

Here's to a brighter 2025!

emeraldcity603 · January 2

@ferret22 I have felt the same with symptoms. TW: loss…. Right after I got a BFP last cycle we got hit with a stomach bug and I thought I was experiencing morning sickness already. I have had symptoms come late and as early as the day I found out. I was excited because it made the pregnancy feel more real. Once I realized we had a stomach bug I felt pretty deflated. Then when I realized I didn’t have a sticky baby I felt really down. I hope this is your cycle and the nausea turns into actual pregnancy symptoms for you. 😅😜 here’s to hoping we both feel nauseous in a few weeks. 😂

peppyj9 · January 5

@ferret22 those phantom pregnancy symptoms really are a head spin! Here's to hoping we get real ones soon! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@emeraldcity603 I haven't had a chance to talk to her much other than her announcement, but we have plans to FaceTime soon. We live in different states. But, I do know that she wasn't thinking of IVF for personal/financial reasons and I also know that she just found out the gender (boy) which I think you know right away with IVF. So, I'm inclined to think that it was natural, but can't say for sure! I'll update when I find out more.

@aisleofviewtwo I always find inspiration in others' stories too, especially when you know they took a long, hard road. And I'm proud of both of us too for making it through some difficult moments. Here's hoping 2025 brings us better luck! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

britters314 · January 5

@peppyj9 You don’t always know the sex of the baby right away with IVF. Not everyone has the embryos tested and even if you do, you can ask to not be given that info. I didn’t know the sex for either of the embryos I transferred, though of course some people do.

peppyj9 · January 7

@britters314 oh! I didn't realize that the embryos aren't always tested for gender. I haven't gone through the process but the few people I know who did always knew the gender so I was under the impression that it was known. But like I said, I don't know for sure what process my sister used or if it was natural. I'll know more when I get a chance to sit down with her. Either way I'm just happy it worked for her!

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