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Gender Disappointment - A Boy After 2 Girls

readsalott1013readsalott1013 member
edited November 2024 in May 2025 Babies
Hi all-

Just found out today we are having a
boy after two girls. DH and I really, really wanted another girl and this came as a real shock. I must admit I haven’t taken it too well (lots of tears!). 
We have had a lot of changes in our lives over the last year and somehow I had convinced myself that having another girl was a sure bet (which I know is silly logically but convinced myself regardless). It was something I felt I could count on during so much uncertainty. I absolutely adore my girls and never had gender expectations with either of them, but this time I really wanted the last to be a daughter and round out the trio (so to speak).
This is our last planned pregnancy so it is also crushing to have to put away all the beautiful baby things I saved from my older girls and won’t get to use for a boy. 

Anyone else experience this??
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  • cuveema12-23cuveema12-23 member
    I had huge gender disappointment with my first being a boy (grew up with all girls). I spent the whole pregnancy trying to come to terms.  To be honest, once I had him I loved him so much that now I cannot imagine him being anything else!  Gender disappointment is way more normal than anyone cares to admit and I do feel like it gets much better as time goes on.  You will love this little guy just as much as your darling girls! 
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  • nibsnlintnibsnlint member
    I’m feeling disappointment because this is my last planned baby and we just found out she’s a girl. I’ve got 2 girls and then had a boy and got my heart set on ending up with 2 and 2. I will add that I was disappointed at first when I found out my second was a girl, but once she arrived and we bonded, it felt natural to have 2 girls. Hang in there - you aren’t the only one feeling like this. 
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  • sammich078sammich078 member
    I understand. I feel like I should be more excited to be finally having a girl after already having two boys. But I've been a boy mom for forever...my oldest is 11...and I am feeling like I'll have no idea what to do with a girl. Plus my extended family is irritating me already with constant talk of little girl outfits. I'm just not interested in all that, or I might be if everyone wasn't over the top about it.

    I know in the end everything will be great, but I do sometimes feel like I'd be more comfortable and confident if we were having another boy.
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  • gravcassgravcass member
    I have one of each right now. I was hoping for a girl for my daughter's sake because she wanted a sister so badly. Her dad and I split and he has another daughter with his girlfriend, so she has a sister just not from me. I have that irrational disappointment that I couldn't give her something she wanted when someone else could. 
    It's OK to have gender disappointment. I've found thinking about things I can look forward to helps. My boys will be close in age so I'm excited to see what their bond will become as they grow up together. 
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  • kelsajokelsajo member
    I have a daughter, she's six. I've had my boy's name picked out from day one and was SO hoping that this baby was going to be a boy but I knew my luck didn't roll that way so even when we got the girl result, I cried a lot. I'll NEVER get to use my boy's name and it still breaks my heart. You're not alone mama - Gender Disappointment doesn't mean you don't love your baby, we just had hopes and dreams of something else! 
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