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How to avoid thoughts of miscarriage

knottiefbe0d939b8f31bccknottiefbe0d939b8f31bcc member
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I recently had a miscarriage about 3 months back. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I found out via ultrasound. This was going to be my first child so it was very devastating. I just found out I am pregnant again a week ago and have an appointment in 3 weeks to get the first ultrasound and prenatal care. I’ve been taking my prenatal pills and drinking a lot but this morning when I wiped, I saw light pink spotting on the toilet paper. This was immediately alarming giving the first miscarriage. Idk how I’d survive a second one in such a short time. I read that it is common for spotting to happen but the fear has me in a chokehold. How do I relax until the first doc appointment?
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Re: How to avoid thoughts of miscarriage

  • dpjenniferdpjennifer member
    I'm sorry for your loss.  The only thing you can do is to remember that you are PG today.  Love that baby every moment you have it, whether that is for 5 weeks, 8 weeks, 12 weeks, or to being a living child.  You have no control over whether or not that baby will survive, but you can love it as long as you have it.  

    Also, take comfort in statistics.  Most women have an early MC like you do, but then go on to have a healthy, living baby.  Those of us who have multiple losses in a row and major issues are not the norm.  But, I survived, and others like me survive, and if you would happen to be in that very narrow percentage to lose PG after PG, we exist and will help you through it. 

    Finally, I recommend a good therapist if you feel you need that.  Find a really good fit though, and realize you don't need to keep going to the first one you try if you don't feel comfortable with that person.

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.

    FET #1: June 3, 2024 (failed)

    Lupron Depo June 2024. Benched 3 months again before next FET.

    FET #2: September 2024 (failed)

    FET #3: December 2024 (failed)

    #BitterHagPartyOf1

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  • knottiefbe0d939b8f31bccknottiefbe0d939b8f31bcc member
    Thank you so much! This is really encouraging! I will continue to love and support my unborn baby through and through. And I am so grateful for the support. I am seeking therapy since I’ve recently moved so I am taking the steps I need to prepare for our next baby ❤️
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  • _beckywhite__beckywhite_ member
    @knottiefbe0d939b8f31bcc I'm truly sorry to hear about your recent loss, and I can only imagine how challenging this time must be for you. It's completely natural to feel anxious, especially after experiencing a miscarriage. While spotting can indeed be common in early pregnancy, it’s important to trust your body and the care you're providing it with by taking your prenatal vitamins and staying hydrated.

    To help ease your anxiety until your appointment, consider engaging in activities that promote relaxation, such as gentle yoga or meditation. Breathing exercises can also be incredibly effective in calming the mind. Surround yourself with supportive friends or family members who understand what you’re going through; talking about your feelings can often provide relief.

    Remember that you're not alone in this journey. If the spotting continues or worsens, don’t hesitate to reach out to your healthcare provider for reassurance—they're there to support you every step of the way. Take it one day at a time; focusing on nurturing yourself and staying positive can make a difference during this wait.
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