I hope you all had a wonderful Halloween π we had the most magical exhausting day of it, and my decorations turned out so cute and gothic whimsical amidst the sea of horror in my neighborhood haha.Β
I'm just super excited. And I have no village. So here I am. Lol We got to hear the heartbeat today. Ultrasound is for another day as they don't do it at the birth center. But I'm just so happy to hear the heartbeat. ππ
@shieldmaiden95 what! That's incredible, I'm so happy for you! I'm so eager to hear the heartbeat, by this point I had heard it so frequently with my last baby, it's a little sad I haven't this time yet but hopefully next week!Β
@kalesix3 oh man. That sucks! But at least you had the first ultrasound and got to see the little bean! Mine is next week finally. π When I called to schedule it, they made me feel crazy for wanting to put eyes on my baby, and confirm the due date! "After 14 weeks it's the anatomy scan..." Cool.... I'm 10 weeks and want to see it finally. Just schedule me. LolΒ It took a hot minute and 2 different Dopplers to find the heart beat. I hope you get to hear it soon!!!! ππππΒ
Getting close to 12w mark and Iβm excited but nervous. Iβve had four losses, and I have a better feeling about this pregnancy but itβs still really scary. Tomorrow my home Doppler should be delivered, so thatβll help I think β€οΈ
We had the first ultrasound today!!!! π Idk why but they made me feel guilty for wanting to check on the baby, make sure everything is good, and check the due date. Everyone literally was confused why I wanted the first one. If I would have waited after 14 weeks it could been the anatomy scan... Cool. Y'all are getting paid. Just do the job. Give me piece of mind. Lol
But baby is measuring a week a head. So IDK if they are going to change the due date or not. But it's a little gymnast! So happy everything is good! Sending love to everyone. ππΒ
@maddiirosee which Doppler did you end up getting? I think I'm going to get one too, I'm just not sure which to order. Things ended up being a clusterfuck with my old birth center and so got tired of their continual bullshit and negligence.Β Like they knew I wanted NIPT and refused to do any first trimester blood work because "we don't do first trimester care, you have to wait till after 12 weeks". Which is such a stupid way to be so I just cancelled care through them and went elsewhere but I still haven't heard my baby's heartbeat and my next appointment after my NT scan isn't until January soooo yeah I think I'll just get a Doppler and find the heartbeat myself because this situation really sucks.Β
@shieldmaiden95 I don't know why care providers do that and I hate them for it. Just offer the damn ultrasounds, it's what you're paid for. Ugh honestly so annoyed with prenatal care in this country currently.Β I'm glad everything went so well and that baby is happy and healthy β€οΈ
@kalesix3 girl!!!!! πππ I am so sorry you are going through this. That is ridiculous. Why are the appointments so far apart? Why is this a thing all of a sudden? Prenatal and postpartum care, is beyond broken in this country.Β
@shieldmaiden95 unfortunately because the place I transferred care to is smaller and November and December are full of births for them so I got pushed back just because busyness which I get, technically but it sucks so bad because I've literally only had one ultrasound at 7 weeks and zero other care, and if I hadn't pushed for my nipt to be done at my old place I could have just fallen through the cracks for my care entirely. It's a really different experience than I had with my previous babies and not a good difference either.Β I can't believe how patient you were waiting all this time for a scan π₯Ίπ₯ΊΒ
I still will never understand how from reception, to the ultrasound tech, were both just confused and trying to almost convince me? To not get an ultrasound. I'm not allowed to know babies good and where it should be? The ultrasound tech even had the nerve to tell me as she was looking at everything "well there's not much to see. " She said that about 3 times, while sighing. But there was lil hands, it was moving like crazy and it wasn't just a blob. She gave me a whole 2 pics. ππΒ
I feel like a lot of places just look at you as another number. I absolutely hate it. I also feel care has definitely changed and not for the better since covid. βΉοΈ This frustrates me, you're going through this.Β Sending you so many positive vibes.Β
@shieldmaiden95 they did that to me at the first practice I was with, kept trying to talk me out of it and saying there's nothing to see. I hate that, I get that some people get upset and angry because they didn't know early ultrasounds just show you a blob but they're not my concern and making it your entire practices standard to guilt and shame and nearly refuse to offer a service because you encountered *some* unreasonable ill informed people is actually pathetic.Β I told the clinic manager that, I have a close relationship with her and I genuinely love her as a midwife, she accurately predicted my daughter's exact day of birth and showed up with armfuls of ayurvedic spices for my traditional after birth porridge, like the loveliest hippie woman but she lets the front desk and most of her staff just do whatever the heck they want and I told her it really damages their midwifery model of care when they won't even trust individuals to decide whether they'd like to see their blob baby or not.Β Anyways all that to say massive solidarity, I hate when practices do that to you.Β The writing was on the wall for me to leave my old practice anyway but I genuinely hope yours gets their crap together, it's ridiculous to treat you that way. And only two pictures πππ Is there any way you can just go to an independent ultrasound clinic ?Β
Know weβre all relatively early in this pregnancy - anything yβall are buying during Black Friday sales? Especially you FTMs? Been eyeing some Little Sleepies onesies at 30% off.Β
@kalesix3 awwe I'm all for the hippy dippy stuff. That's sad the rest of the practice isn't that way. That definitely kills the vibe.Β Β The birth center doesn't do the ultrasounds, so they send in a referral to a clinic, and its their preferred clinic that they use. But I'm using a different branch of that clinic, because it's closer to home. (The birth center is about 1 hours 20) And If I can just drive 2 blocks for the ultrasound, vs 1 hour 20 to be in the same town with their exact clinic. I'll take the 2 blocks. πΒ The tech was definitely grinding my gears. I was just glad it's not my primary care. Hopefully next time I give them more to look at. ππΒ You're still going to a birth center? Just a different one now, correct?Β
@knottie034c10a454e3d565 I'm not buying anything. I feel it's too soon to buy anything. But that's just me. Don't let what I say stop you lol some sales do look good.Β But I do have a good amount of stuff saved from my last one. Even though it was 5 years ago.πΒ I did start my Amazon registry this week though! π
@shieldmaiden95 oh my old practice in Colorado did something exactly like that, that hospital and satellite clinic medical system was the best I've ever went to, from the birth center to the hospital midwives and MFM and all the different ultrasound clinics I referred out to they were all so lovely and helpful and genuinely beautiful people and I'll always remember how they made me feel. It's devastating to now live in a state where that's not the standard, and my heart hurts for your satellite clinic experience to be so bad π when you get a bad tech it just ruins eeeeverything. Hopefully next ultrasound someone really kind does your scan!Β I am, I see MFM for important ultrasounds and get my prenatal care at freestanding birth center, it's not for everyone but it's a system that works really well for me, usually haha. Centers can be a mixed bunch but I'm hopeful for my new one. I like a healthy mix of being monitored and being left alone and not stressed the heck out lol πΒ Have you been at your current birth center long or did you transfer care? I possibly dreamed that up!Β
Knottie ( I can never tag knotties usernames) We love the rib knit little sleepies and they have killer resale value so my vote is yes, take advantage of the sale if you like. I haven't bought anything for this baby but it's because I don't need hardly anything since my youngest was born just last year. I'm thinking of getting a bassinet for downstairs, a new changing caddy to keep downstairs too and a new changing basket but I'll get those later on probably. I don't want to go whole hog and blow my Christmas budget haha.Β
We found out baby is a boy!! I was really shocked and tbh had some disappointment but itβs been getting better. I didnβt grow up with Boys at all so boy world is foreign to me π€£π
@madiirosee I got one too and was able to find baby my first try which made me feel so lucky for, I was genuinely pep talking myself not to be disappointed if I couldn't find it. The children really like helping too πΒ You're going to love having a boy, I promise!Β
Β @madiirosee youβll love a baby boy! With my first I was convinced it was a girl and had a little disappointment or maybe more shock but I wouldnβt trade him for anything! He is soo fun and we are best little buddies!Β
So I thought I was one and done. (We also have no village. It's just hubby and I) So figured it was just done. But hubby wanted another. I guess I did too and knew it. I kept a lot of baby stuff from the first. π Took us 15 months to get pregnant. I got to the point where we kinda figured we couldn't get pregnant. But we did and all I know is I don't want to step foot in a hospital. I did a crap ton of research on labor and delivery after my first figuring out how much they screwed up everything, and how things should go. I'm all for hippy dippy stuff, and I knew I wanted this experience to be along those lines. I'm loving the practice so far. They are so loving and hippy dippy. Their birthing tube is huge,Β and I want to be left alone and go home after. π Also my son can be there. So it really just all makes sense for us. I'm actually enjoying this so far.Β
@shieldmaiden95 aw that's awful π you had to go on the whole ob to midwifery model of care pipeline then, I'm so sorry your experience was like that and all the malpractice that came with it, that makes my heart hurt for you. It does sound like you will probably really love your birth center experience, they're much faster and easier and you get to sleep afterwards and go home in a few hours after you deliver π«Άπ»Β I don't even know what to call this sort of care other than intuitive lol. I hope you have the best experience though, you really deserve something night and day different than what your first experience was like. If it makes you feel better, my second birth could not have been more different or more beautiful than my first in every regard!
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We got to hear the heartbeat today. Ultrasound is for another day as they don't do it at the birth center. But I'm just so happy to hear the heartbeat. ππ
It took a hot minute and 2 different Dopplers to find the heart beat. I hope you get to hear it soon!!!! ππππΒ
But baby is measuring a week a head. So IDK if they are going to change the due date or not. But it's a little gymnast! So happy everything is good! Sending love to everyone. ππΒ
Like they knew I wanted NIPT and refused to do any first trimester blood work because "we don't do first trimester care, you have to wait till after 12 weeks". Which is such a stupid way to be so I just cancelled care through them and went elsewhere but I still haven't heard my baby's heartbeat and my next appointment after my NT scan isn't until January soooo yeah I think I'll just get a Doppler and find the heartbeat myself because this situation really sucks.Β
@shieldmaiden95 I don't know why care providers do that and I hate them for it. Just offer the damn ultrasounds, it's what you're paid for. Ugh honestly so annoyed with prenatal care in this country currently.Β
I'm glad everything went so well and that baby is happy and healthy β€οΈ
I can't believe how patient you were waiting all this time for a scan π₯Ίπ₯ΊΒ
I still will never understand how from reception, to the ultrasound tech, were both just confused and trying to almost convince me? To not get an ultrasound. I'm not allowed to know babies good and where it should be? The ultrasound tech even had the nerve to tell me as she was looking at everything "well there's not much to see. " She said that about 3 times, while sighing. But there was lil hands, it was moving like crazy and it wasn't just a blob. She gave me a whole 2 pics. ππΒ
I feel like a lot of places just look at you as another number. I absolutely hate it. I also feel care has definitely changed and not for the better since covid. βΉοΈ This frustrates me, you're going through this.Β Sending you so many positive vibes.Β
I told the clinic manager that, I have a close relationship with her and I genuinely love her as a midwife, she accurately predicted my daughter's exact day of birth and showed up with armfuls of ayurvedic spices for my traditional after birth porridge, like the loveliest hippie woman but she lets the front desk and most of her staff just do whatever the heck they want and I told her it really damages their midwifery model of care when they won't even trust individuals to decide whether they'd like to see their blob baby or not.Β
Anyways all that to say massive solidarity, I hate when practices do that to you.Β
The writing was on the wall for me to leave my old practice anyway but I genuinely hope yours gets their crap together, it's ridiculous to treat you that way. And only two pictures πππ
Is there any way you can just go to an independent ultrasound clinic ?Β
Β The birth center doesn't do the ultrasounds, so they send in a referral to a clinic, and its their preferred clinic that they use. But I'm using a different branch of that clinic, because it's closer to home. (The birth center is about 1 hours 20) And If I can just drive 2 blocks for the ultrasound, vs 1 hour 20 to be in the same town with their exact clinic. I'll take the 2 blocks. πΒ
The tech was definitely grinding my gears. I was just glad it's not my primary care. Hopefully next time I give them more to look at. ππΒ
You're still going to a birth center? Just a different one now, correct?Β
@knottie034c10a454e3d565 I'm not buying anything. I feel it's too soon to buy anything. But that's just me. Don't let what I say stop you lol some sales do look good.Β But I do have a good amount of stuff saved from my last one. Even though it was 5 years ago.πΒ I did start my Amazon registry this week though! π
I am, I see MFM for important ultrasounds and get my prenatal care at freestanding birth center, it's not for everyone but it's a system that works really well for me, usually haha. Centers can be a mixed bunch but I'm hopeful for my new one. I like a healthy mix of being monitored and being left alone and not stressed the heck out lol πΒ
Have you been at your current birth center long or did you transfer care? I possibly dreamed that up!Β
Knottie ( I can never tag knotties usernames)
We love the rib knit little sleepies and they have killer resale value so my vote is yes, take advantage of the sale if you like. I haven't bought anything for this baby but it's because I don't need hardly anything since my youngest was born just last year. I'm thinking of getting a bassinet for downstairs, a new changing caddy to keep downstairs too and a new changing basket but I'll get those later on probably. I don't want to go whole hog and blow my Christmas budget haha.Β
You're going to love having a boy, I promise!Β
So I just started here. I had a traumatic experience giving birth the first time. It was just horrible... Horrible nurses,(in delivery and after care) midwife, gave me pitocin when I didnt need it. You name it. I also got a spinal headache from the epidural, when the they transferred me to the floor to stay at after labor, the nurse goes "oh you still have your epidural catheter.." and straight ripped it out of my back. And that gave me a spinal headache. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sit up, I couldn't walk, couldn't feed my baby, kept puking everything up, I was begging for back to back meds. They let me walk out and didn't care. Or should I say, shoved me out the door and didn't care. I was really just another number to them. I didn't sleep for 5 days straight with delivery on day 2. They wouldn't leave me alone.Β
Β I had to go the ER a couple days later with a newborn... That was fun. They refused to treat my spinal headache, despite being one of the biggest hospitals in the state. So I had to wait a couple more days to go back to labor and delivery, and the anesthesiologist (who gave me my epidural.) gave me a blood patch. I absolutely adore that man. π He has no idea.Β
So I thought I was one and done. (We also have no village. It's just hubby and I) So figured it was just done. But hubby wanted another. I guess I did too and knew it. I kept a lot of baby stuff from the first. π Took us 15 months to get pregnant. I got to the point where we kinda figured we couldn't get pregnant. But we did and all I know is I don't want to step foot in a hospital. I did a crap ton of research on labor and delivery after my first figuring out how much they screwed up everything, and how things should go. I'm all for hippy dippy stuff, and I knew I wanted this experience to be along those lines. I'm loving the practice so far. They are so loving and hippy dippy. Their birthing tube is huge,Β and I want to be left alone and go home after. π Also my son can be there. So it really just all makes sense for us. I'm actually enjoying this so far.Β
So that's my story. ππΒ
@madiirosee aww!!! Congratulations!!!! That's how I was with my first. I was determined and my mind was made up it was a girl, and that's what I wanted. I was disappointed when they told me it was a boy. By the time we made it home from the appointment, I was so flipping glad I was having a boy!! π Boys are seriously so much fun! You're going to love it! I promise. I'm such a boy mom now, it's not even funny. He's my buddy! Congratulations!!!! π©΅π©΅π©΅
I don't even know what to call this sort of care other than intuitive lol. I hope you have the best experience though, you really deserve something night and day different than what your first experience was like. If it makes you feel better, my second birth could not have been more different or more beautiful than my first in every regard!