Needing some guidance..

Hi everyone.

Im 34 years old.. & I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant. I kind of got pregnant unexpectedly with my boyfriend of 2 years. He completely stepped up which I’m so grateful for.

I’m already a mother to a 12 year old. I have full custody and I’m used to being 100% independent. My boyfriend and my son are close and everything just felt right. He suggested I move in with him and work from home which would save me around $2000 monthly. It sounded like a great idea. I could work less and prepare for the baby.

A few weeks ago, he decided he wasn’t happy with his job. He quit his job with no real backup plan. As an entrepreneur myself, I’m all for chasing a dream and doing what you love. As long as it’s done responsibility and strategically. He had no back up plan, he withdrew his 401k and now that’s what we’re living off of. This is my last few weeks working. I can’t go back to my old home, I lost 70% of my clientele moving to a new city, I can no longer support myself. I feel stuck.

I truly wasn’t prepared for this major change. I thought he would wait until after the baby.. I thought we’d have good insurance for her.. he’s not utilizing his time wisely… major couch lock and tv addiction. It’s like a whole new person. He’s lazy, only helps when I stonewall or get upset.. He feels that l don’t appreciate everything he’s done.. but I’m the one cooking, cleaning, working.. all while raising my first born, driving him to school 20 miles away daily and trying to stay stress free. I have gestational diabetes and chronic hypertension as well. This isn’t healthy for my baby.

He pays the rent. Is that enough for me to not complain? I would’ve been more at peace not changing my lifestyle at all.. it sucks.