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Gender Disappointment

knottie33099bdd120bf597knottie33099bdd120bf597 member
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I'm a mom of 3 beautiful girls. Pregnant with .y 4th almost in the second trimester. Got the genetic results back today. Baby is fine but the gender is a boy. I don't know if I'm upset because I don't know how to care for a little boy. I'm just lost. I feel horrible because I'm feeling this way about my child. What can I do to help the gender disappointment. 
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  • harpseal135harpseal135 member
    Sorry, but feel thankful that you have been able to have another child.  Sorry, but not sorry.  Feel blessed you have been given an opportunity to bring another human into this world, as many women wish to even just have 1.  

    knottie33099bdd120bf597 said:
    I'm a mom of 3 beautiful girls. Pregnant with .y 4th almost in the second trimester. Got the genetic results back today. Baby is fine but the gender is a boy. I don't know if I'm upset because I don't know how to care for a little boy. I'm just lost. I feel horrible because I'm feeling this way about my child. What can I do to help the gender disappointment. 



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  • dpjenniferdpjennifer member
    Genetically, although you're in the relative 'safe' zone of the second trimester, there's still a small chance that something can go horribly wrong with your PG and you could end up losing the baby or have severe health issues.  If things do progress normally as a majority of PG do, I'm sure you'll adjust to the sex of your baby, although if not, adoption is always an option. Many people would be grateful to have a genetically healthy baby if the sex is the only problem.  

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  • manniemorphinemanniemorphine member
    It took me about two months to stop being depressed that my second was a boy since I already had one. Honestly, I was just thankful he was healthy. I loved being able to bond with my older son when we would go shopping and he would pick cute outfits for his brother! If it weren’t for that, I probably would have lost my mind. Try not to be too upset! You can do this! I’m sure you’ll adjust better than you think you will :)
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  • komama7117komama7117 member
    It is totally understandable to have disappointment about gender. I think we all naturally dream about what our families would look like and when reality doesn’t match, we feel disappointment. I’m glad you have some time to settle into the idea of having a son before he is born. When I had my son, I was worried about knowing what to do also, yet was surprised at how similar it was to having my daughters. I felt just as natural to love him as it has with my girls.  He is now almost 4 and I am so glad to have a son! I pray that you find peace with this news and that you and your family grow excited for the new adventure of having a boy in the family!
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