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Husband won't budge on name

jstorz21jstorz21 member
in August 2024 Moms
When we were pregnant with our first and didn't know what we were having we have Dean for a boy and Diana for a girl, we had a girl and her name is Diana. We are now having a boy due August and I am not crazy about the name Dean anymore and I've told him this many times and he just doesn't care wont budge, every name I've recommended he just says no, it's Dean 
Why is this so hard, anyone else having a hard time ? I feel like if we name him Dean I'm gonna have name regret, I feel so disconnected with this pregnancy because I'm having a name forced on me.
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Re: Husband won't budge on name

  • lqbtqmommylqbtqmommy member
    edited May 2024
    That sounds like a very tricky problem. Is there any way to sit down in a low pressure environment and talk to your husband about why the name Dean is important to him? There could be some underlying reason that he doesn't want to budge that might help your perspective. If it ends up being a non-negotiable for him, maybe you could choose a middle name or a nickname to use for your new baby that would help with the connection. Lots of people have multiple names used by different family members. Good luck working through this!
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  • lolothenailtechlolothenailtech member
    I agree with lqbtmommy. Sitting down and low key discussing why Dean is so important to him, and also why you don’t feel a connection with the name anymore. I also second using Dean as a middle name if possible. My first sons name had to be a family name (the whole name) so we chose to give him a different first name and 2 middle names instead. Maybe something like that might work? Also, my husband was called by his middle name for his whole life, so if you do go with Dean for his first name, maybe address him by his middle name?

    Sorry you’re going through this. It sounds so hard!
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  • theneno1012theneno1012 member
    Recruit his family to tell him they don’t like it 😅. Half joking, but that’s also what I did when my husband was stuck on a name I didn’t want 
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  • miamia7miamia7 Newbie
    Pick a middle name you like and that goes with the initial D (like James for example )then you can call the baby DJ?
    A friend of mine did this with her first son. She wasn’t keen on the name but it had VERY special, family meaning to her husband and she wasn’t going to deny him that.

    Or make up a story with a fake dean you “used to know back in the day” that was and awful human being or something and say you can’t bare naming your child that😂😂
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  • jstorz21jstorz21 member
    He has no special reason for liking it, it's the name of a character from the show supernatural lol so def not special, oh and he also wants to pick the middle name so I get nothing to do with the name 
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  • jstorz21jstorz21 member
    His family is sickening close, they shit on all my names and only like Dean because he likes Dean 
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  • sph97sph97 member
    Mmmmm. I would remind him they are going to ask Mama what the name is regardless, and just keep pushing! Naming a baby is definitely a two yes decision! 
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  • nken20nken20 member
    I guess you should meet halfway then. If he wants Dean, then you can suggest a second name for combination. What do you think? Kind of tricky but it can be solved. Talking about it without heated arguing will solve the issue. Sorry you're experiencing such thing.
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