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Feel both parents are going to be upset we are having another baby

knottie6daa654da93479a4knottie6daa654da93479a4 member
edited April 2024 in 1st Trimester
Hi. We had our first sweet baby boy May 31 2023. He was our rainbow baby:) some how we have another miracle baby on the way. We are currently at 7 wks. 5 days. I have told my best 2 friends but that is it. I am petrified to tell my mom and a little less scared to tell jons parents. I feel that this wasn’t in their plans, that my mom is going to straight up tear me apart. She will be sure to remind me of all the things we do not have right now. While forgetting how happy we make each other and how much fun we have. I am so scared to be let down and hurt just because another baby doesn’t fit my mom’s plans. 
Please any good advice, anyone been here before? I would like to add I will be 39 May 1st and I am with someone I grew up with and reconnected with during Covid. We have know each other since 2000. Yeah we live in a small place, and we are working on making more money but we have everything these babies need and want plus all the love in the world and laughter!!

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Re: Feel both parents are going to be upset we are having another baby

  • peppyj9peppyj9 member
    Not really sure why at 39 YOUR baby needs to fit in with your mom's plans? Are you having the baby with your mom? If you and your husband have your own place and pay your own bills then why does YOUR baby need to be a part of anyone else’s plans? You are a grown ass woman, you do not need your mom's permission to have a baby! Newsflash, you get to plan your own life now, you do not need to let your mom plan it for you. Try letting go of the idea that you need hers, or anyone else’s approval. That being said, I'm sorry you feel like your mom won't be happy for you and celebrate your baby. This is a joy and a blessing and if you and hubby are happy that's all that really matters. Hopefully your mom will be happy to be a grandma to another baby, even if it wasn't in her plans. 
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  • blueberrylemonade12blueberrylemonade12 member
    Congratulations!! That’s so exciting!

    I’m sorry that you anticipate your families not being supportive. I can imagine that being really stressful. I hope that they’ll pleasantly surprise you, but if not…really, the only people whose opinions matter on whether you have another child are yours and your partners. If you’re ready and excited, that’s what’s important. ❤️
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  • chsbean2024chsbean2024 member
    I’m so sorry. My in-laws were pissed off with my first pregnancy and didn’t say a word when I had a miscarriage. All I can say is if you and your immediate family are happy, that’s all that matters. Lean on those who are happy for you. Their behavior says far more about them than you. 
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