When to tell people you’re expecting?

Re: When to tell people you’re expecting?

• puzzlehead11 member

  February 2024

  Congrats to you and I love the idea of the scratch tickets to tell your parents, so cute! 

  
  

  This is my 2nd pregnancy so already handling things differently but for my first we kind of had 3 stages of telling people. First was immediate family that we told within 2-3 weeks of finding out. We tried to do something fun/cute for each reveal. Then second we told some very close friends after we had our first ultrasound and heard the heartbeat and felt a little less anxious. Basically anyone who we didn’t want to find out by seeing an Instagram post. And then once we made it to the 2nd trimester we announced on social media. 

  
  

  This time around feels much more casual, I texted my mom a picture of the pregnancy test the morning I took it, lol. My husband and I agreed that at this early stage, we will share the news with anyone whom we would also openly talk about a loss with. So we have already told our close family and a select group of friends. 

  
  

  Good luck, can’t wait to hear how your reveal goes!!

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• dragoneyes0502 member

  February 2024

  I'm dying to tell some people so that I have people to talk about it with. (No offense, y'all, but so far I haven't progressed too too far beyond seeing you as square pictures and screen names.) But I also sort of don't want to tempt fate by telling too many people too soon. And I feel like we should tell our parents first, but I want to tell them in person, so we need to set up get together with them, and I'm also a little concerned about our parents' smothering us a bit? I almost told a close friend today who is my #momgoals, but then didn't at the last second. Argh, I don't know, partially enjoying having it be our secret, and at the same time dying to tell a few people to talk with about it. I'm all over the place.

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• cb0617 member

  February 2024

  We’ve already told my stepkids, my parents, his parents/siblings, and my 3 close mom friends. We have asked them not to share with anyone else until we give them the green light (probably 12 weeks) and especially not on social media (mainly bc we don’t have socials). I figured… if something were to happen, who I want to be honest and grieve with? And that’s who I told. (We had to tell the kids because they’re teens and they already picked up on my symptoms, and we had to tell his siblings because the kids are close to them and wouldn’t keep a secret.) 
  
  
  I didn’t feel the need to do it in any cutesy way. That’s just not my style. We just told them flat out over the phone. But I love seeing all the adorable announcements for family members! 

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• simplyme_33 member

  February 2024

  We decided to tell immediate family first and have been slowly calling extended family.  It's early still but we are still very excited and there is no way I could keep it to myself for long.   I've never been pregnant before so this is all new to me.   = ] 

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• dragoneyes0502 member

  February 2024

  I've been, of course, talking with my husband about my fears, and he's a great listener, but he suggested that I need to tell some people so I have experienced moms to talk to. So we invited my parents over for brunch tomorrow to break the news, and then I also plan to tell a close friend. I need people to talk to about this!

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