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Weekly check in 1/29

HGRichHGRich member
in May 2024 Moms
EDD / Weeks + Days:


FTM/STM/TTM+:


Baby is the size of a (an):


Team blue/pink/green: 


Upcoming Appointments: 


How are you feeling?: 


Rants/Raves: 


Questions: 

GTKY: what is your favorite personality trait about yourself? 
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Re: Weekly check in 1/29

  • bserenabserena member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: 25w, May 13th

    FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

    Baby is the size of a (an): Prairie Dog

    Team blue/pink/green: Blue

    Upcoming Appointments: Today! I go in for my rescan to check fluid levels. Super nervous.

    How are you feeling?: Nervous about the low fluid, horrible heartburn, and tired, lol. But otherwise good.

    Rants/Raves: None

    Questions: None

    GTKY: what is your favorite personality trait about yourself? Oooooh... this is hard, lol! Probably my loyalty to friends and family and that I would do anything for them.
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    25+4, May 9th

    TTM

    Baby is the size of a head of cauliflower (but prairie dog is hilarious).

    Team blue

    Upcoming appointment: 2/7 glucose and growth scan

    Feeling: reflux and constipation, man. The main second trimester problems. Or at least they historically have been for me. 

    Rave: I think I’ve narrowed it down to what breast pump I’ll go with. Rant: DH just does not agree on any baby names and is also currently not being helpful and providing options to replace the ones he’s vetoed. Sigh. 

    GTKY: my empathy has always felt like a burden more than a strength but I try to see it as a strength more often. Maybe my intellectual curiosity? 
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  • bserenabserena member
    @HGRich what breast pump did you choose? I had both spectra and medela last time and much prefer my spectra, but since I still have that one I am trying to get a wearable as a secondary with insurance. I think I am gonna go with the momcozy M5 because its covered completely by my insurance.
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  • kamikazezoomykamikazezoomy member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: 25 weeks and a couple days, May 11

    FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM

    Baby is the size of a (an): TI-89 Calculator (the Babylist size comparisons are so much funnier than the Bump ones!)

    Team blue/pink/green: Pink

    Upcoming Appointments: This Thursday, followup ultrasound for measurements we couldn't get last time, and glucose screening

    How are you feeling?: Pretty good, but tiring easily. 

    Rants: I've struggled with my weight my whole life and while I'm coming to terms with the body changes that pregnancy is bringing, I'm getting SO tired of reading "normal weight gain is 25-35 pounds with a normal BMI, but less if you were overweight or obese to start but don't stress about it!" and "You only need x amount of extra calories but you shouldn't be counting calories!" If I shouldn't be counting them, don't tell me how many extra I need! If I shouldn't be worrying about how much weight I'm gaining, quit mentioning it in every other article! 

    Raves: My husband finally got to feel baby kick yesterday, and it was just the best! and the kicks are feeling less like indiscernible pokes and more recognizable as how babies move around. 

    GTKY: I really like my sense of humor. It gets me in trouble sometimes, but more often, a bit of levity or wit gets me through something rough, and I like to think I've brightened others' days that way too.
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  • kamikazezoomykamikazezoomy member
    @bserena I hope your scan goes/went well! Keep us posted!
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: 5/2 27 weeks this week

    FTM/STM/TTM+: STM

    Baby is the size of a (an): romaine 🥬

    Team blue/pink/green: pink💗

    Upcoming Appointments: 2/9 for 28 week + glucose

    How are you feeling?: the third tri symptoms are definitely starting even though I technically have another week until then. Feeling stretched out and out of breath easily. But overall nothing too bad. Can still sleep well.

    Rants/Raves: I gained like 4 lbs in the last week or so after not gaining anything. I know I gain all of my weight in third tri so I gotta cool it on the sugar/fats otherwise it will get out of control 😅
    Rave is that we’re pretty settled on her name I think! I got the stroller set up (it’s heavier than I expected lol) and washed the infant seat.

    Questions: none

    GTKY: what is your favorite personality trait about yourself? Probably my humor. 
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @bserena I had spectras with my first two kids and I asked around about what pumps worked better for moms who don’t respond well to spectras and the medela instyle was the winner. I would certainly love to actually be able to pump more than an ounce at a time! But I guess we’ll see. Fingers crossed it works. 
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  • pennyandzooeypennyandzooey member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: 26 weeks


    FTM/STM/TTM+: STM


    Baby is the size of a (an): kale


    Team blue/pink/green: blue


    Upcoming Appointments: Friday and Saturday for scan with MFM and glucose with OB


    How are you feeling?: starting to get really fatigued. This happened in the third trimester of my first pregnancy as well. And of course baby’s been keeping me up at night with nonstop wiggling lol


    Rants/Raves: I found out my SIL is also pregnant with a boy! So excited!


    Questions: none

    GTKY: I’m pretty good at making goals and seeing them through. Like running a marathon, learning new hobbies, etc.
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @bserena any updates? 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    I thought of a question.,..is anyone having their mom/mil stay with them after the baby is born? 
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  • louloumamalouloumama member
    That would be my nightmare hahahaha. I plan on channeling my mother’s energy toward logistical support only (grocery and food delivery)
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  • denise_amddenise_amd member
    Luckily my MIL is 15 min down the road and willing to help us anyway we need (picking up groceries, meal prepping, watching our puppy), so she doesn't need to stay with us lol. She's also great at respecting boundaries, I think it stems from her own trauma of having overbearing in-laws.

    My mom...well she wanted to stay for a week a month after baby is born, but I agreed to just a weekend for the first visit. We'll see how that goes 😅 gonna be leaning heavily on my therapy for this
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    edited January 2024
    @virtaur I need my mom to stay with my other two kiddos during the hospital stay, and maybe a day before and a day after? I dunno. She’s the primary childcare for my bro and SIL 3.5 hours away from me so she can’t be gone long. My SIL is a teacher and won’t be done until end of May. 
    Funnily enough she told me she had told SIL she’d need to find alternate childcare for the entire month of May and I was like why the heck would you tell her that? Apparently she thought we’d need her for a month, even though I’ve never asked for that with past kiddos. lol. SIL was extremely relieved to hear I told my mom no way. 

    Though related to that, I have no family here so if I go into labor suddenly I gotta find some friends willing to sit at my house with my kids until my mom arrives in town. I’m waiting to find out if I’ll be induced or not before I make any requests of friends. I’m worried I’ll go into labor middle of the night and it’ll progress too quickly for anyone to arrive. But I’m hopeful someone will be happy to pop by and stay with my kids. I’ve got some friends who would do that, as long as they woke up to a phone call!

    As for MIL, I am not remotely interested in her coming by. As it is, by the time my mom leaves, my other SIL (DH’s sister) will likely be having her little girl who’s due ten days after mine, so I’m sure she’ll be with her. Which is great. It’s her first baby and I’m not really interested in having MIL around unless she actually cooked and cleaned this time instead of only playing with kids. 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    edited January 2024
    Thanks everyone for chiming in! We will still be living with my in laws so we’ll definitely have a bit of help. However my mom lives on the opposite coast so she wants to come meet the baby + help me if needed. Only issue is that she originally wanted to stay 2-3 weeks. I just can’t ask my in laws to host her for that long. So maybe a week? She didn’t visit until my son was 2 months old I think mostly because of Covid and financial reasons. And we were living here then as well. My H and In laws don’t particularly love my mom so that’s why I want to limit her stay a bit. I also know she wanted to come right when she was born. But I want that time for our little unit to bond and for H to actually help me while he’s home from work. So I told her mid-late may would be better. I get she wants time with her grandkids but I’d rather her try to come more often than stay for a long time. But of course it makes me feel bad since I’m non-confrontational and don’t like hurting feelings. 
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  • kamikazezoomykamikazezoomy member
    My parents are planning on coming down to watch the dog while I’m in the hospital and stay to help as long as necessary. I think my mom would move in if I asked her to, but she also has said if she’s driving me crazy to just say and they’ll leave. My MIL hasn’t said much, I think partly to respect boundaries and partly because she still works and is essentially raising my BIL’s 3yo. She’ll be welcome whenever she can come down though, as we get along and she used to be a labor and delivery nurse. 
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  • pennyandzooeypennyandzooey member
    My parents live nearby and will watch our daughter when I go into labor. My MIL (who is a much easier person to deal with than my mom) will likely fly over once the baby is born to help out for a bit.
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @virtaur I mean regardless of what your H’s family thinks you deserve to see your mom if you want to! But I get that sleeping arrangements are tough, especially if she can’t afford a hotel much. Just remember that you deserve as little or as much support as you want and can get, and you shouldn’t worry about hurting feelings, particularly around such a vulnerable time when family should be extra sensitive to YOUR feelings about it. Not the other way around. 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @HGRich 100%. She’d be staying here so that’s why I’m feeling the way I do because that’s basically telling them that they have to host her for that time. It would be different if she reached out to my MIL and asked or asked me what I wanted before just deciding on what she wants to do. I also want her to come when the baby is a couple-few weeks old so maybe I’ll be healed enough to want to go on walks/get out of the house. 
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