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Weekly Check-In 1/15

virtaurvirtaur member
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EDD / Weeks + Days:

FTM/STM/TTM+:

Baby is the size of a (an):

Team blue/pink/green: 

Upcoming Appointments: 

How are you feeling?: 

Rants/Raves: 

Questions: 

GTKY: What’s been the hardest thing to refrain from during pregnancy? What do you anticipate being the hardest change when baby gets here?
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @louloumama I gain most of my weight in third tri so it can definitely come as a shock if you gain more than expected!
    I also find it hard sometimes when everyone is drinking around me and I have a soda or water haha. I did find that drinking sparkling apple cider on NYE made me feel like I was close to drinking champagne, I like sweet wines anyway 😂
    & as for time after the baby is born. I’d usually nap when the baby was napping & bring him into the bathroom in a bouncer or seat when I needed to take a shower or get ready. That was a lifesaver! I’d take super quick showers because he didn’t like to be left in the seat but it was better than nothing 😂 I still struggle with taking care of myself though since I never really had a good routine prior to being a mom.
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @HGRich oh man I’m sorry the reflux is getting bad! :/ I’m crossing fingers you don’t have GD! 
    I also am worried about the sleep deprivation especially with a 3 year old. Being hungry and/or tired and I turn into a bear lol so solidarity with you on that!
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @louloumama I absolutely do most of my gaining after 22 weeks. This pregnancy I gained absolutely nothing until 21 weeks (actually lost a pound or two) and then gained four in two weeks suddenly. Lmao. It’s just different for everyone. But as long as you don’t go over what your doc recommends it doesn’t really matter! 

    But also, I think the sudden gain for me and maybe also for you is big growth in baby and thus blood volume, amniotic fluid, uterus size, and placenta size! There are definitely spurts in baby’s growth at times and you gain with them. 
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @virtaur when I had DS, DD was two. It was hard. She was deliberately getting into trouble when I was trying to get him down to nap or busting in and waking him just as I was trying to transfer him to the bed. My advice there is, use screens. A few months of screens won’t hurt and you can stop when baby is older. Screens are a necessary tool in a society that doesn’t provide a village for moms. 

    Related, I just want to mention to all of you, whether you’re going from 0-1, 1-2, or whatever, that it is patently unacceptable for your partner to not help equally. Talk through expectations now. Becoming a parent can often bring out the worst in men. I know about abusive relationships with toxic partners who get worse during pregnancy and once kids arrive. So I’m happy to talk through things if you like. Couples therapy before the baby arrives to discuss roles and expectations could be fantastic. 
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  • denise_amddenise_amd member
    EDD / Weeks + Days: May 23, 21 weeks + 4 days

    FTM/STM/TTM+: first time mom!

    Baby is the size of a (an): endive

    Team blue/pink/green: pink 🩷

    Upcoming Appointments: checkup on 2/7, and then the appt after that is the glucose test

    How are you feeling?: Mentally doing great, though there are some days when my anxiety peaks and I freak out/panic/spiral lol. Physically I'm feeling the weight gain on my joints 😓 I wake up at least once a night with a foot cramp, pulled calf, or achy hip. Hoping magnesium supplements and drinking electrolyte water before bed will help over time, I can only imagine it will get worse in the third trimester!! It's nice to feel baby's movements though, she's gotten so strong.

    Rants/Raves: I am so mentally checked out of work, it's worrying 😅 All I want to do is think about baby and becoming a mama and nesting, and the work I'm currently assigned is less enjoyable than the projects I've had in the past so it makes it even harder to focus. 

    Questions: Is there anything you regret not doing more of during pregnancy? 

    GTKY: What’s been the hardest thing to refrain from during pregnancy? What do you anticipate being the hardest change when baby gets here?

    I've decided to enjoy this pregnancy as much as I can because I'm not sure if we'll have another, and I'm afraid I might be taking it too far 😅 the nursery is the best designed room in our house for sure lol. I've also planned out the baby shower (literally everyone we invited has to fly in, so it was easier for me to handle planning), ordered the decor and desserts for it, booked a maternity photoshoot, found a doula... I'm loving every moment but it's adding up and I feel like I can't be stopped 🫠

    I'm not sure what to expect when baby gets here, so I'm trying to keep my mind open to anything and everything. I think I'll struggle the most having to end maternity leave and go back to work full-time at 3 months PP
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @denise_amd I think I regretted not doing more dates or get togethers with friends while I had the chance. And exercises that help with pelvic floor and labor and recovery, in past pregnancies. Doing better at that now. Except dates, because we already have two and babysitters are expensive. lol. 
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  • stress_enginestress_engine member
    EDD / Weeks + Days:
    June 1st, 20w + 2d 

    FTM/STM/TTM+:
    First time!

    Baby is the size of a (an):
    Banana 🍌

    Team blue/pink/green: 
    We officially have a GIRL! 🩷

    Upcoming Appointments: 
    4 weeks from now, need to finish getting a few things that weren't visible on the anatomy scan, plus regular check up

    How are you feeling?: 
    Always feels TMI, but constipation has really kicked up again! 🙄 Heartburn is staying mostly managable under medication. Pregnancy insomnia 3/5 nights last week, which was rough. Seeing baby girl on the anatomy scan was such a high! She is more perfect than I ever could have imagined! 🥰 Telling our families was also so much fun!

    Rants/Raves: 
    Lots of highs and lows. We just found out that my husband is getting laid off and it is stressful. We will get through it, we have a lot of support, and I know it will be ok. It's definitely not the hardest thing that we've been through together! But I'm obviously worried about him, worried about switching health care plans right now, and I am especially mourning the 16 weeks 100% paid paternity leave that we were looking forward to! 😥 

    Questions: 
    Baby is getting stronger in there and I love it! I'm getting really impatient for my husband to feel it too! I know it can't be predicted exactly, but around what time do any STMs+ remember feeling the kicks break through?!

    GTKY: What’s been the hardest thing to refrain from during pregnancy? What do you anticipate being the hardest change when baby gets here?

    Oh man, I am literally having dreams now about getting a huge movie theater soda all to myself! 😂 The other thing that has been difficult is resisting the urge to just give up and eat nothing but mac and cheese for every meal, but happy to report that eating has drastically improved since start of second tri!

    Not really sure what the hardest changes will be! Probably something that I can't actually relate to or predict until I've been through it. I'm sure there will be lots of  adjustments, our own unique difficulties to work through, and plenty of beautiful invaluable moments too!
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @HGRich yes to screens!! He watches tv/has a kids fire tablet so I’m totally going to be utilizing that. I have nothing against screens & he’s learned so much from his shows & games 😂 & I agree that I will need H to be pulling his weight when he’s home! Cause right now I do almost 100% of everything when it comes to taking care of our son. If he doesn’t help with the baby or taking care of him so I can tend to her then there will be real issues. He was super hands off when our son was a baby so I’m crossing fingers that was just due to him not having experience with babies and that this time will be different. But I def have to talk to him about expectations because the resentment gets REAL lol 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @denise_amd I agree with @HGRich that I wish I did more solo time & dates with H before our son, except it was super hard because of Covid so that kind of put a damper on my first pregnancy. I had a baby shower but it was pretty small. 
    For this one I’ll probably regret not being active. I gotta get my son outside more & take walks. Enjoying just me and him time. I definitely get enough sleep which I am enjoying very much before newborn wake ups lol. I have to pamper myself more! Also everything you’re doing is totally normal, enjoy it! I haven’t ever had a maternity shoot or professional pics but I do kinda wish I did! 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @stress_engine I’m sorry about your husbands job :( sending good vibes your way! I’m glad you have support through all of this. My H got laid off last August. It’s been happening so much it’s horrible. Hoping for bigger and better things for your H! Does your state offer paid family leave? 
    & I can’t remember what week I felt her on the outside. Sometime before 20 weeks I think. I have an anterior placenta but I can feel her movements on the outside when shes below it. She’s breech I think still so her kicks pop out above my pubic bone. Is your baby head down& what side is your placenta on? My son was head down at 20 weeks with a posterior placenta and I would see/feel his kicks higher. But it was almost harder to feel from the outside. then when he got bigger his body parts and butt would stick out and form lumps on my bump🤣
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  • HGRichHGRich member
    @stress_engine I think I felt DD outside around 18 weeks and DS around the same. This kid was even earlier because I don’t have an anterior placenta this time. But it’s different for everyone! My SIL hasn’t felt hers outside at 22 weeks. Also I’m so sorry about the layoff! What an awful time for that. I’m glad you have a support system and I hope he finds a job quick that lets him have some solid paternity leave. 

    Add in some magnesium citrate gummies for constipation. That’s been working for me. 
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  • stress_enginestress_engine member
    Thanks for the concern about the lay off. My state most definitely does not offer paid family leave, we are still on federal minimum wage at $7.25/hr! I get 9 weeks paid and that is considered very generous. (As if it's even easy to find childcare for a 2 month old!) My husband was working for an out of state company remotely.

    If we have to go to health care through my employer we will be out of network at the hospital we were hoping to deliver at. The in-network one recently cancelled all of their contracts with local providers, so the only doctors delivering there are their internal hospitalists. Absolutely ridiculous, and completely unacceptable for my employer's health care option IMO!

    I have a posterior placenta and she is breech right now. She does a lot of subtle rolling, but not as much active kicking times right now! I think the issue is my husband hasn't been nearby when she has really gotten going! She'll do her little rolls with big pauses in between in the evenings and it feels deeper in.
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  • flowerintherainflowerintherain member
    Hi Friends! Long time, no see. 

    EDD / Weeks + Days: 22+5

    FTM/STM/TTM+: fourth time mom 

    Baby is the size of a (an): I don’t remember the fruit/vegetable. But at my scan a week or so ago, he was already 1lb. 

    Team blue/pink/green: Blue! 

    Upcoming Appointments: 1/26 for a cervical length check

    How are you feeling?: Tired of being pregnant lol. Everything hurts. Sciatic nerve pain is real. Lots of fun contractions happening at night. I carry high, and baby’s feet are all up in my lungs. Too much heartburn. 

    Rants/Raves: eh, see above. 

    Questions: 

    GTKY: What’s been the hardest thing to refrain from during pregnancy? What do you anticipate being the hardest change when baby gets here?
    I turn 30 on Friday and I really want a margarita, but obviously I can’t :( So refraining from the occasional drink and excessive amounts of caffeine has been kind of a bummer, but it’s not the end of the world. 
    Hardest change is going to be adjusting to a baby in the house again! My 2 living children will be 8 and almost 5 when the baby born. It’s going to be a big transition having to go back to nursing, changing diapers, and sleep deprivation. My partner is also a first time dad, and he was an adopted child with no siblings he grew up with, so it’ll be interesting to see how he adjusts. 
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  • virtaurvirtaur member
    @flowerintherain welcome back!! I’ve made a virgin marg a couple times when I wanted one. Not the same ofc but it helps take the craving away at least! I just find a recipe online & I prefer fresh squeezed citrus as opposed to the bottled for them. 
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