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knottieef4ba40a1d9b51d0
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Am I being unfair
knottieef4ba40a1d9b51d0
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Hello! This is my first post and not really baby related - more pregnancy emotions/ wondering if others feel the same lol.
I am 31 weeks, due in March and live with my boyfriend/babys dad. We both used to be big into the nightlife scene in our town and go out to bars a lot, but have scaled back a ton since pregnancy and barely go out at all anymore obviously, including my boyfriend.
I am not from our area originally so most of my friends are just work friends/ not super close friends that I’ve had since childhood like my friends back home, so I’m more inclined to be a home body regardless. My boyfriend has lived here his whole life and loves to go out, he doesn’t see his friends often but that’s mostly due to lack of trying on both ends…
He goes out maybe once a month or so typically not often. My issue is that when he does it’s always a last minute decision and the plan is constantly changing, so I never know when he is gonna be home.
This particular time I was trying to make plans with him for after I got off of work, texting him through the day, nothing was set in stone, but then 30 minutes before I get off he asks if he can go watch the game with his friends.
I said yea sure and figured we would do something after because we usually do on Saturdays.
Long story short he keeps telling me through the whole night (4pm-11pm) that he’ll be leaving soon, 15 min, 20 min, we can hang after, etc…. But it turns into him staying out until I’m ready to go to sleep after 11pm (originally I thought he would be done around 7). So, I hadn’t seen him since that morning before work, as he was gone before I got home, and I was a little disappointed because I did want to do something together.
I tried explaining why I was upset and he said I shouldn’t be mad and to forget about it and watch a movie and go to sleep together now, but I am still mad, basically just feeling like I am not a priority and not heard. It really annoys me that he just dismisses me like that and doesn’t listen. He says he never gets to see his friends so I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to when I’m waiting to do something fun too.
If you made it this far- am I overreacting? I know it is important for him to have his time with friends I would just like to actually know the plan versus him always saying “sorry, I didn’t expect to stay out”. Anyone else feel like this/ maybe it’s just fomo?
I am 31 weeks, due in March and live with my boyfriend/babys dad. We both used to be big into the nightlife scene in our town and go out to bars a lot, but have scaled back a ton since pregnancy and barely go out at all anymore obviously, including my boyfriend.
I am not from our area originally so most of my friends are just work friends/ not super close friends that I’ve had since childhood like my friends back home, so I’m more inclined to be a home body regardless. My boyfriend has lived here his whole life and loves to go out, he doesn’t see his friends often but that’s mostly due to lack of trying on both ends…
He goes out maybe once a month or so typically not often. My issue is that when he does it’s always a last minute decision and the plan is constantly changing, so I never know when he is gonna be home.
This particular time I was trying to make plans with him for after I got off of work, texting him through the day, nothing was set in stone, but then 30 minutes before I get off he asks if he can go watch the game with his friends.
I said yea sure and figured we would do something after because we usually do on Saturdays.
Long story short he keeps telling me through the whole night (4pm-11pm) that he’ll be leaving soon, 15 min, 20 min, we can hang after, etc…. But it turns into him staying out until I’m ready to go to sleep after 11pm (originally I thought he would be done around 7). So, I hadn’t seen him since that morning before work, as he was gone before I got home, and I was a little disappointed because I did want to do something together.
I tried explaining why I was upset and he said I shouldn’t be mad and to forget about it and watch a movie and go to sleep together now, but I am still mad, basically just feeling like I am not a priority and not heard. It really annoys me that he just dismisses me like that and doesn’t listen. He says he never gets to see his friends so I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to when I’m waiting to do something fun too.
If you made it this far- am I overreacting? I know it is important for him to have his time with friends I would just like to actually know the plan versus him always saying “sorry, I didn’t expect to stay out”. Anyone else feel like this/ maybe it’s just fomo?
Re: Am I being unfair
husband on monday. He said he was off work and I was assuming he was on his way home (he has a long commute). I called him an hour later and he said he was at the bar with his co worker! I’m like WTF! I’m home waiting around for you and thought we could go get frozen yogurt. But by the time he got home I was already in bed (I am very exhausted these days).