Who’s Waiting to Tell Close Friends/Fam?

chewbaccasbaby · January 2024

Hi! first time expectant mother here. I have heard advice to “never share with others that you’re pregnant until you’re three months in, just in case”. Is anyone doing this? I’m finding it very difficult to keep the news to just my husband and I.

ftm33 · January 2024

It is really up to you! I have told my parents, siblings, and close friends, because if something bad happens, I would for sure be telling them that information as well, and I would need them for emotional support. My personal rule of thumb is I have only told people who I would want to talk to about a miscarriage if it were to happen, and who I know would keep the knowledge to themselves.

knottiecb98807b89db3586 · January 2024

i’ve only told my best friend outside of my husband bc she’s always the first to know lol but i’m waiting until at least my first scan to tell family for personal reasons. i’ve had 2 losses and my mom always stresses me out and wants to buy stuff immediately when i ask her not to. so once i know everything is progressing and this baby sticks, then they’ll get to know

themoonlightchild · January 2024

I’m in my 3rd pregnancy, 1 daughter + a missed miscarriage last year. My husband and I had been trying for a second and broke the news to those closest around us pretty early on last year when I got pregnant. On one hand it was helpful to have the support once we lost our baby, but it was difficult regardless. Now that I know I’m carrying again I feel this… instinctual urge?… to keep it only between my husband and I for as long as possible. I can’t even begin to think about explaining to my daughter the sudden loss of her growing baby sibling again. But that’s my own experience. It’s hard to do when it’s such exciting news- do what you feel is best based on your need for love & support! Wishing you lots of health and love!

booklover1997 · January 2024

My husband and I have decided to wait to tell anyone till after our first scan at 7w3d, and then will tell parents and siblings. We will slowly tell best friends after that. And everyone else at 12w.

That's our personal preference tho - there's no right or wrong answer. Share with those you want, and those that will support you through the ups and downs.

ladeedadia · January 2024

I'm a FTM and 6 weeks today. We originally were only planning to tell my two sisters who I'm very close with but I keep accidentally blurting it out! Blurted it out to my brother, blurted it out to my neighbors. I basically have to hide away until my first appointment to avoid telling anyone (I am extroverted so that is very difficult!). It's hard to not share the news! I am waiting to tell my parents till after my first appointment because they stress me out though lol. And seeing my husband's family in person in February so we'll wait to tell them then. First appointment is at 9 weeks and I plan to tell close friends after that and do work/social media at 12 weeks. Like someone else said, I go by the rule of "would I be ok telling this person I had a miscarriage?"

knottie36b87199d1e77a84 · January 2024

Me too! I told two work friends who I'm very close with, and hang out with outside of work, one of whom I also consider a lifelong mentor, so it was less "I'm telling my work this" and more telling important people to me, but I cannot keep a secret to save my life and don't have a poker face so it's been so hard going to work the last two weeks with this big secret! My sister-in-law is also an OB/GYN at the practice I go to, so that was a unique situation and I told her right away. We'll likely tell our family around valentines day so 10ish weeks to do a cute announcement.

ashleightmc · January 2024

I personally chose to tell my close family/friends as soon as I found out I was pregnant (It’s too exciting not to share haha!) I have one kiddo (7) and am currently 6 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage before my first kiddo at 10 weeks and had told most people I was pregnant at about 6 weeks, but it was really helpful to have the support from them while I was going through that, so never regretted telling them early.

knottie6a95a68bd50e1b91 · January 2024

This will likely be our only pregnancy - but we don’t want to upset our older kids (came home thru adoption) if we miscarry so no one but my spouse knows until we hit the 12 week mark.

stephandstuart · January 2024

I caved so quickly! I told my close friends and family but not anyone else.

knottie7e472a7686181928 · January 2024

I am telling close friends and family now. We will announce after 8 weeks. It's my third and I already look 4 months pregnant from the hormones there's no hiding it and its awkward. Lol

sarahh8824 · January 2024

It’s my first time being pregnant and I’m terrible at keeping secrets. My fiancé and I told our parents and siblings. I told a cousin I’m close to after she told me she’s pregnant and due 2 weeks before me. He’s told his two closest friends and I’ve told my closest friends, but haven’t announced to other family and friends (we’re both come from big extended families). I want to wait until I have my first ultrasound before telling others, I’m just so excited. I didn’t want to wait to tell close family and friends because they knew we were trying and I figured if anything bad happens I wouldn’t feel like I needed to hide it and I would have the support I need from the people I’m closest with.

BarbieRose25 · January 2024

We won’t be telling anyone until 12 weeks. Then just parents. We won’t make an announcement until 4 or 5 months.

burrito18 · January 2024

This is my first pregnancy and my husband and I have been trying for almost 2 years so I find myself very anxious about the whole experience. But we did our first ultrasound yesterday and everything was looking good so we are going to tell our parents this weekend! We’ve only told one couple friends because she’s pregnant and about to have their baby so I feel she could relate. Will wait to tell everyone else after the 13 weeks!

finalcountdown5 · February 2024

We shared our first few as soon as we found out. We then had a miscarriage with our 4th. We told our families and some friends. Oddly with our 4th we didnt tell our children as they were all pretty young. Glad I didn't. That intuition is strong. So with our 5th we kept it to ourselves for awhile. With this one I am waiting for gender and then will tell family and friends. I may tell my kids earlier though as they are older and ill show by then and we are very active. Mama not doing as much will be a red flag or harder to understand without explaining.

mountainmama65 · February 2024

We are in a pickle. I would prefer to wait until the end of first trimester, and even after all genetic testing results come back (amnio done at 15-20w)… but my husband deploys just before 12w.

He’s fine with a “virtual announcement” for most people, but wants to tell our daughter (8 yrs old) in person… but once she knows, the world finds out!! Her classmates’ parents are our close friends, she has kid messenger chats with our family, etc…

looks like I’ll have to tell people when the cell-free dna tests come back around 11w.

knottie12926065dd15408d · February 2024

My husband and I are waiting until we have our first scan (possibly longer) since I had a miscarriage last time just two days before our first scan. But it is really just up to you and your preference of if something happens who you are willing to discuss that with.

caltmilf · February 2024

I’m 6.5 weeks and have known for three weeks. The only people who know are my husband, three of our friends, and my boss, who has been a huge help. Viability ultrasound is on 2/19. I wanted to do something exciting for my mom and sister for valentine’s day so I’ll be telling them next week. We plan to tell the rest of those in our inner circle at about 10 weeks. Anybody else who doesn’t figure it out in their own, will find out when they get an invitation to the baby shower or when they see me with a baby in my arms.

mhstephanie · February 2024

I actually ended up telling my sister, a few friends and then I told my mom and my dad. Hahaha my husband is waiting to tell his parents, he wants to tell them in person instead of over the phone. (This is our second child.) I chose to tell my mom because the first time we surprised her, she didn't look happy at all. The reaction was extremely sad. My father lives 6 hours away and we never see him. His parents we see a couple times out of the month usually. I am 9 weeks 3 days right now and we will be telling his parents next weekend. I honestly think it just depends on you and when you're comfortable telling people. I get the whole, in case you miscarry though. I did with my first pregnancy, it than we got pregnant a month after.

msanchez92724 · February 2024

My husband and I had a miscarriage in 2020 and this is our first time getting a positive test since then. All bloodwork and ultrasound look great and we got to see the heartbeat at 8w4d. I told one childhood friend because I couldn’t keep it in but we are holding off telling other close friends and our parents at least until our next visit due to baby measuring 7w4d but my OB isn’t worried. They’re doing another ultrasound at 10w4d so if all is well, we will share at the 11/12 week mark

mamababs1423 · March 2024

They usually say that because your risk drastically declines after the first trimester but it is COMPLETELY up to each mom. I am on my 3rd and we have told my husband’s uncle, his partner, and my sister in law. But we kind of want to see how far we can get before we HAVE to tell. I’m at 13 weeks today. With baby 2, we had just announced our pregnancy and with Baby1 we told people within 5 weeks. There’s no right answer. Do what you want to because this is your time!

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