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TTC right after miscarriage?

lilmamabatlilmamabat member
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We just had our 3rd mc. Our Dr told us if there's no complications, new research shows we can try again right away and that some people have success within the first 3 months after and go on to have successful pregnancy. 
Has anyone tried or had success this way? How do you cope emotionally? How do you keep hope? 
Also does anyone have any tips for this: I want to be excited when I see two lines but since the 1st loss, I'm scared when I see them. How can I move past being afraid to see the two lines when I really do want to have a baby? Does anyone else feel this way?
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Re: TTC right after miscarriage?

  • kaceykpkaceykp member
    Oh girl. I'm so sorry for your loss!!! We just lost our baby in a missed miscarriage and I too am wanting to try again amidst the grieve. Its the strangest thing. My pregnancy tests are still positive and I'm thinking of trying again i hope soon. I feel so wierd for wanting to take ovulation tests alteady!

    In response to your question about the anxiety over s positive pregnancy test, for me realizing that the outcome of my pregnancy was not something I had a lot of control over. I believe God is in control and looking after me and Baby and it just helped me to release the worry into his hands when I prayed. I also chose to not "look" everytime I wiped. If I was not having bad cramping, seeing random spotting would drive me INSANE with worry. It wasn't worth it for me so I would look maybe once a week and trust my doctor visits more. I also distracted myself to pass the time. Focused on each day and only that day! Working helpalready!

    Sorry I am also lumping my response with how to survive early pregnancy when you've had a ton of loss. But the pregnancy test joy i feel will come off not right away eventually when the anxiety let's up some. And it's ok to be gentle with yourself and feel different things :).

    Are you all trying this cycle? How is your heart?
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  • sunflowermama42212sunflowermama42212 member
    Sending comfort. I think everyone develops their own coping/defensive mechanism so don’t be to hard on yourself with how you process this or with what emotions you are feeling. Your brain is trying to protect itself the best way it knows how so lean into your instincts and natural responses as long as they are healthy means of coping. DH has an avoidant defense to stress so he is pretending nothing exits and we aren’t trying until he feels secure enough to acknowledge it and I am more emotional and need to hold on to all the hope and scrolling baby names helps me because planning calms me so go with whatever gets you through. Our Dr had us wait a month to have a fresh lining but it’s cause I have PCOS and she didn’t want the procedure to have interfered with trying again. 
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  • jessiekraanjessiekraan member
    Just had our MC 2 days ago and I’m feeling this. My husband doesn’t seem to be impacted as it was so early, but as of now I wake up everyday with a cloud over my head. It’s hard to want to try again and open up the opportunity to have another, as it was just so tough to go through the pain and process for a loss.
    As your post was months ago, I’m hoping that you found a coping mechanism that works for you.
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