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Infertility
sophieannarose
Newbie
New girl in town
sophieannarose
Newbie
in Infertility
Hey guys, my names Sophie. My SO and I have been trying for more than a year and have had no luck. On top of that, I was experiencing extremely irregular menses (occurring every two weeks) with some normal periods intermittent. I had seen my gynecologist regarding all of this & he referred us to an IVF specialist after two failed rounds of Letrozole.
Moreover, after seeing the specialist we have both gone through multiple series of testing including HSG, blood work, etc. Most of his numbers came back absolutely normal aside from some misshaped sperm. All of my testing was normal and they couldn’t categorize my cysts as PCOS because I don’t meet any of the criteria besides multiple cysts. We did find out however, that my SO had hepatitis C and we cannot proceed with any treatments until he has clearance from an infectious disease specialist.
The defeatist inside of me is sad, mad, resentful. I want a baby so badly, why can’t any of this be easy. I see people I know having babies and instead of being happy for them, I’m miserable and honestly jealous. Any advice? I need people who understand my feelings, none of my friends can relate.
Moreover, after seeing the specialist we have both gone through multiple series of testing including HSG, blood work, etc. Most of his numbers came back absolutely normal aside from some misshaped sperm. All of my testing was normal and they couldn’t categorize my cysts as PCOS because I don’t meet any of the criteria besides multiple cysts. We did find out however, that my SO had hepatitis C and we cannot proceed with any treatments until he has clearance from an infectious disease specialist.
The defeatist inside of me is sad, mad, resentful. I want a baby so badly, why can’t any of this be easy. I see people I know having babies and instead of being happy for them, I’m miserable and honestly jealous. Any advice? I need people who understand my feelings, none of my friends can relate.
Re: New girl in town
I hear you. I'm also struggling with infertility and I'm really sad a lot of the time. Each cycle is a roller coaster. when I get that BFN every month its really hard not to spend the whole night crying. My best friends in the world are new moms. I'm really happy for them, they are beautiful wondering women who could not be more deserving. I am jealous too.
The only advice I can really offer - is that feelings are okay, including jealousy. and you can be both happy for friends and jealous, feelings can be complex that way. If you can't be both, that's okay! it's okay to be both and it's okay to be only one. It's so hard. It's really hard waiting month after month.
I hope your SO gets clearance soon, and I wish you all the best