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AMA Check-in October

maggiemadeitmaggiemadeit member
in June 2024 Moms
Someone suggested the idea of doing an AMA check-in, so this is a thread for all the expecting mamas who will be 35+ when their babies are born. We can also change it to weekly if people want to check in more often.

1. Age Now / Age at Delivery
2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA?
3. Best/worst thing about being AMA?
4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? 


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Re: AMA Check-in October

  • alaw0729alaw0729 member
    1. Age Now / Age at Delivery 37 and 37 (38 in August)
    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA? Third time mom, 1st AMA
    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? I worry so much this time. Never did with my DD's, had MS all day every day so I just knew nothing was wrong (along with all the other symptoms) This time around I count myself blessed that I don't have much going on yet at 6wks but that also worries me. I'm excited to have a baby with older kids, my youngest will be 9 when this one comes. I get to have a little more focus on a baby, less worry about jobs and money and see older kids loving on a squish.
    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? I know its mostly normal but the cramping and spotting worries me so much. I know there is nothing that can but done but sit and wait. I had a couple days last week and again last night and today. Its more red today. I don't feel like calling the Dr because I feel like they will just say what I know, its mostly normal and nothing can be done about it so just wait til your appt. (nov 13th)

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  • saltedcaramel518saltedcaramel518 member
    1. Age Now / Age at Delivery 34/35

    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA? Third; my other 2 were born before I was 30.

    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? I'm more chill this time around. I'm content to let my body do its thing and am not too concerned about all the changes. I'm probably in the best shape of my life and know I can get here again. My kids will be 5 and 8 when baby is born, so I'm hoping bringing in a new baby will be much smoother than if my kids were toddlers/preschoolers.

    I live in the South, where people tend to have babies younger, so I guess I'm a little concerned that I'll be sticking out as an "old" mom.

    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? idk whether to do the NIPT testing or not. From my understanding, the results are not completely conclusive. I'd like to be aware of any conditions if there are any, but don't want to worry unnecessarily throughout the whole pregnancy.
    Married: May 2012
    DS1: May 2016
    DS2: Jan 2019
    Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24


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  • kbru88kbru88 member
    1. Age Now / Age at Delivery 35/36
    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA? 6th TM, this is my first AMA
    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? I'm anxious about the extra appointments and having to find childcare for my 4 and 2 year olds. Life is busy, and extra appointments feels overwhelming right now.
    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? 
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  • jenEPjenEP member
    1. Age Now / Age at Delivery: 39 and 39 (two months shy of 40)
    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA? 4th (I have a 3, 5, and 7 year old). I was technically AMA with my last, but turned 35 just a few months before I had him. I think NIPT was covered by insurance but otherwise it felt similar to my other two. 
    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? Worst—some anxiety around genetic conditions and complications that are more likely as we age. Also, most of my friends are done having kids so I feel a bit alone. Best—I know what to expect. 
    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m deciding between sticking with my midwife group or moving to an OB. I love my midwives, but I want to make sure I get the extra monitoring (and potentially the option to induce at 39 weeks). 
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  • luckygal2124luckygal2124 member
    Age Now / Age at Delivery:41/42
    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first: 4th time mom. 2nd ama had my son when I was 37 AMA?
    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? I definitely Feel more relaxed now. Just happy to be able to do this again
    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions:
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  • LostinUtopiaLostinUtopia member
    Age Now / Age at Delivery: 38/39
    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first: Third baby, this is the first one AMA…. We thought we were done for a bit. ❤️ 
    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? I definitely feel a bit more relaxed probably about the labor as long as their aren’t any emergencies since this should be a planned c-section (due to certain factors when they had to deliver my son via c- section). However, have some other health conditions I have to make sure are in check— so that aspect has me a bit anxious.
    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions: Still awaiting an ultrasound…. May have more questions after that point. 

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  • curlyandpreggocurlyandpreggo member
    1. Age Now / Age at Delivery - 38 and will most likely be 39 at delivery (my birthday is in early June)

    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA? STM and second time AMA

    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? Best thing is definitely the extra ultrasounds to see baby, worst is being called AMA 😂

    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? No questions but some thoughts: I know lots and lots of AMA mamas and their pregnancies turned out fine and their babies are happy and healthy! It’s extremely common where I live (but not where I grew up so I understand how that can be too). There are definitely some increased risk with being AMA but I think it gets overblown sometimes! 
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  • curlyandpreggocurlyandpreggo member
    @saltedcaramel518 if it helps at all, if there are any positives in NIPT they follow up with additional testing as NIPT does give false positives (and other tests are more accurate but I think more invasive?)
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  • motherduckermotherducker member
    1. Age Now / Age at Delivery: 36/36

    2. FTM / STM+? If STM+, is this your first AMA? FTM

    3. Best/worst thing about being AMA? I’m with @curlyandpreggo, the worst is being called AMA 😂. Essentially all of my friends didn’t start having kids until mid to late 30s, so among my friends, doesn’t feel weird at all, but I recently moved to a city where most people start having kids very early, so I worry about making mom friends here. Our parents are older and do not live in our city, so we do not expect any family help with care, but we have financially planned for child care (that shit’s expensive!). Best? I’m in a high stress career and finally to a place of greater stability and my partner is similarly getting to a more stable place in his career as well. I know it will still be a lot, but I think we have a lot more capacity to handle having kids now.

    4. Thoughts/concerns/questions for the group? how do you make new pregnant and new mom friends in your town/city? 
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  • curlyandpreggocurlyandpreggo member
    @motherducker there’s a well known mom’s group in my area for new moms that I joined. It was great - I love the women that were in my group. Like every neighborhood here as their own mom group too. I started by just googling “mom groups [city].” Also word of mouth was super helpful once I told people I was pregnant but I know that might be harder if you are new to the area! 
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  • maggiemadeitmaggiemadeit member
    @motherducker We moved from a very expensive city where people tend to have careers and have kids when they’re older to a much smaller town with a lot more young families with moms that don’t work (not a judgement at all, just hard for me to relate to). It’s been hard, but the mom friends I have found have all been through daycare or public school. Our daycare in particular has quite the social scene. 
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  • luckygal2124luckygal2124 member
    I just wanted to say don't let the title of ama scare you. Obviously every pregnancy is different but when I had my son I was 37 and turned 38 two weeks after I had him. I only saw my ob and every 4 weeks until I got closer. My doctor said I wasn't even high risk. He said in his opinion age alone isn't a good factor to make someone high risk. Will see how it goes this time since I am 41 will be 42 on Thanksgiving. Sometimes ama is literally something else they can put on your chart 
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