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March 2024 Moms
hedgepig
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Pregnancy Check In - Week of 9/25
hedgepig
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GTKY: Are you planning a shower/sprinkle/other celebration of your pregnancy? Questions? Ideas? If you've had one in previous pregnancies, any advice to share?
TW
Me: 33 DH: 32
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Re: Pregnancy Check In - Week of 9/25
We're doing a little gender reveal in a couple weeks that's basically just a celebration with both sides of the family. It got a little out of hand though with all the siblings and niblings so now I need to find a restaurant that can accompany 20 people 😬 No one has offered to host a sprinkle so probably not but it could happen.
Don't hesitate to put stuff on your registry. People want to buy you stuff and then you have a little control over what you get. Plus the completion discount is nice for things that are left on the list
Baby is the size of a (an): avocado
Team blue/pink/green: blue
@SpartanCat, that is really frustrating you don't feel like you had accurate information to make an informed decision about testing. I would be sure to mention to your provider that it was unclear. I hope you are still able to get the other test and information you would like.
EDD / Weeks + Days: February 24, 18+2
As far as advice, I second what @SpartanCat said, and also if you don't want to do dumb games (I didn't) we did a tie dye station and had people tie dye onesies (in bigger sizes mostly, 12-24 months) and socks for the baby and it was fun and special to have things that people made for her. Although older people like most of our parents/grandparents didn't want to participate, so only our siblings and friends actually made one, so that might be something to keep in mind. You could also get stencils and fabric markers if tie dye isn't your thing and people can design cute onesies for you.
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Yeah, it's a pretty minor complaint in the long run. I'm glad we're still with in the testing window (up to 24wks I believe) we'll be okay. I probably wouldn't be so blase if it were no longer an option
Also: Rain 🌧 😍😍😍
I had a shower with my first that was .ostly family, as I didn't really have a lot of friends here then. Recently one of my mom friends told me I should have a shower because it's twins, and it made me realize how many more friends I have now, as a result of being a parent, than I did 5 years ago! Most aren't super close friends, but there are plenty that would come to a shower, which just surprises me! At any rate, unless someone volunteers to host a sprinkle, I won't do it, but we'll see!
Advice - plan the shower that you want to attend, if you want it co-ed, do it! If you don't want games, don't! (Or the reverse) Don't get to caught up in others expectations and have fun.
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
I agree too about putting stuff on your registry - even if you don't do a party, do do a registry, as people love buying baby stuff!
@farm_mama I'm so sorry you're feeling so bad still. It must be extra unfair during your 4th pregnancy, since you felt like you knew what to expect? I hope that it still clears up soon. Do you think this is your last baby or are you planning more? It's helping me to remind myself that this is my last time.
@dinomeetsjedi 🤞 you don't get sick! I also feel like I'm fighting something off (DD and DH have been sick), and while my week isn't nearly as busy as yours, I definitely don't want to ha e to reschedule my appt on Friday.
@halfanewt I hope you continue to feel better!
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
@SpartanCat and @hedgepig I can absolutely relate to the overwhelm spilling out in the form of rage. I am trying so hard to be mindful that I am not at my best and step away, but whew some days are better than others. And the preteen attitude around here isn't helping matters!
:GTKY: Are you planning a shower/sprinkle/other celebration of your pregnancy? Questions? Ideas? If you've had one in previous pregnancies, any advice to share?
I don’t think we will do anything. We had a shower with our 1st and a sprinkle with baby 2.
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
My mother is adamant about throwing me a shower at her house, 1hr 45 mins away. She's big into not spending money, and feels like any space outside of her house will be more expensive. She's the type that would rather cook and clean for 4 days before a party than buy premade platters or use a venue.
My reason for not wanting to have to drive nearly 2 hrs each way and lug the gifts and such doesn't seem to be resonating with her. She just ends up suggesting that we stay the night and drive back the next day, which poses its own set of hurdles like pet care we'd have to pay for. And it's not that I insist on my mother paying for the shower. It's that I know if I plan this without her, or don't let her throw it for me, I'd never hear the end of it. Even though I've been trying to scout venues close to me, or even half way that would work, my mom finds a reason to nix them all and keeps demanding to know why I'm opposed to having it at her house.
I've looked into having the shower at a local vineyard that would allow us to have a party of approx 20 free of charge and we could bring food in. It wouldn't be a private event, so other patrons would be there, hence the limit on guests. I'm just not sure how this would work out with opening gifts and games and things, not that I insist on games, but I would like some fun things happening, plus it's likely we'd have more than that rsvp. Our house is way too small to host, less than 1000 sq ft and only 1 bathroom.
We both have large families and already know we'll be having a separate shower in TN for our family members who are there. It's all just feeling like a lot more than I want to deal with, honestly. And I hope I don't sound selfish or entitled. I'm very thankful for having people that want to shower us, it just feels like it's coming with a lot of conditions and hoops to jump through and its stressing me out.
My favorite part of both of my showers so far has been the Mother’s Blessing we added on to my daughters. Each woman in attendance brought in a bead that was special to them or reminded them of me/our relationship. They also wrote a note of encouragement and love for the upcoming birth. My SIL then strung all the beads together into a beautiful bracelet and I wore it until I delivered her- all the way through labor. It was really really special and something i’ll pull out again when it’s close to due date for this baby.
@farm_mama Im sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I have no advice to offer, just solidarity. In awe of the women who beautifully balance life with big families. No matter how much you think you fall short, the truth is, you ARE doing it.
@dinomeetsjedi 🤞🏼 you avoid any illness. I have taken pepcid with a previous pregnancy that really helped my heartburn nausea. They have chewables and pills.
@halfanewt yay for feeling better! I turned a corner between weeks 14 and 15 too this time, thank gooooodness.
@kmw611 Ugh the exhaustion. I ranted about it too. Also a TTM. Probably a combo of things, but being pregnant definitely doesn't help it. Im so glad your friend wants to celebrate you and baby. Definitely let her. Even if all you need is girly stuff!
@hedgepig good luck with your appt and so glad you are eating and feeling better!! Was thinking of you.
@cmill828 so happy you found a doula you meshed with! And can 100% relate on the financial stress as we face a 2nd unpaid maternity leave in 2 years. It isn't easy. And about your shower- sounds like whichever way you go there will be some kind of consequence. It sounds stressful. I feel really strongly about following your intuition. You want to tell your mom no, but hesitate only because of how she will react. This may be the first of many decisions you make as a mom to put your family first. I say you really nicely decline your mom’s offer. You’re right that it would be really hard to bring all the gifts back and no pregnant person wants to have to be in the car that long. Tell her you want her to be involved in planning but it has to be in your town. It may not be any easy conversation but once the dust settles you’ll be more at peace knowing you made the decision most aligned with your intuition.
@cioccolata16 I love the Lovevery subscription and think it is worth the investment. We went the cheap route and bought the boxes secondhand. The nerd in me loved all the info they give you on baby’s development and activities they suggest you do with baby. The toys are good quality and would last multiple kids.
@Farm_mama as the soon-to-be mother of 5, the main advice I have for you is take it one moment at a time, whether that's day, hour or even minute, just breath, and think about what needs to happen next. (Advice I'm much better at giving than doing, but I just keep trying)
@dinomeetsjedi I also have a cold, without time to have a cold, it seems unfair, mothers should be exempt from getting sick.
@cmill828 it's so frustrating that your mom is taking something that's supposed to be for you, and trying to make it what she wants. I hope you're able to find a solution that makes you happy.
@night_nurse I'm the main breadwinner right now. but my husband is not a SAHD, he just finished his PhD, and is trying to decide what to do next.
FTM
Baby is the size a: newborn hat evidently
Team: 🩷
Upcoming Apt: just had 16wk check last Thurs, all was well, thank God!
How are you feeling? Trying to keep stress at bay! Grateful nausea from T1 is GONE but still get really tired. Focusing on eating healthy, exercising and carving out time to do things I enjoy like cuddling with my dogs ☺️. Husband is dealing with lot of work stress so trying to be supportive while not letting his stress kill my vibes! That's been hard, lol. Guess that would lead into my rant/rave...
Questions: NATM
GTKY: Mom and sisters are planning a shower in January!
So glad to have found this group and really enjoy reading all the mommy's posts! Super encouraged by the many other 30+ year old pregnant moms - especially the first timers like me! My age freaked me out when I found out we were expecting but knowing I'm not an anomaly is reassuring! Keep sharing your experiences, I'm soaking it up!! ❤️❤️
@kmw611 What a cool idea to send out a white onesie with invitations and get them back decorated! I bet you got some special ones.
I have a group of Bible study friends and we always have a little sprinkle for each other after the baby is born to celebrate. Sometimes we will pitch in on a larger purchase of something they still need. It's fun!
I definitely echo the other ladies about the completion discount. I did that with #3 and it really helped! It will come in handy this time since our car seat expired and we will have to purchase a new one.
Does anyone know who has the biggest discount? I know Amazon is 15%.