Community› The Bump Message Boards› 2nd Trimester
2nd Trimester
New Discussion

Real Talk

pregs020124pregs020124 Just Joined
in 2nd Trimester
Hello, this is my first time on a pregnancy forum. I’m 12 weeks pregnant and I have to say that I don’t like my journey so far. I feel like crap everyday, like mentally, emotionally and physically. The heartburn, the stomach pains, the food aversions really just sucks the life out of you. My heartburn caused vomiting if I didn’t eat. Hunger doesn’t feel like hunger, it just feels like pain. When I eat it’s not exciting. Emotionally I feel very unmotivated and don’t want to do anything! Mentally I feel so discouraged that idk if I’m depressed? I’ve had body image issues before I was pregnant and my relationship with my husband isn’t the best (in couples therapy), so I have an existing narrative of myself of “being unattractive” that it consumes me. I’ve tried talking to therapists and it just doesn’t cut it. Sometimes I feel like if I’ll ever be able to go back to normal….does anyone else feel this?
Report Reply to Post

Re: Real Talk

  • sunflower912sunflower912 member
    This go around is different for me than my other 2 pregnancies. I puked my guts up all day every day for 5 weeks straight. Yes, I am bless it wasn’t longer than 5 weeks but man, it takes all the efforts out of you. I have food aversions this time and it took those 5 weeks for me to realize that beef was the trigger. I’m always tired but apparently am not anemic this go around. I don’t like being pregnant for the most part. It take a physical toll on me that it doesn’t for most people, in my circle at least. I’m generally a happy person but the hormones make me annoyed with my own attitude most days. 
    Though my feelings/life circumstances are different than yours, I do understand how basically pregnancy is super overwhelming. Physically and emotionally. I tell my self it’s a short time of life and I’m better than my bad attitude and aches and pains. 

    You are not alone, I promise. Hopefully you start to feel better in the next couple of weeks. I am 25 weeks currently and didn’t feel better until 14weeks or so. 
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • savreddsavredd member
    I am 15 weeks and I have absolutely felt this way. Every time someone asks how my pregnancy is my answer is “it sucks and I don’t enjoy it at all.” I’m tired, emotional, and for over a month I did nothing but vomit in a bucket by my bed or run to the bathroom to vomit at work. It was tough and fortunately I’m mainly past that, still nausea here and there. I have horrible heartburn before and after I eat-tums help a bit. My back has been cramping and I’ve had some pretty I tense round ligament pain. 
    I’ve had a love hate relationship with my body before pregnancy but it is definitely a bit more strained now. I went full cry mode when looking through our “gender reveal” pics because I hated the way I looked. I’ve struggled with depression previously and definitely think it is contributing to a lot of my emotional state in this pregnancy. I’d suggest bringing it up to your OB. Prenatal depression is real and it’s important to discuss it if it’s something you think you may be dealing with. 

    It’s completely normal to have mixed feelings and not love the way pregnancy feels. Get the social media moms out of your head. When I’ve opened up about how much I’ve hated it so far, so many mama friends confided that they hated it for a while too. There are some seriously uncomfy and sucky parts about pregnancy (especially in the beginning) but in the end it gives you a new part of your life. You’re not alone! I’ve been trying to think of my excitement for the baby and also take time to make sure my current needs are being met-even if that means taking a nap or spending alone time vs going out with friends. Do what you think you need. You’re physical and mental health is just as important!
    Report Reply
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"