New Here - Last Chance IVF

Re: New Here - Last Chance IVF

• 00kim00 member

  March 2023

  I'm not sure if it's helpful for you to hear success stories or not... Personally, for me they made it worse, I needed to hear how people copied when it didn't work, and to steel myself for disappointment. My period coming every month was devastating, I don't think I could have emotionally endured IVF if I had thought it was going to work. I went into it thinking it's my last shot and I need to try mostly to feel like I did everything I could, but with a realistic view that must likely it won't work. Preparing myself for disappointment was so strange- I was annoyed by all the doctors and nurses being so positive. I can't count the number of times I told them I know realistically it's not going to work. I do think it helped me get through the process; like when I accepted I wasn't going to get pregnant naturally, my periods weren't quite as cripplingly devastating (just sad) as when I had hope every month. My advice is to get a therapist if you don't already have one. IVF is hard whether it's successful or not. And if it's not, a therapist can help you process and grieve, and decide whether you want to be "complete as two" with your husband, or pursue adoption, foster care, or donor embryos 
  
  That said, if you're someone who benefits from success stories, read on...
  
  **Trigger warning- child mentioned**
  
  My husband and I were TTC for 7 years. We had one loss, but no other pregnancies in that time. Our diagnosis was unexplained, though I was eventually also diagnosed with endometriosis (I had surgery, but it didn't help my fertility). When I was 41, we did IVF. At my age, there's maybe a  20% chance of success (ever, not just per transfer or per embryo). We told my husband's family, our church, and his family's churches, so we had tons of people all over the world praying for us, but we didn't tell my family, my coworkers, friends, etc.- I really didn't think it would work. We transferred 2 embryos. One didn't make it. But I'm writing this now with my sleeping 2 month old son in my arms. It is unlikely it will work, it's true, but it's also possible. God wanted this little one on the earth, so here he is.
  
  I wish you well, and hope you have your own miracle outcome, whatever path that ends up being

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• ashleyjane1988 member

  March 2023

  I have had issues TTC for 14 years now. We just completed our first round of IVF. I had egg retrieval surgery on 2/24, so very close to your surgery date. I had the transfer done on Wednesday. I am now not patiently waiting for the pregnancy test. My mother and sisters are all very fertile too. No idea where my infertility issue came from and Dr. is not sure the cause of mine either. Just saying all of this to let you know that I am in a similar boat, as many of us are on this forum. I wish you the very best. Try not to be hard on yourself. Have confidence knowing that you did everything you could do. I am proud of you! IVF is a hard journey. 

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• MollyC82 member

  March 2023

  Thank you so much for your comments!  I just found out today that my 2 fertilized eggs made it to become blastocysts on the 6th day.  Next step is to do the genetic testing.  I won't get the results from that for 3 weeks.  It really stinks having to wait to find out if I made it past another hurdle.  I guess I am used to the waiting game now though, so I know I can get through it.

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• ashleyjane1988 member

  March 2023

  That is awesome news! So happy for you.

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• ttc3y member

  March 2023

  @MollyC82 That is wonderful news! Celebrate every positive milestone. ❤️ 

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• ivfmeerut member

  April 2023

  I can understand how difficult and emotionally draining this journey must have been for you. Infertility can be a challenging and isolating experience, but it's essential to remember that you're not alone, and there are resources and support available to you.

  First and foremost, I would like to encourage you to stay positive and hopeful. You've gone through a lot to get to this point, and it takes tremendous strength and resilience to keep trying. IVF can be a challenging process, but it can also be successful, even with a low number of eggs. The fact that two of your eggs were fertilized is a positive sign, and I hope they develop into healthy embryos that will result in a successful pregnancy.

  It's also important to remember that infertility is a medical condition, and it's not your fault. Infertility affects both men and women, and it can happen for various reasons. Talking to others who have experienced similar challenges can be reassuring and provide comfort. it's essential to take care of yourself and your mental health during this process. 

  Remember, you've come this far, and you're a strong and resilient person. Keep your hopes up and continue to stay positive. I wish you all the best on your journey toward parenthood.

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