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The "Cry it out" method

nicademus20nicademus20 member
edited March 2023 in Babies: 9 - 12 Months
I hate my boyfriend SOOOO much right now as we fight hard when I want to comfort and hold my LO to sleep and he wants him to cry himself to sleep. 
This is happenening right now, as I write this. 
He has begun to stop crying but this frustrates me more than anything. 
And he's not my boyfriend anymore really, he broke up with me last night and I called in sick to work this morning because I don't trust him to actually look after our LO. I have no doubt in my mind that most of the day would have been crying had I not been right here. 

But what to you do with an unreasonable partner that believes so much in the cry it out method they would restrain you from holding the LO? 
Also, if your any part of police or just have been with a very bad partner and felt stuck, I'd like to hear from you too. 

I try to make the best for my LO. So I want to show he is loved and provided for as he falls asleep.
Has anyone had a good night crying themselves to sleep? 

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Re: The "Cry it out" method

  • WishilivedinfloridaWishilivedinflorida member
    I’m sorry, but why are you still with this guy? Your post history here has been concerning and it sounds like he is not supportive and perhaps abusive. His behavior is not normal. 

    CIO in the setting of controlled sleep training at an appropriate age is one thing. This doesn’t sound like that. 

    It sounds like you need to leave this guy and take LO with you if you don’t feel safe. Please call family or a crisis hotline if that’s not an option! Good luck. 
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  • turtletaylor0522turtletaylor0522 member
    Hey. I (mostly) agree with PP. I’ve seen you post on here before about your struggles with your SO. 

    I’m coming at this not knowing either of you. If you are unsafe then get you and your son out of the situation. Call family or a crisis line. There are resources for women and children in need. You’ve mentioned before you’ve shouted at each other and here you’ve implied he’s physically restraining you. That’s not okay. And asking strangers online about what to do if you’re stuck isn’t the best way to handle it. 

    Talk to your SO when you’re both calm and discuss this unless you’re unsafe. If you are unsafe, leave. 
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  • peanutbutterandpicklespeanutbutterandpickles Newbie
    I have not seen your posts before, but this post and the previous responses have me worried for you and your LO's safety. Most communities have resource centers for victims of domestic violence (I dont know for sure if that applies - however in case it does) There is help for you. Please do not feel the need to stay with an abuser because you do not think you have help or resources - they are out there.

    In many communities, if you are a victim of domestic abuse/violence - officers can assit in finding you a safe place to stay for a while and a victims advocate to assist you with legal stuff as well as personal assitance. -- my smallish county of 25,000 even has these resources --

    I don't know where you are located, but you can always call your local non emergent police phone number and speak with an officer (or deputy) who can give advise - or all courthouses has a victims assistance department that might be able to help you - or even a local health department would have resources as well. Change is scary - but sometimes necessary for your safety as well as your child's safety.
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