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Unpopular opinion Thursdays

AlexisJoy92AlexisJoy92 member
in August 2023 Moms
What do you think that generally gets odd looks from others 😜
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  • AlexisJoy92AlexisJoy92 member
    My unpopular opinion is that tv for toddlers is not needed. Do I let my daughter watch tv absolutely but it is a privilege and treat not a constant 
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  • tumbleweed-1tumbleweed-1 member
    My UO is playgrounds are for my child to play with himself or other children, not me. I know the park culture varies, but where I live all the parents helicopter. I sit down and DS is like “why are the other parents up?” and it puts pressure on me to interact. When he was a toddler I’d hover if he was near a fall risk area, and occasionally I’ll set him on the swing if he asks. But mostly I let him figure out what he’s capable of and just keep an eye on him while I do my own thing nearby. 
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  • lmn823lmn823 member
    @tumbleweed-1 that’s funny bc the playgrounds I would take my nephews and nieces to (I’m ftm), none of the parents would play and go up the playground with their kids lol not even the babysitter. Everyone is on their phones chatting. 
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  • emeraldcity603emeraldcity603 member
    @tumbleweed-1 I had a parent who was clearly looking around for whatever adult was with my son. I don’t help my kids climb anything. If they can’t physically do it themselves they shouldn’t be doing it. It creates a fall risk. I was watching and I had yo walk all the way over to where they were to tell the adult to stop helping my son climb. I was so annoyed. I can’t be standing next to every child when I’m at a park. I have too many kids for that. 
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  • justyouraveragemamajustyouraveragemama member
    edited March 2023
    I’m a firm believer that it’s not my place to play with my child. A child’s job is to play and they are very good at it while adults really are not anymore, or at least not in the same way. We spend plenty of quality time together doing life together.

    As a disclaimer, I don’t see things like puzzles, coloring, or board games, etc..as “play” those are activities that are enjoyed across the age spectrum.
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  • ccmrc143ccmrc143 member
    I love that @tumbleweed-1 ! DS is now 22 months and I’m finally able to sit down away from him and not follow him for safety reasons (he’s a daredevil and likes to go to the big kid area) @emeraldcity603 same with us with climbing — DS will try to hang on my arms to get me to pull him somewhere too high and I say nope that’s all you! If you can get there, great, but I’m not helping. 
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  • emeraldcity603emeraldcity603 member
    @ccmrc143 We spend a lot of time in nature and during the summer my kids climb some awesome trees. That rule is very important when they are doing those tasks. There is a reason you can’t reach and get to that spot. You won’t be able to navigate it safely once you’re up there if someone helps you. I’m apart of a Wild and Free group. I think it’s important to let them play freely but they must do it safely. 
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  • tumbleweed-1tumbleweed-1 member
    Glad to know I’m in good company on this topic! It certainly seems like it’s an unpopular opinion where I live based on all of the interactions at our parks. 
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  • msjaaymsjaay member
    I would love to get to this point, but my daughter is fearless. She will literally just walk off the edge of something and trust that God, and apparently us, will catch her lol. I purposely don't go to the playgrounds with higher walk off edges, but even the lower ones are high enough that she could get hurt and it's not worth it. I definitely encourage independent play, and she's actually great at it, but lawd, she tests me when it comes to heights.
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  • ccmrc143ccmrc143 member
    My unpopular opinion is a new one for me. When I had DS I instantly transformed from a huge dog person to someone who finds dogs super annoying. I have one and I love him. But taking care of him now is a chore and I have the EASIEST and laziest dog. Other people’s dogs? I have zero tolerance. I think they get in the way and they’re annoying. I’m sorry to anyone I’ve offended with this one! 
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  • emeraldcity603emeraldcity603 member
    @ccmrc143 I always envisioned myself taking my dog on hikes and on all of our adventures but he is like having 3 additional toddlers. Plus it’s a pain keeping him from trying to eat all the food the kids just leave out. So, unfortunately, he gets left at home when we go out. I feel bad but every time I take him i struggle to handle him and my younger ones. He is a Jack Russell and has so much energy. Sometimes we are on trails that I have to keep a close eye on my kids to keep them safe and I can’t have my dog being such a huge distraction. 

    I also get really annoyed when other people’s dogs are off leash and they are being aggressive towards him. We had a bit of an altercation with a lady once who just walked off without her dog and the dog kept growling and nipping at my dog. It was all happening near the kids. I got super pissed and had to yell for the lady to come get her dog. She was so angry at us. Like we were the ones in the wrong. 
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  • msjaaymsjaay member
    @ccmrc143 I’m struggling with this a bit too. We had a 14 YO dog when my daughter was born and absolutely nothing changed with how I felt about him. He was my first baby. We unfortunately had to put him down when she was 8 weeks old. We got a puppy back in the fall when she was around 1.5 and I’m struggling to bond with this dog. Our last one was kind of terrible (never potty trained fully, hated most people, most dogs, all kids, didn’t enjoy playing really lol). BUT, he was super lazy and sweet to us and easy to take care of energy-wise. 

    This one has been easier to potty train and loves people and kids (maybe a little too much), but she is super high energy. I guess that’s the trade off? I love her, but man, I don’t always like her. I know she’ll calm down some once she’s out of the puppy stage, but it’s such a different experience. I guess last time we had 14 solid years with our dog with no kids so we were obviously well bonded before she came along? I don’t know. I hope we get in a better groove with her before this LO comes along. She was spayed Monday and they doubled her sedatives bc of her energy. It’s like we gave her placebos. She’s been a nut this whole week 🙃. Sorry for the long ramble! 
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  • AlexisJoy92AlexisJoy92 member
    @ccmrc143 I see where your coming from our new puppy is overwhelming at times I guess that’s what I get getting a working dog and getting pregnant at the same time the training has been a lot to keep up with but I can see it’ll be worth it in the end he’s made so much progress and is only 13 weeks but kinda like what @msjaay said with everything else I’ve got I don’t feel I’ve gained a solid connection with him like I have my other pets I feel like all I have time for is training and a little affection then my attention is being pulled everywhere else 100% agree with no tolerance for other peoples dogs that are untrained if you can’t control your dog keep it contained your animal should not be my responsibility 
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