Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: New Years Randoms
Also anyone struggling with what you are physically capable of doing now that we are getting so far along and what people think you can't do? It's getting so frustrating.
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Already 2023…dang. I stopped being a resolution person a few years ago when I kept letting myself down and tend to use this time of year to reset my intentions of doing things that serve me, and not someone else. That sounds selfish written like that- but I’m a huge people pleaser and have often lost myself in my 20s and early 30s trying to be or do things that are more aligned to others. Everything from fashion and what I’m reading, to what I do in my spare time, even to my own career goals. Letting go of trying to be what I think others want and focusing on what it is *I* want has been huge for me, so I’m recommitting go this focus again.
@nopegoat ugh sorry you’ve had an uncomfortable day! That was me yesterday. It seems to come and go this pregnancy.
I started off the new year by taking down Christmas decor with DH and bringing up the big baby stuff from storage in the basement. Also I currently have baby blankets in the washer - next is newborn clothing I sorted through from DS! I think nesting is starting to settle in. We have lots of holiday outfits that are totally not the right season so I’m holding onto those and selling them later on when those holidays roll back around lol. Baby toys and bottles etc are still in the basement since I have some organizing to do of cupboards and DS’s big boy toys first.
@heytallmama I don't think that sounds selfish at all. I'm also a people pleaser and once I learned to do what serves me and stop thinking about how i think others want me to show up, I'm so much happier. One thing I read that really struck me is to always show up as yourself. People want you, not multiple versions of someone ekse. If you're doing something in a way that others do it because they're successful at it, you may fail or be unhappy if it's not aligned with you and your values. I probably butcherd that but I hope I got the point across. 😅
My husband asked me while I was walking to bed last night what my goals are for 2023. He insisted that I make them before the day ends. I told him my goal is to survive.
I HATE the pressure that's put on people to make goals for the year. I think people are in many different stages of their lives and just because it's a new year, doesn't mean you need to reinvent yourself. I do think it's important to set goals, but I do it as I need, not when I'm told I "should".
I’m currently nap trapped by my son, who has been throwing up everything he eats/drinks over the past 12 hours. Poor boy is so sad 🥺 By some miracle we got into the doctors schedule for today (thanks Ontario healthcare for making this noteworthy!) so hopefully we will be able to get some fluids in him somehow.
happy and fits his personality so well ❤️ I love it.
I stopped doing actual resolutions a few years ago and instead choose a word that I want to focus on for the year. Growth is the word for this year. It may just be giving birth and growing our family but I'm hoping to also include our homesteading and my faith.
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Also I'm all of a sudden so incredibly antsy and mentally wanting to do all the nesting and prepping things. Physically I'm like, nope.
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@mamahosch Wow that’s definitely low! I looked back and my last one was 89 with my daughter. We must have really efficient sugar transport! I’ve definitely had some episodes of low sugar/need to eat NOW this pregnancy more than others at really random non meal times and I get this way during breastfeeding too.