June 2023 Moms

Hdbd

From yesterday at 16 weeks! 

Re: Hdbd

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  • @annemarie96 i've definitely also gotten a lot of comments about my body that are almost underhanded compliments more meant to put themselves down than to say something nice to me (not that comments about the size or shape of someone's body are ever "nice"). It's extremely uncomfortable, and I feel like there's a "right" answer as to how to respond, but I don't know what it is. My body has no bearing on your body, because they are inherently different bodies!! It's really difficult especially because I struggled with body dysmorphia as a teen/early 20s, and someone saying I looked small - especially if they compared me to someone else - sent me spiraling. Comments on my body itself never feel like compliments
  • @thescarletmom yes exactly, it’s like I know there must be a right answer, but I’ve been small all my life and don’t know what it is. As a kid I felt ugly and scrawny, and my family felt like I was free game for body related comments since I was consistently the thinnest. 
    And come on now, I’m puking everything up now and yes, losing weight due to not getting enough food in my body. This is not cute!! And now I should feel bad? Absolutely not!  This has been rough on me and I have zero energy most days because I can’t keep enough food down to sustain my body. I don’t care about my size, I feel terrible!
    sorry, apparently there was some more rant in me lol
  • I have only taken one picture this week and I'm not wearing pants in it so I need to take another tomorrow to post. 🙃
    @annemarie96 ugh one of my biggest pet peeves is the stupid body comments people still think it's appropriate to say. "you're so small" isn't a freaking compliment or even a neutral statement, it's destructive and harmful. 
    Not going on another MIL rant but let's just say I've been where you are too and it's so hurtful. 
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