15w1d, totally standing on my toddlers stool to get this pic because I don’t really have a cute place in my house with a mirror! Also this dress is massive and stretched out so I’m just pulling it to the side to try to show the bump better. It’s getting more noticeable! Very much not bloat now, but still kinda small.
My little sister kept saying how tiny I am and how her belly is bigger than mine even though she’s not pregnant. I felt so bad but it was hard to know what to say. I hate it when people guilt me for being small, like am I supposed to apologize?? It’s way worse when I’m pregnant too. Just constant comparison between myself and my mom and sister who are all larger than I am.
Anyway, sorry for the rant but can’t I just exist? I’m happy with my body, let’s not talk about it aaaaall the time because I can’t really say anything that helps them feel any better. What do they want from me??
@annemarie96 i've definitely also gotten a lot of comments about my body that are almost underhanded compliments more meant to put themselves down than to say something nice to me (not that comments about the size or shape of someone's body are ever "nice"). It's extremely uncomfortable, and I feel like there's a "right" answer as to how to respond, but I don't know what it is. My body has no bearing on your body, because they are inherently different bodies!! It's really difficult especially because I struggled with body dysmorphia as a teen/early 20s, and someone saying I looked small - especially if they compared me to someone else - sent me spiraling. Comments on my body itself never feel like compliments
@thescarletmom yes exactly, it’s like I know there must be a right answer, but I’ve been small all my life and don’t know what it is. As a kid I felt ugly and scrawny, and my family felt like I was free game for body related comments since I was consistently the thinnest.
And come on now, I’m puking everything up now and yes, losing weight due to not getting enough food in my body. This is not cute!! And now I should feel bad? Absolutely not! This has been rough on me and I have zero energy most days because I can’t keep enough food down to sustain my body. I don’t care about my size, I feel terrible! sorry, apparently there was some more rant in me lol
I have only taken one picture this week and I'm not wearing pants in it so I need to take another tomorrow to post. 🙃 @annemarie96 ugh one of my biggest pet peeves is the stupid body comments people still think it's appropriate to say. "you're so small" isn't a freaking compliment or even a neutral statement, it's destructive and harmful. Not going on another MIL rant but let's just say I've been where you are too and it's so hurtful.
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Also this dress is massive and stretched out so I’m just pulling it to the side to try to show the bump better. It’s getting more noticeable! Very much not bloat now, but still kinda small.
sorry, apparently there was some more rant in me lol
@annemarie96 ugh one of my biggest pet peeves is the stupid body comments people still think it's appropriate to say. "you're so small" isn't a freaking compliment or even a neutral statement, it's destructive and harmful.
Not going on another MIL rant but let's just say I've been where you are too and it's so hurtful.