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June 2023 Moms
thescarletmom
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Randoms 12/12
thescarletmom
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Let's get this bad boy started on a Monday for once 😂
Re: Randoms 12/12
Also my appointment today went well but I didn't end up getting an ultrasound because the midwife had another appointment waiting. Now I feel really sad at the prospect of having to wait another month for a scan. At least she got the heartbeat on the Doppler immediately and she was the same midwife who was there for my son's birth so it was so nice to catch up! The heartbeat was 140 so idkkkk lol. It's not as low as my son's and not as high as my daughter's so I have zero clarity haha.
I got blood drawn for my AFP screening and declined getting repeat NIPT bloodwork done, I'll just wait for the anatomy scan.
I want another boy and and girl so much I wish it was twins because there's so much good about both and people will be insufferable to me regardless of what it is lol 😂
On another random topic my partner got legitimately mad at me for telling my friends about the baby before his parents. I'm baffled by his reaction. We always tell our friends first, always, we also tell his parents later, I don't want them to know until at least the anatomy scan and the later the better. I always ask if we can keep the news to ourselves and he always tells me no so we compromise and just tell them later. Last time we told them two months before he was born. I figured we'd do the same thing this time. But he never brought up wanting to do something different and now he's actually mad at me for not telling them now? Make it make some sense.
He also knows things are super bad between them and me after the visit in October.. why did he suddenly think I was going to announce to them before my supportive friends who don't treat me like trash? Not to mention none of my friends have ever met his parents, so there's no way they'll tell them before we do so what's the issue?
I finally heard baby's heartbeat today! My midwife had to change our appointment yesterday to a phone appointment because she was worried she was getting sick. While I appreciate the caution, I was still so bummed. But I was able to run into the birth center this morning and another midwife got the heartbeat on the doppler right away! It was super strong and we could tell he was moving around a lot. I feel so at ease right now. And now to send the awkward email to my boss letting her know about my (completely unplanned) pregnancy 🤣
Yeah that's how I feel, be upset that your parents are terrible and you don't even want to tell them early on, but don't judge me for getting supported by people who consistently show up to give a shit about me. Also mad props to your husband, I feel like I don't hear those stories enough but I know the bravery it takes to grapple with having to walk away and go no contact with a parent figure.
@sunny_native14 yay that's amazing!! It never gets old hearing your baby's heartbeat for the first time! So glad it was strong and healthy!
Thank you yes I thought it was super reasonable too to tell people I've always told with no issues! not sure what he's thinking, he's fine now and hasn't brought it up again 🥴
@thescarletmom oh I remember you talking about your endometriosis before now, that's so heartbreaking but that is a good silver lining. I'm not there yet but I imagine it would be a relief to be done and move onto the next chapter and not have to think about loss anymore. My partner has never said when he's done, he's always just told me my body my choice and he supports me, he was an adopted only child but he misses having siblings and he thinks his parents did him a huge disservice.
@kalesix3 I agree with all that was said, I hope he can sort out those emotions with you and be vocal beforehand next time if he feels there's an issue!
I know how you feel though because I just had another girl dream and now I don't know anything lol.
@thescarletmom yeah same, I admire parents who are eone and done, but I can't imagine raising an only child by choice personally because I have 9 siblings and growing up we were each other's whole world and I always feel so sad that my partner never got that. The inside jokes or how you and your sibling can silently be on the same wave length at any given time, or all the memories. I made my peace with Benedict maybe being an only child but I would always be sad for him.
My partner had a decent enough relationship with his parents but it's not the same as a sibling.
Not that a condone having 10 children because I don't, but I wish my partner had a sibling at all.
@hitcj4687 those comments make me so mad. I truly can't believe sometimes how normalized it is for random strangers to have opinions on other people's family size or what sex children people have. Then I think about how my in laws won't shut up with the stupid remarks and how I don't rake them over the coals for those comments and I'm like oh it's the politeness conundrum that lets people believe running their mouth is appropriate.
Ugh. I'm sorry. Your family is beautiful and everyone else can shove it.
I have a younger brother that I mainly grew up with, my little sister was born when I was 11 and I met my older sister when I was 24. But my brother and I really leaned on each other through childhood and I couldn't have imagined going through it without him. I always think at least one sibling is nice but my older son has been an only child the last 7 years and we are very involved and hands on with him. Family dynamics are always different and I always thought siblings were a necessary part of life, but I look at my son who is never lonely or bored and I realize for some people being an only child isn't too bad! And for others it's soo lonely! I am however so grateful to be able to add a brother for Reese.
@hitcj4687 that's horrible, omg I'm so sorry. Can you speak to someone about how you were treated? That nurse sounds awful. Ugh.
I'm so glad your levels look so amazing and your meds are working exactly how they need to be, that's a relief, thyroid issues sin pregnancy are nerve wracking enough so it's good everything is stable.
@kalesix3 AMAZING! I cannot wait for those outside kicks!! What a perfect way to end your night!
And thank you, it was amazing! Of course now I'm just going to be waiting for it to happen again 🥴