Is this normal or am I rude?

livy91606 · January 2009

I am so annoyed with DH's family. I know they are excited about the baby and all, but seriously, I do not want them calling me every two seconds to come over, and I especially dont want them to if they are sick.

I am so paranoid after the pedi said to keep her away from crowds for 6-8 weeks because this is a really bad season of flu/RSV. I dont want anyone to hold her at all.

DH's grandma got pissy with us since we didn't let her hold DD after she just left the hospital visiting a sick friend. Now she is giving us guilt trips saying that DH's grandpa and her would really appreciate it if we took our newborn to the hospital to meet this friend. Ummmm.....NO!

All I want to do is lock myself in my house with my baby, and let no one else touch her.

Seattle_JiLLn · January 2009

No you are not rude, you are protecting your child. Just stand firm. Actually, tell your Dh to stand firm. Tell him to tell his family that your pediatrician said to avoid crowds and anyone who could potentially get her sick. And if they don't like it, they can just shut up about it and wait til April to see her.

Seriously though, it's your responsibilty as the mommy to do what you think is best for your baby. And you're not doing anything wrong. Stop answering the phone though!

LD&Me · January 2009

My pedi said no kisses from anyone other than DH and me. I had to tell my mom no kisses! She totally understood. Also, my dad is sick and hasn't even been able to see the baby yet. I feel bad but I think they understand.

So I don't think you're rude at all, just protecting your baby!

angluvsammon · January 2009

Not rude at all. Your DH should be the one answering the calls and standing up to them. There should be clear expectations for everyone that if they are sick they won't be seeing the baby. And they are crazy for thinking that taking a newborn into a hospital is a good idea!?! (Other than the L & D that tends to be sectioned off from the "sick" areas)

JRS72206 · January 2009

You're not rude! Don't even think about taking her to the hospital to meet some sick ol' friend! HECK NO! Who knows what she could catch. Say immediate family only and make sure they wash their hands extra good before holding her. Tell them exactly what your ped said. Say something about Mckenna having a weak amunie system...etc....Even if its not true at least they cant really "blame" you.

blueLu25 · January 2009

I have to agree w/ pp, you are def. doing the right thing! I didnt even want visitors at the birth center, I made people wait til we got home, and even then I really just wanted time to myself, to be with our new family, and to heal. Your baby needs bonding time, not trips to meet people in hospitals! Just turn your phone off or make your DH tell them no

m&m823 · January 2009

Ask them if THEY are going to be the ones up nights with her when she's sick. If they will be the ones with her at the hospital getting a spinal tap because she has a fever she caught so they could hold her? I don't think you are rude but I do think your DH needs to stand strong to them (since its his fam). Hang in there!

scarletii · January 2009

UGH! I'm sorry family is giving you so much grief! Maybe you can leave a message on your machine about visitors?? It's your baby and you know what's best. (Although, I think I would go stir-crazy not going anywhere that long!!)

iheartstuart · January 2009

Not rude at all!! ?But aahhh I feel for you. ?And my ped said to keep DD away from anyone sick or even suspected of being sick. ?MY dd had a cold at 6 weeks and it was awful to watch her suffering. ?Who would ask you to bring an infant to a hospital?? ?Thats just stupid and selfish.

Seattle_JiLLn · January 2009

You know, I would think you'd be better off giong to the mall or to parent/baby classes or something than having your grandparents over. at the mall, no one is touching the baby or kissing their face or something. You can keep them from being impacted by germs since they are all bundled up and not touching things. But when grandma comes over and puts her face in the baby's face, that's where the exposure would happen.

I dont' think yuou need to stay cooped up for 8 weeks though. But you also need to keep your own self safe - so wash hands, wipe down handles on carts at the store, etc... so you don't apss anything on to your child.

But don't stay cooped up. You'll go crazy.

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