Feeling ALONE w/ a partner

Re: Feeling ALONE w/ a partner

• yepyep2 member

  November 2022

  Relatable. I just found out I’m pregnant a little over a week ago. I’m 5w 4d. He seems frustrated with me all the time now and kind of picks fights. We had an awesome relationship before we found out! Rarely fight and now we are arguing almost daily. He just picks apart the way I do things without remorse and then gets mad at me for being upset. I start to wonder if maybe it’s the hormones making me get more upset than I should at his comments and he kind of gaslights me like “your hormones aren’t kicked in yet, you’re just being bixhy” and when I complain of my new symptoms he says it’s all in my head and there must be some other explanation. I suggested we tell his family at Xmas or New Years (I’ll be 11-12 weeks by then) and he slammed that idea down real quick because we “have to make sure it’s all going to work out first” (referring to the pregnancy). He asked that I don’t tell my friends. We tried for so long to get pregnant and suddenly It feels like he’s regretting it or telling himself it’s not true in his own mind. It’s supposed to be a happy time but We’re going to sleep angry tonight again. I just want to cry all the time I’m with him right now. I hope all this arguing doesn’t last. I would keep my baby regardless if the relationship worked out but this isn’t the happy, joyous surrounded-by-love pregnancy that I had envisioned. I thought he’d be supportive and not oppositional. I have nobody else but him as my family is out of my life now.
  
  Anyway, NO you’re not being selfish. I’m learning from personal experience that you end up questioning if it was the right decision to get pregnant when your partner turns out to be behaving the opposite of what you expected he would. We didn’t expect to feel completely alone right now and worrying about possible relationship status as well as the pregnancy and future child. While I can’t speak of your baby daddy, I will say you’ve made the right decision to have your baby no matter what happens with your man. You’re making your own little family and you should be proud of yourself. Congratulations on your pregnancy 💕.

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• expectingmommyof2 member

  November 2022

  I love this whole heartedly! Everything you said you couldn’t have it said it better thank you so much &’ congratulations on your bundle as well.. I will always choose me first &’ as a strong believer of God I know I’m protected ! 

  
  

  Your words gave be strength 

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