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HDBD 11/2

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  • nsk489nsk489 member
    16 weeks, stm

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  • scaredunpreparedscaredunprepared member
    All the itty bitty bumps!!!!!  Eeee!  Why are you all so cute!?

    Confession:  I haven't taken a single bump pic yet.  Am I still in denial?  Or do I just have really bad self image currently?  With my other 2 I was so diligent about weekly bump pics!

    I swear I don't even have a bump, I just look way fat.  I think it's depressing me.  This is my last pregnancy, so I feel like I should be taking advantage and getting all the bump pics.  But here I am, almost halfway through (my babies have both come early so far), and not 1 pic.  My sister says I look pregnant to her, but I think she is just trying to make me feel better.   

    Wahhhhh!  OK sorry that turned into a rant, but really I am just jealous of all of you and your cute bumps lol
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  • etnyahetnyah member
    @scaredunprepared totally get not wanting to take pics if you don’t like the way you look! I’m sorry you feel that way though, and some people do take longer to show. If you don’t look pregnant yet, I’m sure you will soon! And then you can take all the pictures! 

    About being diligent, I think it’s normal to not do all the things with subsequent pregnancies. Even if you know it’s your last, there’s still a “been there done that” feel to it that maybe contributes? I know I feel like that sort of, this is my last pregnancy too and while I’m trying to mostly enjoy it, there’s definitely a part of me that can’t wait to never be pregnant again. Last time I didn’t feel that way (and we were leaning towards being one and done). 

    Last time my husband took weekly bump pics of me with his professional camera, wearing the same outfit every week. He asked if I wanted to do that again and I just laughed. A quick photo with my old-ass iPhone, looking like I haven’t changed clothes in a week will do.
    DS born 2/18/2019
    DD born 4/1/2023
    Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
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  • scaredunpreparedscaredunprepared member
    @etnyah lol thanks for that.  Maybe that's part of it, I did these things and now I'm over it?  I am having such conflicting feelings and I know it's silly because it's just pictures, so I don't know why it's affecting me so much. 
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  • etnyahetnyah member
    @scaredunprepared it’s not silly if it’s affecting you! It could be a lot of different things, you also kind of got thrown right into the second trimester with no warning, from my armchair psychologist office here there’s no way that didn’t affect you somehow. 

    And maybe you feel guilty for not doing all the things for the new baby as you did for your older kids? I definitely feel that way a little. Regarding pictures specifically though, we’re not even halfway! There’s so much more time to take pictures later. Don’t force anything you don’t feel comfortable with!
    DS born 2/18/2019
    DD born 4/1/2023
    Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
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  • scaredunpreparedscaredunprepared member
    @etnyah thank you!  You are a good keyboard psychologist!  That makes me feel a lot better.  I hadn't really thought much about it, but you're right.  I still need to give myself time to get used to this all, and in time hopefully I'll sort out all the feels and be able to enjoy the pregnancy things like bump pics :)
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  • etnyahetnyah member
    edited November 2022
    @scaredunprepared you definitely look pregnant and your bump is super cute! 

    @shoogapoff I was due at the end of the month last time, on top of being a ftm I felt so anxious to get there, everyone else were already sporting cute little bumps and I just looked bloated lol. I know how you feel!
    DS born 2/18/2019
    DD born 4/1/2023
    Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
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  • scaredunpreparedscaredunprepared member
    @etnyah lol thanks.  I really just feel fat.  I think maybe most of it is in my head since I still am not having pregnancy symptoms.   Part of me is just not sure this is even real, if that makes sense?
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  • shoogapoffshoogapoff member
    @etnyah with my first baby, I was due August 1st, so I hit every milestone before anyone else! Always an outlier. And then, I gave birth at the end of July anyway! With this one, I'll probably go over and deliver in May! 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • shoogapoffshoogapoff member
    @scaredunprepared I don't feel like my pregnancy is real either. I keep reminding myself I literally have an ultrasound photo and a genetic test proving I'm pregnant. But it's still surreal. I agree with @etnyah that you look super cute!
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  • maggied26maggied26 member
    @scaredunprepared I feel exactly the same way. I feel like I just look more like I'm bloated really bad( I bloat terribly when I eat gluten). And I also cannot seem to wrap my head around this either, I feel like I'm anxiously waiting for each appointment just so I know it's real because it just isn't setting 
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  • scaredunpreparedscaredunprepared member
    @shoogapoff and @maggied26 I am so glad I'm not alone in the way I'm feeling!  Thank you ladies for sharing.  It's obviously real, but it's bizarre to me how my brain just isn't comprehending it, even halfway through!  And I think a big part of that is that having no symptoms and things going so smoothly this far are making me put my guard up.  My anxiety is saying there's no way this is real because it's too good to be true, something bad is probably going to happen....  ugh....  Why can't I just enjoy my last pregnancy 😫 
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  • MsBeachNJMsBeachNJ member
    @scaredunprepared @shoogapoff I can join you in being a bit in denial still - still haven't taken a single bump pic.. and I started taking them at like 6 weeks with my first.... #thirdchildsyndrome already?! Idk, I think I'm still waiting for it all to feel really real some how!
    TTM - EDD 4/23 - Team Green <3 
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  • scaredunpreparedscaredunprepared member
    @MsBeachNJ that's exactly how I was/am feeling!  Took bump pics starting super early both previous pregnancies, and nothing until last week this time.  I get it.
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