December 2022 Moms
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Hello everyone! I was looking through the current boards and thought it would be nice for single moms to connect! I know we all come from different stories so please share what you're comfortable with and any questions/concerns you are experiencing. I'll go ahead and start.
My names is Hana and I turned 23 a few weeks ago and discovered I was pregnant in March, EDD is Dec. 3! It was a complete surprise as the fwb I was seeing had used protection, but baby is strong and stubborn (my nausea can attest to that!). Father decided early on that he isn't ready for baby, but I'm trying not to think about him. My biggest concern right now is keeping myself and baby healthy and happy. I tried going on a few dates but think I'm going to sit out until baby comes, they're really my focus right now. That and getting myself to a more emotionally stable and secure place. I'm so incredibly thankful for all my amazing friends and family that are giving me encouragement and support through this.
My current freak-out thought is how will I care for baby after maternity leave is up (12 weeks unpaid for me). Thankful I currently live comfortably with my parents, but my best friend freaked me out yesterday asking about my baby sitting plan. Gonna need to figure out if nanny or day care is the better way to go....
My names is Hana and I turned 23 a few weeks ago and discovered I was pregnant in March, EDD is Dec. 3! It was a complete surprise as the fwb I was seeing had used protection, but baby is strong and stubborn (my nausea can attest to that!). Father decided early on that he isn't ready for baby, but I'm trying not to think about him. My biggest concern right now is keeping myself and baby healthy and happy. I tried going on a few dates but think I'm going to sit out until baby comes, they're really my focus right now. That and getting myself to a more emotionally stable and secure place. I'm so incredibly thankful for all my amazing friends and family that are giving me encouragement and support through this.
My current freak-out thought is how will I care for baby after maternity leave is up (12 weeks unpaid for me). Thankful I currently live comfortably with my parents, but my best friend freaked me out yesterday asking about my baby sitting plan. Gonna need to figure out if nanny or day care is the better way to go....
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My fwb was kind of the same (only one year though), but he pretty much decided he only wanted to stay involved with me if a baby wasn't part of the picture. Not sure why he thought I'd prioritize him first 🤔 I still want to have a respectful co-parenting relationship, but he's 21 and doesn't seem to understand that as a viable option. While I believe it's best for a child to have both parents, the parents need to be respectful and friendly towards each-other for the sake of the child. I think it's definitely more beneficial for baby if you are on good terms and separate than together and angry, or even exes and angry. Not sure if that helps. Maybe couples counseling would be good for that distrust, at least to build a better relationship for baby.
P.S. I think it's funny, Sarah is my younger sister's name!
That's great that you'll be able to have their help also😊 That's what I'm doing as well I heard there's actually a lot more remote jobs available now also.
Ah I see, that's a pretty big ask of someone. That's what I want also! Like no need to go to legal or anything but we respect each other as parents and come to agreements for times and parenting styles and such. Might be a little bit hopeful but a girl can dream😭 I agree, my parents stayed with each other even though they weren't happy and all it did was make everyone else unhappy. We were so happy when they got divorced and could focus on themselves. We've discussed couples therapy so hopefully we can do that soon and I might start some individual therapy also for piece of mind.
LOL that's funny because my older sister's name is Hannah😂
Had a romantic weekend with my ex to celebrate his promotion(lots of drinking and adult activities). Well on the final night We talked over dinner how he would be would be traveling back to Canada and that he would want us to end up living there for good(he is from Calgary job is in Quebec) and then he drops to his knee and ask me to marry him. I say no, I have my career here, my OWN home and my life is here. He tries to reason with me that I have enough time to sell my home and do all the necessary paperwork to be able to work and live in Canada. Say no again. Gets to the hotel grabs his stuff and leaves. He took a different shuttle to the airport, sat away from each other on the plane. Leave our separate ways from the airport. I made sure to change the access codes to my door locks so he couldn’t get in. We stop talking all together don’t even bother picking up/exchanging the stuff we had at each other’s place. Fast forward weeks later, after a night out with a friend, I end up with food poisoning and went to an urgent care clinic and found out that not only was it food poisoning but also pregnant. Couple days later call him up. Says he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore and that he wants a paternity test before he’ll help. I told him not to worry that I’ll never contact him ever again and that he’ll never be part of the child’s life.
there is a lot more but I don’t want to get into it
I'm Marielle and 31. I was seeing someone not seriously, but good friends for a year and a half. He never wanted kids and 4 days after getting my iud out and thinking it would take a while to get the hormones out of my system after 3 years, I got pregnant. A doctor thinks maybe the iud wasn't really working if I was ovulating that quickly. Either way, the guy I was seeing suggested an abortion and told me not to contact him again. I have a super supportive family but, of course this wasn't how I envisioned pregnancy for me. I feel like I'm grieving what I saw for myself, my child not having a dad and also losing someone important to me me. I don't know any single parents, but everyone has an opinion on how I should handle the dad situation.