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Friend loss?

twinmama89611twinmama89611 member
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So I am almost 10 weeks pregnant… with twins. This is my first pregnancy and my only pregnancy symptoms thus far is extreme fatigue. EXTREME. I work over 40 hours a week Monday-Friday. My normal day is get home at 5pm, eat, nap, wake up and shower, watch a tv show for an hour and back to bed. Weekends I have to try to get done all the chores and errands I couldn’t do all week due to being so tired after working all day.. or simply try to spend some time with my husband. I have a friend who is used to us hanging out every other week or so and she is definitely mad. I tell her I can’t hang out after work anymore because I don’t have the energy. She’s mad. I tell her I’m going to a wedding on Saturday and so that means on Sunday I will need to rest and do chores that need to get done. She’s mad. Is it normal to out grow friendships in pregnancy? Because for once this is NOT about her, and I don’t think she can handle it. She’s taking my temporary absence right now personally instead of just understanding that right now I’m going through a lot and to just let me have this time. I can’t be the same person I was 10 weeks ago. Am I in the wrong?
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  • histreasure09histreasure09 member
    Hey it’s my first pregnancy too, but I can also tell you you’re not in the wrong, your friend needs to be more understanding and when the baby comes, you’ll have even less time. If she can’t understand this, she will only make it more difficult for you! Best of luck, be as patient with her as you can but still be firm that this time is what you need! Happy pregnancy!
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  • dtalgorndtalgorn member
    Maybe your friend can be around and help you do those chores you can't manage on your own (or doing them for you while you nap. Worth asking her! If she really cares about you and wants to be in your life, she would jump at the chance to help.  

    You're pregnant with effing TWINS. Of COURSE you're too tired to socialize. But maybe she just misses you and wants to be included. On the other hand, if you tell her how you're feeling and ask for help and she doesn't jump at the chance to be involved then maybe she's just selfish. If she can't help out that doesn't bode well for your friendship, and it's not going to get better when those little bundles of joy arrive in the flesh. Just sayin'. 
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