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First time momma who’s excited AND terrified!

lagerbabylagerbaby member
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Who else is excited and terrified because they’re having their first baby, and have been completely overwhelmed by information, how many strollers are available for sale, the amount of times you have to pee, pregnancy acne (didn’t even know that one was coming at 36!!), the complete and utter exhaustion, and the thought that your life is going to be flipped upside down?!  Share your positive vibes to help me and other mommas calm down and enjoy the ride, because I for sure am having weekly meltdowns!! I’m looking at you, 2nd or 3rd+ time mommas, to tell us how awesome it is on the other side!!
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Re: First time momma who’s excited AND terrified!

  • earnshiroearnshiro member
    edited August 2022
    Following this as I’m 4w5d pregnant at 36yo. I’m excited and was terrified of the changes in life and what would happen to my body — all the discomfort during pregnancy and the delivery. Then I had a brief moment I thought I might miscarry so I swore to myself I would be happy to accept any kind of pain just to make sure the baby is healthy.

    I’m no longer scared but am still anxious of miscarrying daily. All the websites say how being over 35 is high risk. 😞 I can’t wait for the first scan to know that it’s not ectopic and to get some reassurances.
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  • momsiepopsiclemomsiepopsicle member
    I'm 40, 5w2d, and this is #2 for me. I'm also trying to stay calm about the possibility of MC (even higher for 40 than for 35), and about my risks for other complications and birth defects. I take comfort in a few things: 

    1. My cousin, who is a year younger than me just delivered her first, and while he was a few weeks early, he is healthy and thriving.

    2. My MIL had a dream around the time of conception that was eerily specific (4/29, 3:12 AM, 7 lb 11 oz, boy), which I believe was a prophetic dream. 

    3. I know that God will carry me through anything. Whether it's a loss, birth defects, or even something as mundane as having a healthy and robust teenager in the house as I approach 60 :# 
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  • radioactivetradioactivet member
    Hello! I am going to be 40 in October and just found out I am pregnant. I haven't told a soul except for my husband... So I'm just spending the weekend casually panic-reading articles and forum posts. 😆

    I am definitely worried about all sorts of things, too, so hopefully we can find some support in each other here. 

    Cheers! ❣️
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  • kbmtkbmt member
    I’m 38, and I’m 20 weeks pregnant with my first. This was a planned pregnancy, but I cannot believe the mental toll that lasted for 20 weeks! I’ve had many, many breakdowns, and have been terrified about worst case scenarios this entire time. Now that we have gotten my NIPT results, my husband’s cystic fibrosis carrier results (I’m a carrier), and the 20-week anatomy scan, I can finally think positive and get back to my normal self. No issues found. Yesterday and today, I was truly excited to go to my hip hop dance classes, had so much fun, and had so much energy. It’s been 4-5 months since I felt this way. It’s such a relief.

    I’m pretty sure this will be my first and last pregnancy. I don’t think I’ll ever want to put myself through this much stress again. 😅 
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  • momsiepopsiclemomsiepopsicle member
    edited September 2022
    @earnshiro Since we're tracking just days apart, have you had your first scan yet?
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  • momsiepopsiclemomsiepopsicle member
    Looks like it wasn't meant to be for me this time around. I miscarried today. I pray you ladies continue strong in your journey! 
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  • kbmtkbmt member
    I’m so sorry, @momsiepopsicle. 
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  • ravenhairedgirl83ravenhairedgirl83 member
    @momsiepopsicle my thoughts are with you. I think MCs are one of those things that don't get easier with age. Please take care of yourself.  <3
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  • artsymammaartsymamma member
    @momsiepopsicle I am so sorry for your loss, and I know how you may feel. We had two early MC's at the beginning of this year. And am now at 11 weeks.

    It's wild just how impactful it can be, even when you've only known about this little life for a short time. 

    Just know, you're not alone, and this is not the end of your journey. And it's ok to allow yourself to mourn. 


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  • bibliobabybibliobaby member
    edited December 2022
    I will be 38 in a couple weeks and am pregnant with my first and also freaking out. If I had been able to start younger I wouldn’t be so concerned about a MC and they stress on my body of having to try again so many times in a limited time frame. I am nervously and eagerly awaiting my first appointment since I feel some pressure on the same side all day yesterday. I have lower back issues that cause pain to transfer to my stomach but I’m freaking out that I am having an ectopic pregnancy. Just trying to focus on the fact that I’ve had no bleeding and it’s a minor constant pain that I’ve felt before and not stabbing pains. I hope I made it to the first appointment and get the a-ok like you did just so I can relax and enjoy this pregnancy. I hope you’re doing well!
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  • songsboutjanesongsboutjane member
    I’m 38 years old and this is my first pregnancy. Currently 11 weeks and anxious. At the US the dr tells me they found 2 small fibroids outside my uterus. Never had a fibroid to my knowledge before so this was kinda scary. Hoping they don’t grow any larger. 
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  • bunnieceebunniecee member
    @songsboutjane I had a similar experience, they found one pedunculated fibroid outside of my uterus for the first time during this pregnancy around 12 weeks. I was concerned at first bc they really didn’t give me much information about what that meant. They will continue to monitor it but most of the time I was told they really won’t need to do anything about it, only if you suddenly have intense pains from it. Hormones can make it grow but if it’s outside the uterus it’s less likely to cause problems during pregnancy. I’ve had a little bit of discomfort as the pregnancy has progressed occasionally but generally nothing to be worried about. They’re pretty common but most of the time they don’t require any kind of treatment. 
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