Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parentsโ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my bossโs most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, โOh, then Iโm totally at ease.โ I was constantly named โEmployee of the Year,โ with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorableโbig eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I canโt help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldnโt heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivationโฆ And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, feversโฆ I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this โdarkโ path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household choresโฆ
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration Iโve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change herโฆ
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And itโs not until evening that I remember, โOh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!โ
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesnโt negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because Iโve walked this path myself, I wonโt just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a โcompanionโ here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What youโre going through, Iโve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing controlโIโve had them all. You donโt need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiencesโnot just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls Iโve stumbled into, the tears Iโve shed, and the โsurvival wisdomโ Iโve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Momโs Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a โmomโs toolkit,โ filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those โgame-changerโ parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, Iโm applying all those skills to this new โpositionโ of Mom. I want to prove that a momโs value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightlyโperhaps even brighterโin this more complex, long-term โprojectโ of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, โSo itโs not just me.โ Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Letโs walk it together.
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Re: 38 and TTC #3
im 37 โฆ had a baby 10 years ago . Was with the dad 12 years & now with someone else whoโs 44 & wanting more kids . Iโm just so nervous Iโm too old now . Wish u all the best of luck . First month of trying . Due on tomorrow . X