1st Tri-Preparing Older Sibling(s) for the new baby

firecracker_mama · July 2022

Hi! For those who already have a child(ren), what tips, tricks, or preparation are you doing to help your child(ren) adjust to the idea of having a sibling?

I thought this could be an ongoing thread that we do by trimester since actively involving the older kids will look different as the pregnancy progresses.

firecracker_mama · July 2022

We are talking about a sibling, DS3 kisses my belly goodnight every night before bed and tell sister (??? What do you know that I don't, child?) He loves her. It's sweet. Not much else, yet.

nopegoat · July 2022

So far just trying to slowly wean and get him to sleep through the night in preparation of not needing me as much. He's a HUGE Mommas boy. He's 1 so he won't really get it. 3yr old is still pretty oblivious too. My 4 oldest already know the drill. 😅

Wishilivedinflorida · July 2022

I haven’t told my two due to history of losses and I don’t know that I would want them to know if we have a loss.

DS was 9 months when I got KU with DD so telling wasn’t a “thing” last time.

I’m praying this LO isn’t born on DS’s birthday so he doesn’t have to share!

I did ask the kids if they would ever want a baby and they both said yes the other day though! Although DD said she wanted 2 babies specifically and I am praying this isn’t a prophesy. 🤣

gravcass · July 2022

I haven't told anyone in my family yet since my partner's and my situation is kind of odd. But I've started asking her questions like "would she want a brother or sister". I'm really worried since her dad and I are not together how this baby will influence her life. She just asked yesterday why her dad and I can't live together 😭

TortugaAzul · July 2022

@Wishilivedinflorida my EDD is also my DS birthday 😅 I’m hoping he’d be happy to share if that’s the case.

And both my kids want there to be two babies so they each have one 😂 Twins run in my family so I’m kinda nervous on that one.

Wishilivedinflorida · July 2022

@TortugaAzul I’m not set on an EDD because I can’t quite remember my LMP specific day but I know it’s within a day or two of his birthday so it’s possible! I wouldn’t have “planned” it this way! And oh man isn’t it so cute when they casually mention more than one??

mama925 · July 2022

We’re just casually talking about the baby in my tummy and how it’s growing, kinda the same way we would if baby was already here. Both my kids are pretty familiar with the concepts of pregnancy and birth already so that’s covered haha 😂 watching birth videos here and there

mamahosch · July 2022

We haven’t started trying to tell DS yet, especially since we haven’t told family. I don’t want him to start rubbing my tummy and saying “baby” yet 🤣

mytrueloves · July 2022

I have 2 DDs, 9 and 3 years old. My 9 year old has been asking for a baby brother since before DD#2 was born. She has practically tracked my cycles the entire time we've been TTC and asks every month if I'm pregnant and since I didn't want any negative energy or bad vibes or whatever by lying and saying I wasn't, when she asked me I was honest. But honestly, she doesn't really care about updates or anything outside of wanting to know if it's a boy. And since we're team green this time around, she's got a long wait ahead of her. I will say that she's been very sweet and helpful since finding out, though. "Mommy, you should sit down and rest" and "I'll help you put the clothes away since you're tired", etc. I'm enjoying that side of her!

Our 3 year old, on the other hand has wanted nothing but a baby for as long as she's known what a baby is haha

Every time we've been pregnant the past 2 years, she's known. This time was no exception. She started talking to the "baby in Mommy's belly" 2 days before I got my positive. She asks every day to "see" the baby and will look at the different pictures on my apps every day, as well as carry around my pregnancy book and look at the picture of the baby at our current gestation in there. She will even sit and patiently listen to me read the description for each week. She'll grab the book off the shelf and try to show her dad when he gets home from work. She's even already asked me if she can be there when the baby is born haha
She also keeps telling me there's 2 babies in my tummy, but I think that's because she wants a baby sister and DD#1 wants a baby brother and that's her solution, one of each lmao

As far as preparing her goes, when we're further along I'm going to get her some books about being a big sister to read together. Right now I'm focusing on the final stages of potty training her (mostly getting her to wear underwear instead of being bare buns all over the place). And when we get back from vacation we're going to start working on getting her to stay in her own room at night since she still comes crawling into bed with us every night. Since she wants the baby to sleep in her room with her, I think it'll create a nice incentive for her.

marebear15 · July 2022

I have told my DD1 yet, and am waiting until our first ultrasound. She's 4, so as soon as she knows, everyone around her will know, and we're not ready to make this baby known to the world. She's been asking for "another brother" ever since I had DS a year ago, because in her mind, she has her sister, and therefore baby brother needs another brother. I hope her dreams come true!

muggsd · July 2022

I’ve only told my oldest (4yo) and she’s very excited. We tried to tell her not to say anything to anyone else just yet, but I have my doubts that she’ll remember! My younger two are 2yo and 10m so they don’t get it. I’m hoping the 2yo will absorb enough that when the time comes it won’t be too shocking.

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