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Parenting after 35
nerrrty
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Debating on another
nerrrty
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Hey. First Post. In a nutshell i had my daughter at 33 and had a host of issues during pregnancy. I developed pericarditis with effusion which was fluid on my heart. I had pluresy... Sepsis.. Pneumonia... All related to the issues with my heart. The doctors never knew what flared it. It did go away but i faced my mortality when i was about 28 weeks. I thought we'd both die. My cardiologist said i CAN try again it MAY Not happen and I would be intensely monitored but i am scared. She is 4 in October and i have just turned 37. My implant runs out in September and i am so torn between not having another and just going for it. Also... Aside from the terrible experience i had i also have qualms about being an older mum. Don't know fully why... I just hoped i would have had my kids earlier. I know there is more risks associated. Bit of a ramble but keen to hear from other mums who've for one had difficult pregnancies and gone on to have more. And two older mums 35+ if i tried again end of the year.... Id likely be 39 when baby was born if i caught easily. Thanks for reading. I appreciate it
Re: Debating on another
Sorry noone has answered this and I'm commenting to also read if anyone has went on to have more in their late 30s/early 40s.
I had a difficult birth experience with mine and he is nearly 6 months now. I am 39 and I'm debating on another one. I really want to, but with the difficulty of the first birth, I have many doubts about going forward with another.
I want to read some stories of hope..I know everyone's can be different and one does not equal another, but it would be that comfort to think "maybe it would not be a mistake for me".
Hopefully there will eventually down the road be more life in this group, and many others that on this site.