Weekly Randoms w/o 6/13

tessiesmom26 · June 2022

Here is our place to have random chats throughout the week!

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

Just thought I'd jump in here with a convo prompt, since our randoms thread is a little quiet.

What "trivial" thing are you going to miss most during your pregnancy?

I think I'll miss wine and the social aspect of drinking generally. Especially during the first trimester where I'll be hiding out from virtually everyone because I don't want them to suspect or know yet. I remember during my first pregnancy, I'd order a glass of wine at the bar at my social club and my best friend would drink it. It probably says more about me and the ingrained "drinking culture" I'm used to, but I will miss it!

tessiesmom26 · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 I am right there with you. It's my birthday today and I would typically have a drink or two tonight to celebrate.. I am fine not drinking, but it sucks that much more in the summer time.

I also miss deli meat. I know that I can cook it up, but with the growing popularity of the charcuterie board, I am going to miss munching on those time summer and holidays as well!

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

@tessiesmom26 Happy, happy birthday!! Hopefully you can celebrate with cake, instead of a drink? It isn't the same, but cake...

In truly random news: I'm sooo lonely today. MH and I both work from home and he is usually my only IRL companion during the day. But he's traveling for work all week, so I haven't had a grown up to talk to since daycare drop off this morning.

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

OMG. Is it too early to blame "pregnancy brain"??? I just posted all over the December 2022 board like a moron!

Paturkey · June 2022

Happy birthday @tessiesmom26!!! Sorry you can't toast the occasion but cake sounds like a good alternative.

I will also miss the cured meats and wine. When my nieces asked me what three foods and one drink I'd bring with me on a desert island I said: salami, cheese, bread and wine 😁 Charcuterie boards are my life.

@LaceyBee522 Sorry you're on your own today. You at least have us to chat with.

kelsdoogs · June 2022

Happy birthday @tessiesmom26!
I'm there with you on the drinking. My not so little brother is getting married on the 25th and we have a cruise coming up in July (we always get the drink package and we were planning to go scuba diving). I'm also a big advocate and daily "user" (I hate that term but I enjoy smoking and edibles so I guess it's the best way to put it) of cannabis - it's medically legal here in MD but certainly not enough research on cannabis and pregnancy. Better to be safe than sorry but I am missing my daily j to de-stress.

For my brothers wedding I'm planning to drink soda water w/ lime and hold glass of champagne for the toasts... our family and friends would be super suspicious if they see me without a drink and I don't want to take away from his day by sharing our news, plus it's still early

clairea92 · June 2022

I'm right there with you all missing my charcuterie boards, I'm the one in the friend group who makes them for events and next time I'm called upon it's going to be painful to not get to enjoy it 😭 I'll have to add in some goodies I can enjoy.

I'm just trying to speed up time to my first sono appointment. We thought my husband wouldn't be able to be there because of a work trip but it's been cancelled so he can come which is exciting! I'm just so impatient lol

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

@clairea92 will you come to my house and make the charcuterie board?? I too am the one who does it for my group, but I feel like they always taste better when someone else does it.

Sorry to rant, guys - but the Facebook threads are going to throw me over the edge. It is beyond me why you'd want to invite a bunch of internet strangers into a Facebook group where they'd have access to all your private info and pictures and family, etc. OMG - am I an old lady yelling at a cloud????

Paturkey · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 oooooooo I am WITH YOU on the FB posts. Maybe, if we're still here and not psychos in like. Nov or Dec? Maybe then I'd consider transitioning?? But right now I will decline with a respectful, "Absolutely not." I imagine that those starting them are fishing for info rather than being actual pregnant ladies but apologies if any of you are real people that are trying to connect. ::shrugs in crotchety old lady::

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

@Paturkey if they in fact are real people who want to connect, why not just do it here??

Also, sorry to everyone if my board policing is annoying. Let me know and I'll back off. My motivation is that if we keep it organized now, then it will stay that way throughout - like precedent setting. But if that isn't want the majority wants, I can back it off. No promises on the FB posts, though. Hahaha!

tessiesmom26 · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 I'm all for the board policing! I was doing it at the beginning but sometimes I miss things. I also posted on a thread last week that completely disappeared? Someone was asking how far along they were but never got a positive HPT test.. I'm like ummm? I agree that if the president is set now, we will be better set up down the road.

Also, no thank you to random FB groups now. I'm all for switching towards the end, but not now!

emeraldisle17 · June 2022

With you @LaceyBee522, thanks for moderating! I've never seen a FB invite post this early (nor from multiple users) so something seems fishy to me. I remember slowly joining my first BMB and feeling like the board policing was overkill, but have come to appreciate it as there really is a method to the madness - for any newbies out there who feel intimidated!! (and don't be

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clairea92 · June 2022

Definitely agree with your takes on how to keep it organized @LaceyBee522 and @tessiesmom26 ... way more comfortable chatting here for now! I hardly use FB anyway lately besides keeping up with family members on there

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

Heading in for my second blood draw now. FX for a 234 or better.

kristinl492 · June 2022

Definitely gonna miss booze lol. It’s hard in the summer with all the usual socialization and hot weather. A cold glass of wine in the evenings is so nice. I’ll also miss my weekly hot yoga class. With the high temps and how much it raises your core temperature, it’s not advised during pregnancy.

I’m also not down with the super early FB group. I’m sure you’re all lovely, non-murderous/stalker people, but I’d like to get to know you a little better first.

angbaby83 · June 2022

I miss coffee. I know we’re allowed some caffeine but for me I just cut it out for the most part. Otherwise I would just be taking in too much. Also right now I’m so nauseous in the mornings it doesn’t even sound good.

Also count me in the no Facebook groups right now. Most people don’t even end up sticking around. And yes to more organization. I hate all the random threads with questions that only apply to one person. You can find that elsewhere if that’s what you want. I love connecting with everyone.

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

Hey guys - sorry for being MIA today. I had to take the twins to their eye doctor for a check up which is about two hours away (joys of rural living....I miss the city!).

Update on me, my bloodwork came back late yesterday and I'm at 270. Woohoo!! I'm so relieved. FX things keep going up. No more bloodwork until next Thursday.

I hope everyone had a good day!!

cpk3535 · June 2022

Hey everybody! I’m fully in support of keeping this board organized and trying to keep the group primarily here versus Facebook for the time being. I followed a group to Facebook at the end of last pregnancy and it went pretty well, but it definitely fell off.

On my little soapbox for a sec, I would love to keep the random postings to a minimum. It’s so hard to follow everybody on these isolated little threads, and the list of postings already looks super long! It might just be my annoying organizing skills from my communications background, but that’s my thinking on it. So far, I’m really enjoying this group and I want to read everything and keep up with everybody a little bit smoother. Sorry if I sound like I’m complaining… Thanks, all!!

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

@cpk3535 Yes. I'm with you. All the one-off posts are driving me crazy! Also, why are so many people not changing their Knottie name? @tessiesmom26 made it very easy with pinned instructions. Like, come on!

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

Guys, I need some advice. I'm just 4 weeks 2 days and I'm not ready for people IRL to know I'm pregnant yet because of the loss of risk. I'm including my mom and dad because it just feels too early to tell them. I'm going over to their house for dinner tonight in which drinking wine will be expected.

Does this sound believable: I'm going to just tell them it is too hot/I'm too tired for wine, so I'm going to drink vodka sodas. Then I'll make them myself and just not really pour in the vodka.

In my mind, this seems like a brilliant plan. But it is it totally obvious???

cpk3535 · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 I had to do the same thing this last week with my parents, who I’m not telling for a while either. We’ve been staying with them and it’s been a little hard to avoid. I’ve slyly babysat drinks until my dad just decided to take them from me and finish them, lol. Or just say you’ve been feeling dehydrated and need to stick to water. You know how to best trick your folks- go with your gut and act your a$$ off! 😆😊

angbaby83 · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 I’m no help. I’ve already told my mom because I tell her everything. Also after having kids I don’t drink much so if I’m not drinking it’s not unusual. But I agree with @cpk3535 go with the dehydration excuse. It’s so hard in these early days when you don’t want to tell anyone. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

LaceyBee522 · June 2022

@cpk3535 and @angbaby83 thank you! I'm going with my plan and hopefully it goes unnoticed. I'm sure she'll start wondering what's up soon. I just want to hold off on telling her and my dad and my in-laws until at least after the first scan and we ensure viability.

emeraldisle17 · June 2022

I'm in the exact same boat @LaceyBee522 - it's so tough! I'll be with my in laws at their lake house this weekend for Father's day and it will 100% be obvious if I'm not drinking wine. Unfortunately I pretty much only drink wine so it would be stranger to make myself a cocktail. Since this is my third I'm really so over pretending, but I'm also not ready to share. I usually don't like to drink until after the kids are in bed so that will hold them off until 8ish. Then i'm just going to pretend sip from time to time (probably steal a sip here and there for effect) and pour some down the drain / take it with me to the bathroom every chance I get. I always ask DH to steal some sips but he forgets and has his own wine so that never usually works

I feel like if my MIL catches on (and she very well might) that's fine; unless I confirm anything it's just her speculation. I'm definitely not sharing with my MIL before my own mother!

kristinl492 · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 that sounds like a good plan! There are a fair amount of nonalcoholic wines on the market too, so maybe that’s an option?

I’m sort of unwillingly telling my parents tomorrow, despite barely being 4 weeks. We’ve had standing plans to go to a brewery with them to celebrate Father’s Day. I’m driving, but it would be WEIRD for me to not even have one, because it’s my favorite brewery. My mom figured out I was pregnant with my first son the second I refused a drink at a family function, so we decided to just risk telling them early and getting to surprise them vs having them guess. We are very close and they do know about my previous CP, so if something happens, I’m okay with them knowing.

seeds_of_joy · June 2022

I'm gonna miss fitting in my clothes. But I'm super excited that my old lady saggy boobs will plump back up...for a couple years.

laurenmicheley · June 2022

@LaceyBee522 100% agree and thought that was weird. I almost didn’t do an intro when I saw that post. In my last BMB we didn’t create a FB group until the month we were due. We took time to build relationships and trust before crossing that line. I have to say that it worked out perfectly. We’ve never have any conflicts or strange behaviour to date.

knottied4178e130d679c45 · June 2022

Anyone have an idea why my doctor would have said no exercise/ pelvic rest this week?

St0v3s · June 2022

I’m going to miss medium steaks the most…my husband is convinced it will give me a tap warm 😩🙄

lolly-pop · June 2022

knottied4178e130d679c45 said:

Anyone have an idea why my doctor would have said no exercise/ pelvic rest this week?

Did you have any spotting? I know my sister was put on a rest regiment when she spotted until they could rule out placenta praevia, since praevia increases the risk of a major hemorrhage.

Also, are you able to send your doctor a message (via a secured messaging program like MyChart), and ask? Knowing why you were put on pelvic rest sounds like an important thing to know. 😁

runningyogimama · June 2022

@St0v3s Wait - what?!? This is my 4th pregnancy, and while I was a vegetarian for 2 of them, I’ve never heard that! We are only supposed to eat well done steak during pregnancy? That’s blasphemy, ha! I literally had a medium steak last night since I grilled steaks for DH for Father’s Day.

ETA: googled it, and it just needs to be 145 degrees (so thoroughly cooked meat) - our medium steaks were definitely that! No reason to only eat over-cooked (because that’s anything over medium, ha!) steak!

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