TTC July 2015-November 2015
BFP November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Re: Large Age Gaps Between Siblings
What are you looking forward to with the age gap?: I am just looking forward to my son being a big brother. I know he is going to be such a big help.
Anything else you want to add:
I say I know he is going to be such a big help but I feel strongly about not making this baby feel like a responsibility to him. My sister and I are 5.5 years apart (I am older) and I was never made to feel like I had to take care of her.
Also, we had a loss last year that my son knew about. He seemed excited that time around. We haven't told him this time but, when asked, he insists he doesn't want a brother or sister so I am nervous for how he is going to react.
I am also nervous about juggling all of his activates with a baby in tow. My husband works nights so a lot of the running is on me.
I know it will all work out just fine.
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Age of other child(ren): My oldest son is 9 and my youngest son is 7.
What are you looking forward to with the age gap?: When I had my second, my older son wasn't even two yet, so that was a huge challenge. He was pretty scared of the new baby and I was exhausted. I'm glad they are older so that 1.) It's less confusing for them, and 2.) They are a little more self sufficient!
Anything else you want to add: I am worried about the age gap and how they will bond with the new baby. I'm also hell-bent on not making them feel less than while doting on the baby...
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
What are you looking forward to with the age gap?: I am really excited for my daughter to become a big sister. She has been wanting a sibling for a long time--not in a persistently asking kind of way, but in a sweet, excited "do you think we'll get a baby one day?!" ("get" a baby ) kind of way. I think she'll get to appreciate a sibling more than she would have at a younger age, and I'm (naively?) hopeful that the gap will mean less jealousy/rivalry. I also can't imagine having had two kids at any point before this, so even though it feels like starting over, I think it was right for us. And I'm glad we'll get to focus on each of them a bit more individually rather than having them together in activities, etc. since they'll be at such different ages/stages.
Anything else you want to add: I've been pregnant two other times in the past year, and both times, my daughter has seemed to know. Like I said above, she doesn't constantly (or even frequently) ask for a sibling, and when she does, it's very vague. But the two times I've been pregnant, she's said something very matter-of-fact along the lines of "I think you've got a baby in your belly" and it's caught me off guard. We didn't tell her either time, which I'm thankful for--she would've been crushed--and we'll probably wait until the 12-week genetic testing comes back (since I'm 35) to tell her this time around. But I'm secretly waiting/hoping for her to say something prophetic like that again--and for it to work out this time!
And YES! I am so happy there are a few others who can relate here in this BMB.
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
Age of other child(ren): DD is 5, will be 6 on my EDD. (I also have a DS who is 1.5, so I don't think that qualifies as a huge gap 😆).
What are you looking forward to with the age gap?:
Well my DD is already such a great big sis. I'm hoping that she will be able to share in the excitement of the pregnancy but still be secure in her first-born position, and know that she is still loved and this baby won't take anything from that - just another sibling to hang out with!
Like others, we won't tell her until I'm ready for the world to know. Likely after 12wks at least! I really hope she's excited this time too.
Anything else you want to add:
I have been intentional recently about 1 on 1 time with DD. We did a date night shortly before I got KU, all it took was some chicken tenders and some ice cream and she had the best time. I hope to keep those semi regular. Once my DS is bigger I will need to be intentional about time with him too, but right now he takes up so much of my time anyway that I don't need to go out of my way. 😅 I know it will be harder with 3 kids but just as important to give them each the time they deserve.
@ReadyForaB Pardon my ignorance but what is zumbini?
Age of other child(ren): Daughters will be turning 8 and 6 this year.
What are you looking forward to with the age gap?: The ability for the older siblings to step in to help out with baby when needed and be more mature for their age. My oldest is very sensitive and still cries about something (even very minor things) every single day.
Anything else you want to add: I’m debating on when I should tell my mother that I’m pregnant, given that she thinks we were done a long time ago, after the second one. On top of that, my father just passed away two months ago so she/we are still grieving and I feel like I have to find the right time to tell her without stressing her out but I have no clue when that right time would be!
*Edited to add* Ugh, I changed my screen name but it doesn’t look like it’s working because my posts are still showing up as “knottie”.
TTC July 2015-November 2015
Baby boy born August 2016
Oops BFP February 2021
MMC March 2021
Back on BC for a year to decide what we want to do.
TTC Since March 2022
MMC June 2022
BFP September 2022 - Due June 2023!
I don’t care about that, we have her to help when she’s available and if something happens to us the baby has an older sibling to look after him/her.
Me too! My kids are 21 18 11 8 and now we're expecting twins!