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The guilt with baby crying

nicademus20nicademus20 member
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Very long story short, mine was an emergency c-section due to preeclampsia HELLP, at 36 weeks. I was in the hospital 5 days, my little one for 2 weeks in the nicu. 
I find I have this guilt when my little one cries. I still find myself crying because he cries and I think it has to do with one incident from the nicu in particular..

I was visiting him and he had draped across him the "Hug glove" which is a weighted glove they put on babies when they are inconsolable. 
The nurse told me he was a fussy boy before I arrived. 
I broke down, and still cry thinking about it--
He needed something, and I wasn't there. 
He needed me, and I wasn't there. 

Now, my LO is 2 months old, and I find when he cries, I get emotional sometimes. 
Sometimes unsure what to do, or if it is just growing pains. That feeling though as he cries is like all the times I left because I actually had to feed myself or not sleep in the chair there..

What are your experiences when your LO cries?
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Re: The guilt with baby crying

  • yumdevincenziyumdevincenzi member
    edited May 2022
    @nicademus20 When my LO would cry I would just get this immense feeling of anxiety that I didn’t recognize at the time but was PPA.  It wasn’t so much guilt feelings just nervousness. If I couldn’t stop her crying then I would begin to feel like I wasn’t cut out to be a mom. I just had to learn that babies cry sometimes, that’s just what they do ❤️ So as long as she wasn’t hungry, sleepy, and there was no dirty diaper then comfort and cuddles was all that was left to do ❤️ Allow yourself grace and just take it one minute, one hour, and one day at a time!!! 
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