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Advice for Hiding Pregnancy at a Bachelorette Weekend!

jacquie456jacquie456 member
in December 2022 Moms
Help!
I'm going away on a Bachelorette Weekend at just 7 weeks! Obviously way too early to tell a large group of friends. In fact, it's forcing our hand to tell our parents even sooner than we feel comfortable (this coming weekend at 6 weeks) just IN CASE my friends figure it out. We are all staying at an Air B&B, drinks will be flowing, there's a hot tub, AND we are spending a whole day at a Scandinavian style spa, which is filled with saunas, hot tubs, and plunge pools. LOL basically a pregnant woman's nightmare and all the stuff on the "Definitely Can't Do" list, especially for someone not ready to reveal! I'm also worried about hiding symptoms... nausea has not kicked in yet, but from what I am reading - it's coming in hot!

What do I do?! Anyone been in a similar situation where you have to hide it over a whole weekend in close quarters with other people? Even more specifically, anyone have any idea what I can do at this spa while everyone else is drinking in the hot tubs and lounging in saunas? 🤣😭

P.S. Not going at all isn't really an option.

Thank you!! This is my first pregnancy so I am a total newbie!
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Re: Advice for Hiding Pregnancy at a Bachelorette Weekend!

  • knottie_knottie1knottie_knottie1 member
    These are your options that I see:
    1) You could tell the group
    2) You could tell whomever your closest with who's going and ask them to support you if people are trying to peer pressure you
    3) You could give an excuse for why you can't participate in XYZ activity such as you don't feel well, you're getting a mani pedi instead of going in the sauna, and there's already sooooo many people in the hot tub
    4) You could bring non-alcoholic wine or beer for you
    5) You could not go and send your apologies and a gift

    Good luck! 
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  • knottiee319e9f109bffecaknottiee319e9f109bffeca member
    A bunch of women will surely find out or at least suspect something. I would totally skip it or make up an excuse about some medical condition I have barely recovered from and taking some medication that I can't mix alcohol with. 
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  • talldecafcappuccinotalldecafcappuccino member
    Is it possible to be direct about it and just say you don't want to? Maybe if you don't make a big deal about it, they won't? Also direct the attention back into the bachelorette. It's their celebration after all! 

    But a possible cover story... I've heard before that you shouldn't use hot tubs, saunas, or drink alcohol if you are on antibiotics. And antibiotics can sometimes make you nauseated which can cover some symptoms too! And if the antibiotics is for a fake UTI or something they can't see, and also more reason to not want to go into a hot tub. 

    I hope you find a way to enjoy the weekend and maintain your privacy. Let us know how it works out!
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  • jacquie456jacquie456 member
    Thanks very much for this advice! I half expect my cover is going to be blown, which makes me a little anxious at this early stage... but these are all women who are friends, and a few of them are already mothers. They get it. I'm going to try my best to hide it using some of these great suggestions... and if someone figures it out... oh well, I suppose!
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  • jacquie456jacquie456 member
    Thank you! Good advice! Yes, my closest friend who I am driving up with and likely sharing a room with is definitely going to be told... just waiting til after this weekend when I at least tell my parents! 
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  • jcapor21jcapor21 member
    Sinus infection? Google a picture of a positive Covid test & stay home? lol. Good luck!

    We had to tell our families earlier than we wanted because I am so sick & they want to go to an all you can eat seafood buffet on Mother’s Day. I’d probably die from the smell. Strange times 
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  • AffectionatelyallieAffectionatelyallie member
    Just tell them, you won’t regret their support if something does happen! 💕
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  • jacquie456jacquie456 member
    Thanks for this! :)
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  • brennybirdbrennybird member
    a side note on the nonalcoholic beers and wines—even ones marketing no alcohol may have a small percentage, so maybe swap the labels on some root beer/ginger ale or fill single serve wine bottles with grape juice if you’re really in it to win it with fake drinking 😅
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  • erin_beeerin_bee member
    Hi! I recently went to a family wedding including pre and post wedding events that included a lot of drinking and I was worried because I figured it would be a dead giveaway if I didn’t order wine with dinner (since that would be very unlike me). As I was only 5 weeks at the time, now 7, I ordered sparkling water with lime because it looks like a cocktail and no one knew otherwise. I ordered a glass of wine with dinner but just never touched it and everyone was visiting and chatting so I don’t think they knew anyway. On the post wedding event day I just had water and said I had enough to drink the day before so was taking the day off of having more drinks. I’m not sure whether anyone suspected anything but it didn’t seem like it and I didn’t miss out on any of the events! Not sure if any of these strategies would help but good luck!
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